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"DTA Frank, DTA"

Hello Coch,

I like your assessment, "I could respect a person I don't love, but could never love a person I don't respect"

Also....

Once trust is broken, it's like a broken mirror... irreparable.


But....


I have to wonder with the second statement. If we have done things in our past that were untrustworthy, how can we hold people to such high standards of being trustworthy?

Just some food for thought...


The saying, "He who has not sinned, cast the first stone" comes to mind.

Don't get me wrong,

I am the same way...once trust is lost...it is gone. But, maybe I am being unreasonable?

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Good stuff LM & Pepps.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Pepps, I can tell you would make a great leader. :)

"DTA Frank, DTA"

See.....for us single men....we "need" women in our lives.

Do we "want" them, that is another question.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Pepps...


This is about the 2nd time you said something to me that helped me see an issue I have. You are right about putting the cart before the horse. I am having all this trust-fear....before I should even be fearing trust. <- great observation Pepps!

"DTA Frank, DTA"

EK,

That is precisely why I broke off my relationship. I thought to myself, who am I to keep her from what she wants in life.

However.....after I learned more about things....


.....keep her from what she 'thinks' she wanted in life.

RE: Gentlemen, The Secrets To A Happy Relationship

and one more for good measure....


When you are home, you are not allowed to think.

RE: Gentlemen, The Secrets To A Happy Relationship

You forgot....jump when she says jump.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

...and because of that....


trust is not that important anymore.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Now days LM, women do not need a man for that "survival benefit."

I am not sure it really is that simple anymore.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

LM....maybe I don't feel like dancing like a fool. I know....maybe I am just making more excuses. :)

"DTA Frank, DTA"

EK,

I like what Pepps wrote about how trust is developed in a relationship. Like she says, as time progresses, we know or feel whether or not we can trust them. But like I asked Pepps, can we ultimately trust them in the end?

However....like LL pointed out, maybe we should not be too concerned with trusting every little thing....and let things unfold as they are meant to.

Maybe....we should not "expect" to trust anybody....but just go with the flow until the lack of trust is shown to us.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

LM,

I get what you are saying....I am essentially denying my own human nature to myself....and what you say does make sense.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Pepps,

You are right, that is how trust is eventually cultivated. However, when trust has been gained, can you really trust them?

"DTA Frank, DTA"

L.L.,

Absolutely! At minimum, I am in no hurry to just jump into any relationship.

But... Maybe I should start dabbling.


Maybe all this online stuff is hindering me? Maybe, I have got all I could get out of this online stuff?


I know, in moderation...:)

"DTA Frank, DTA"

LM....maybe some reverse psychology is needed here. :)

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Ek,

You bring up some interesting points.


I agree, trust is a two way street. You say, you only will give somebody trust if they trust you. What happens if they are the same way? It is like the chicken and the egg scenario.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

L.L.,

I question that saying....it is better to love than to never been loved at all.

Well, I can say I have been loved....and very greatful for that.


Some people can become involved in a meaningful relationship and leave it without too much of a problem. Others (I read around 10%) of people can leave a relationship but the negative emotions stay with them a lot longer. Unfortunately, I think I am one of those longer lasting dwellers. :(


But....can I believe what I read?


I really do not know if I am ready at this point in my life for another relationship. I really am enjoying what I got going on right now. I am sure when the right woman shows up, I will know it.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Do I what Pepps? Don't be bashful now at this stage.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Robert....

Nice to see you too. It has been a little longer since I seen you around.

You are right. We do need to trust others. I will admit, I am a very trusting person....maybe too trusting as I was once told. However, when it comes to trusting somebody with my heart again....hmmmm. The jury is still out on that.

I know, is that really the way to be? Well, if I was not genuinely okay with my single situation in life right now, I would say, it is not the way to be. But, I am okay being single...at least at this point in my life.

Maybe that is why people these days just want FWB, one night stands, etc.....maybe they don't want to give their hearts to somebody else?

I don't know.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Yeah....about 3 hours away from you is almost too long for me.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Pepps,

I should add:

That some of us have a price for our trust might be higher or lower than others'.

"DTA Frank, DTA"

Pepps....

Nice to see you. You see what I think about trust.

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

CH...is there ever a night that I do not manage to embarrass myself? I am somewhat immune to that now. So, it was not me. :)


Enjoyed your fun blog. I need to get going now.

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

Pepps.....you seen all my comments last night. They were as harmless as a fluttering butterfly on a sunny spring afternoon in a beautiful Tulip flower field.

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

CH....the hair on my chest is also next to Saintly.

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

Pepps,

I only claimed to be next to Saintly. This has been a very sad blog for me....

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

CH.....

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

hmmm.....can anyone here say reverse psychology?

RE: What The Heck Happened? Why was it deleted ?

Pepps.....you might be right.


I had a woman once tell me, "You are no Saint."