I believe it exists in romance novels. There, it seems to be perfect and no one is out to play games or deceive the other person. In real life, people lie and think of themselves first. Everybody needs to learn to be happy on their own, because you won't get it from another person.
I can understand and relate to your reasons. I have reached a stage in my life that I know what I want and I am not willing to settle for second best.
I'm pretty sure I have found the "one." He knows my past and all my flaws and is okay with it. In spite of my recently started counseling, to get myself healthy mentally and emotionally, he says he accepts me as I am and wouldn't change a thing. He says he wants to support me in anything I decide to do. He respects me and has faith in me. What more could I ask for?
You are living a life of purpose and that is commendable.
My higher power is female and I give thanks to Her everyday and see Her reflected back to me in nature, family and friends and kind strangers reaching out to one another. I try to honor Her and live a life of gratitude and appreciation.
Well, all these comments have really got me thinking. I used to be a pessimist or so I thought. I guess I was closer to a fatalist with my doom and gloom thinking. And it usually turned into a self fulfilling prophecy. Then I worked hard to be an optimist since that was the most positive option. But, I realize I tend to ignore signs and facts to stubbornly hang on to the optimism.
I thought it was a black and white issue, either it's bad or it's good. I never saw the gray area, the middle ground. I've realized the older I get, the more I have to learn. I realize it's more healthy to be a realist.
I suggested, last night to my boyfriend, that we break up because of his pessimistic attitude. He didn't want to do that. He said his only concern were my big plans for our future, he was afraid of me being disappointed if my plans fell through. He said his caution had nothing to do with his feelings for me, in fact, he said he'd be happy living in a garden shed as long as we were together. He suggested we be cautiously optimistic. I can live with that.
Prima, Thank you for the birthday wishes. I have learned a lot from all the comments today. I need to stop thinking of myself as too old to do anything or to have a life. And with therapy, I am starting to learn to like myself.
I've always suffered from body dismorphic disorder. Body dysmorphic disorder is a type of chronic mental illness in which you can't stop thinking about a flaw in your appearance — a flaw that is either minor or imagined. But to you, your appearance seems so shameful that you don't want to be seen by anyone.
At 13 I developed Anorexia. A couple years later, I developed Bulimia. That continued throughout my 20's. It has taken me years to kick those eating disorders. I still don't like to eat, but I force myself to eat.
I still don't like the way I look, but at least I no longer see a disgusting blob when I look in the mirror.
Wow. You had me going there for a moment. It's not nice to taunt a celibate woman. I got my flu shot in September. I get one every year, because if I don't, the flu turns into pleurisy, pneumonia, or bronchitis.
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I an not being unrealistically optimistic about matchmaking. I just know that the potential matches will be screened more thoroughly.