Lurking... "ready to attack...to stay hidden" so once we come out..then we are no longer Lurkers.. i would prefer ..observers of life.... every one has an opion..and i do not need to argue with others..or have them agree with me... content ...to lurk (observe)
your daughter is right..get out..go places..i am finding very few women my age on any of the sites..and i do not see them when i go to functions.. baseball..fishing..movies..plays..theater..festivals..music..you name it ..i usually only see couples in their 50s and folks younger.. lots of kids in there 20s.30s,40s... i guess maybe it because they are so late in being single and do not know how to date or find a date..or to burned out from life..do not know.. but i seldom run across profiles of women in their late 50s early 60s.. i do not know what the sites look like for old guys.. but i do not see many of them out and about either..guess everyone stays home..the few old men i see are usually with a much younger women...:)
i just had a gal break up with me..and i am prety sure she did not understand where i was coming from..i know i do not understand her at all..
but one of the keys was..i think ..she thought it should just flow..be easy..no work involved.. perhaps it was easier 40 years ago..less baggage..less pain and anger to distrupt the flow of communication.. at our age ...
its a lot of work to communicate ..and we all bring a lot to the table .. plus men and women think a lot different.. and its real hard to not read between the lines...on here....women ,i think tend to read a lot into what you type..and what you dont..i know i reread and reread to try and make sure i dont imply something i dont intend..you should not have to work that hard!!!!!
so the way you feel about men... i feel about women....
hey arabella.. dont feel bad... and most of all dont let your self esteem go to pot from this net dating.. i read your profile..and i would asume with your son..you may not be able to get out much...but you need to find a way... i agree this is not the way to find a date....as i have been on here for awhile..and only have had one person willing to go out on a couple of dates..and she dumped me after our second weekend.. regardless... i think if you really want to date you need to find someone close..local.. someone you can go to coffee with..out to eat..share a meal ..some time.. this net dating is for the birds.. either people really dont have the time or ability to go out locally ..to meet someone..or they are not really on here to date..or they live to far away.. so dont let what happens on here ..make any impression on you ... i still get on and look..i just dont expect anything.. anymore..and yes you do run into the few that have good luck....i would have to say the lady i met on here was lovely and i really liked her ..sadly it was a one way thing.. but i am not inclined to wait another 4-5 years after hours of getting and sending e-mails for the next lady..and i dont think you should give up ..you just need to get out..and about in your area... give it a go..you look like a lovely women .. and sound like you would be fun to share time with .. so .........get to it..get off here ..unless you just have some spare time to waste...life is for living not staring at a computer screen..... peter
been thinking about that very subject.. i think men who are really looking for a women to date..and get on here for that do have problems...because i dont think most women are on here for that.. whats the point in long distance romance.. i have met several who have told me they write for years..and never get to the dating part... so......... i think most that are on here are here because they cannt cut it on the streets..in real life.. they want romance and conversation at a distance.. if you want to date ..you need to get off here ..and go somewhere else.. i no longer expect anything to come of being on here..but i live in an isolated area..and do not socialize often..(dont go to town)..so i am forced to try to meet someone here..if you have any other options..use them.if your interest is in finding someone to date..get out and socialize.. if you just want to chat and network and spin your wheels stay on here.... good luck... peter
nice thoughts however..animals are...animals..we should observe them from afar..but we tend to want to live in their beautiful country..we need lumber..gas..oil..none of us want to go back to flint and steel..walking..give up our cars..home..electric.. tv..cells..computers..they all take an energy source and space..as so to do we ..we infringe on their habitat... i live in the mountains..or rather the high desert of southern colorado..20 miles up the river.. and in deer..elk..lion..wolf..bear ..country ..and i try to share.. and keep things in harmony.. i try to keep food/trash where it will not attract bears but we do have bears..they even get down the river ..into town.. two were shot and killed in town last year.. town being right on the interstate.. and right in the center..of such..looking in garabage cans.. and they are dangerous... they will kill and maim.. the lions..wolfs too..i keep my distance and they keep theirs.we respect each others space...but i had a beer in the yard last year.. trying to get in ...they will tear a hole in your door..your window if they want in bad enough.. we were able to have a conversation and he left..but i carried my shotgun..prepared to kill him ..sometimes we can make choices sometimes not.. if you want animals to live in peace..then you need to give up your exsitance.. people infringe on their land..and their space..and it is not often possible to live with animals in harmony..not with a lot of people..look at your town and all the critters displaced... we all want our conviences and toys and houses in the hills.. and children...we are crowding out the rest of the world.. mankind the defilier..
welllllllllllllll...we will have to roll the ladies back then ...seems to me the problem is that now days you have two folks that want to be captains..of the ship...not that all captains in the old days were fair or treated their crew right..but at least the boat had just one heading to bear on...
told a friend a story... men are dogs... women are cats... take a dog and put him in a kennal filled with trash and he will poke around and move stuff till he finds a place for himself..and makes it comfortable...and call it home..
take a cat... offer them the same kennel..they will sniff around and take a look here and there..and then off they go to greener pastures... look for a new and better home...
the 50s and 60s changed women forever..unless men want to be less than men...(which is were they have gone)..dont see any change coming...good luck....
nice thought but for several things... we are a repbulic ..or were started as one..so not the oldest form of government.. and to find a non-corrupt leader...and a congress and senate that was not self serving..corrupt..and in someones pocket our political parties and leaders have way to much invested with the upper ruling class...to have any changes come about.. and any civil war would only invite intervention of other foreign interest...a no win solution..its just going to keep a changing until we are a nation of drones.. almost there
every one makes mistakes..most certainly with affairs of the heart.. when i t becomes a frequent flyer event you need to take a second look at the person...
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RE: A Blog for Lurkers
Lurking... "ready to attack...to stay hidden"so once we come out..then we are no longer Lurkers..
i would prefer ..observers of life.... every one has an opion..and i do not need to argue with others..or have them agree with me... content ...to lurk (observe)