Hey Zman - I have to confess it's one of my favorite past times to sit and watch the streets here in Indonesia with a beer in hand. It wouldn't surprise me if one day I saw an elephant on a space hopper piggy backing a drunk three legged giraffe who had just come from a fancy dress party in Kuta......
St Elmo - That sounds like one cool pad to hang with your friends and a pool 20 meters away? Brilliant! It sounds like you have a pretty rounded social life which suggests a pretty rounded bloke. (Around the waist? ) Kidding.
dedovix - Dedovix sounds greek so I dare say there's a few toga parties that get out of hand. You must extend an invitation to your new online friends to your next robeless function.
funlaugh - That drinking while online can make a man sound like he has ten personalities. Can't be bad for a dating site.
Hey viking - What is it that you find difficult about socializing on the net? Are you just by nature an observer and prefer to hang back and watch, or are there other reasons?
Does a person actually have to communicate to be classed as socializing, or is just the act of being there enough?
I've actually been sat at a bar late in the night with five or six people partaking in a little top shelf when one fellow patron, an off duty bar maid, questioned the quality of our liquor causing everyone to order a shot glass of their chosen spirit to taste for authenticity.
We were ALL drinking cheap plonk but too drunk to notice. Suffice to say the lone bar owner had to throw a bit of cash around to keep us from standing him on his head and filling him full of his product via an opening not designed for drinking.
THIS JUST IN Uruguay sees enormous spike in tourism interest - airlines buy more planes to cater to the huge influx of hippie mungbeans flying in from all over the world. Parliment too stoned to care.
Hey there Cailin - "Happiness" is over rated." You sound like the moody artist. And you're going in there pretty deep with a unique, more subjective approach to the subject, I guess, maybe. Thanks for contributing to the blog.
Andie - I am kind of going the other way the more I think about it and do indeed believe the more intelligent you are the happier some might be. I guess we'll have to disagree and have a beer and discuss it further.
kittyjoy - Please excuse me for not addressing all my contentions, but I'll tackle one paragraph..
"Then surely interventions such as losing your job or getting a divorce or experiencing ill health, which so often befalls the common man, can also rob an intelligent man of his joy and sometimes impact them over a long term basis for the rest of their lives? "
1. I believe it more than reasonable to assume a person who has higher learning (a degree lets say) will be more likely to rejoin the work force faster than someone unskilled, and as such, relieve financial stress sooner minimizing unhappiness caused by losing their job.
2. If a person has a better skill set for learning, would it be correct to believe they then have a more likely chance of understanding and therefore healing their emotional/psychological state when events such as divorce occur?
3.There is a direct link between lower intelligence and the amount of times in one's life a person will experience ill-health as studies show demonstrable evidence of a correlation between lower socioeconomic status and lower life expectancy, thus suggesting the smarter you are, the less you shall become ill.
"...which so often befalls the common man,"
It's almost as if you understand here the common man experiences life's hardships more often than the intelligent man.
Anyway, thanks a lot for taking part in the blog, Kittyjoy, and bringing some interesting thoughts and ideas, it's appreciated.
Hi serendipity - I'm glad you have found happiness for your self in the way in which you appear to have. Personally, I find not the slightest bit of evidence for any of the multitudes of gods professed down through the ages.
However, this blog is on a topic other than religion and perhaps we may have an opportunity to discuss its subject another time.
Zman - I think some would say it takes many forms, from social intelligence to musical intelligence, parenting intelligence to sporting intelligence, and so on.
I guess I would lean toward intelligence as being the ability to learn from ones experience and have the abilty to adapt ones thoughts or actions as required to allow for a fuller understanding and experience of life.
Haven't really given it a huge amount of thought to be honest, Zman, so I would imagine, and hope, my definition evolves somewhat.
Zman - I wonder if with higher intelligence you just simply become more adept or skilled at portraying happiness, when in actual fact you are far from it. To discern the difference between a person falsly displaying happiness and another who is genuinely happy is something I haven't tried to sniff out.
Hey Andie -Yes, and I dare say there are many Tibetan monks and the like simalarly sitting in a state of nirvana as the old man in your story. I guess I'm more interested in those people who live in a westernized world that deal with the normal nine to five that most do.
Oh, I wonder if the old man in your story was in such a state as a result of what he was smoking through his pipe.
Hi Zman - I accept there are exceptions to what I am inclined to believe,(as there are to most generalizations, and certain historically recognized, intelligent figures can be pointed out as being unhappy and even miserable, but I would ask - In your experience do you find the people you know who are of a certain intelligence generally lead a fuller and happier life?
Waf - I guess I was referring to those who have had higher learning or reached higher points of academia than I have. These people, generally, just seem to be more together and happy in my experience.
Not many vacant beds at the sanitarium as expected with the usual suspects self medicating on prozac and scotch. There were reports we were going to be taken on an outing in the new bus, however, someone locked a moderator in the dispensary, and, well, what else was the poor chap to do than gorge himself on the drugs. He's now quite comfortable in one of the stylish straight jackets that have just arrived (they have built in shock switches which are great for disco night).
Other than that we are just hanging around waiting for our next sponge baths, trying to fly, communicating via telepathy with the water fountain, ------------ )))))0 oooooooooooo, sorry my brain implant is playing up again, it won't be long and they'll be here to fix it, but Kaypax is 230 000 000 light years away so it takes a while for the repair man to come.
Please tell us how it is out there. Is there still grass and ice cream?
It's a bit like looking across the room at a woman who interests you and she looking back invitingly. After summoning up the courage to go and speak with her, you find she speaks like Daisy Duck or Arnold Scwartzmuscles.
"The guy starts chatting and having clear intention of looking for a relationship but after you've given what he wanted, he just decided to dump you and move on to another girl to victimize..."
Welcome to the big bad world of dating sites.
I'm not so sure it's such a bad thing to be taken advantage of early on as you'll learn to be a little more cautious in the future.
It would be difficult to report him for what is essentially belonging to a less desirable subset of men.
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Hey Zman - I have to confess it's one of my favorite past times to sit and watch the streets here in Indonesia with a beer in hand. It wouldn't surprise me if one day I saw an elephant on a space hopper piggy backing a drunk three legged giraffe who had just come from a fancy dress party in Kuta......