A real gentleman would pay for the dinner but as told before there's just a few left of those. And for a fact in a lot of european countries men don't mind if the woman pays for dinner or lunch, as well as woman don't mind to do so. But on a first date, meeting, I think most of the woman would like it that men pay, just to feel special for one day. And I think that has to do with the feminist thing Crowler was talking about
French are not such gentlemen as the world likes to believes, or as they like us to believe. They behave from the start as greece behave after marriage
ofcourse we should try to understand and be tolerant, but in order to do so, we must know before. Normal everyday things for one can be totally different for the other, as also counts for social behavior, and the way people treat each other. And thats all different stories in all the countries around. Does not mean you cannot meet in the middle, as long as we know and talk about it
I think a lot of people, when they hear the word soulmate, think it has to do with being religious and God. I,m not religious but I do believe in God, the Universe. I believe but not totally depend on, cause we get opportunities but have to work them out ourselfs, so if things go wrong there's no one to blame but ourself. Calling it soulmate, your other half, twinflames, buddy, best friend, the perfect person, the right one, it's just names. For me a soulmate is someone who gives you the feeling you come home, be safe, no matter what, and yes, losing that after 30 years also feels like losing your other half. After a while you find out it's not the other half, it's the twinflame you lost, cause my soul is still the one it has been always, but now missing the company of a buddy, a best friend. I don't believe in finding the perfect person, cause they don't excist, nobody is perfect. But I do believe there is an other right person, somewhere, who wants to be my next soulmate. Cause, sure, there's more then one around the globe. Wanting a perfect marriage is an illusion, cause there is no such thing either. The closest definition for me on that is, being respected, safe, comfortable and satisfied with what you have and the feeling you want to hold this for ever. I think I call this love.
Arapaho, I think you missed my point. wasn't talking about people like you, who had there share of life, but just about me being bored of all the boring conversations on here about being bored? I too had my share and watched people die for the last 10 years, not only watched but also took them in my home so they did not have to die alone or in a home, inluding my dad, father and mother in law, and some real close friends. I work in a hospic and travel with those people to the gates of heaven because I think no one should walk that road alone. I always felt strong and privileged to do so, till my husband, for 30 years, suddenly died, in a blink of eye, gone, and all alone. It was then I realised I could do all this things because of him, backing me up, being there no matter what. I still do all this things but feel different, not bored, but lonely at times cause what you say is true, society is not waiting for the ones who,ve been out of sight for a while. I fly back and forward from the US to Holland, Europe, cause I have kids in both countries, my heart is in the US and I want to be there, but thats not always possible, and the time I spend in Holland feels waisted, but instead of allow myself to feel bored or alone I try my very best to get where I want as fast as possible, and yes its hard and not alway easy, I do understand you completely, but one has to try cause otherwise people are going to avoid you, thats what I learned, and thats even worse. I,m sorry if I hurt your feelings, didn't mean to, and sure do hope you can find some strenght to see at least your worth fighting for and be happy again Take care
As I stated before, being bored is a luxury problem many people have these days, specially the younger ones among us. Take their laptop and cellphone and they are lost souls wandering around. Don't know how to connect these days without their devices, how to communicate. On the other hand, its not all their fault I think, its the world we live in and the way parents do. Most of us want our children to have anything we never had, and therefore think they create happy people, the opposite is what happens. I do remember the day we got a T.V I was 13 years young and it had 1 channel and 1 broadcast, saturday evening. I also remember the day we got telephone connection, I was 19, and that only happend because my dad was real sick, we lived among farmers in the country, and we need to have that incase... otherwise it would have taken a lot more years I,m sure of that. And its not only the younger ones, I know a lot of people that live with their phone glued on their ears, afraid to miss????????? I,m glad my kids do value the things they have and do have time for others, less fortunate, they know the importance of real connection and I,m proud of them. And ofcourse not all thing where better in the old days.
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RE: Cultural differences
A real gentleman would pay for the dinner but as told before there's just a few left of those.And for a fact in a lot of european countries men don't mind if the woman pays for dinner or lunch, as well as woman don't mind to do so.
But on a first date, meeting, I think most of the woman would like it that men pay, just to feel special for one day.
And I think that has to do with the feminist thing Crowler was talking about