One, Ive dated this man for 4 years. I've paused my career for him, i was ready to marry him, and ive accepted everything from his past. And prioritized him than my own parents.. I think, that's evidence enough that Ive put him first to my own happiness, no?
Hi Miwagi. Thanks. I always try to be there and be the kind that he wants me to be, to satisfy him, yet I end up sacrificing myself for his benefit without expecting the same from him.. Maybe the kind of lesion I should take to my next relationship.
Oh wow. That actually hurts. But it might be true. And I need to process that. But I need to hear it straight from him so i can start moving on if I have to. Thanks @molly
@Greg. Thanks. I can't do this on social media. I dont want people in our circle to think wrong about him. Or my family to think about my troubles, as they have troubles of their own. And when I talk about this, biases and sides will be formed among our friends. So, I really dont want that. I don't want him to look bad or anything. I wanted us to talk about this actually. Been asking for us to talk about tbis because the bad feelings accumulate. And I don't want to suddenly snap because of it. However, he isnt talking to me. We cant fix things if we dont communicate. And about his sweetness gone, he didn't really change until about last year. I don't know what to do with it.
Honestly, i feel silly having boy troubles af this age. But I dont have much experience. He is my first boyfriend. And only.
Yep! 4 years! I actually told him clearly, very frankly in the sweetest way possible that he has changed. He's not as sweet as before. He always said that he'd do something about it. But again and again. Id end up feeling the same. I wonder if I was just emotional, or expecting too much. But no. I am not high maintenance, but it wouldn't hurt a guy if they put in some effort every once in a while, would it?
Anyway, thanks for ur comments guys. My boyfriend is kind of a short tempered. Most times, I feel like i have to filter my words carefully because, i might upset him. And Im a pretty polite person.. We are in a LDR so all I actually want is for us to have a special time together. Costs nothing. Maybe he's upset he couldn't do anything about it. But he doesn't have to take it on me.
And yeah I get that guys are not mind readers and i try to tell him what i want. But, he just makes me guilty. Like its wrong for me to want something.
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One, Ive dated this man for 4 years. I've paused my career for him, i was ready to marry him, and ive accepted everything from his past. And prioritized him than my own parents.. I think, that's evidence enough that Ive put him first to my own happiness, no?