Self Esteem
I usually have a pretty high opinion of myself and I think I'm a hard working person who is worthy of finding friends and a special man.But this online dating has made me feel bad. Whatever the reason (age, location) I have found that after four years on here, I've found that I don't feel worthy.
At this point, I've given up on finding someone to date.
And that's OK
But if the odds of finding someone to date online are so small, is it good for anyone?
And then there are the scammers, but that's another story
Anyhow, be aware, ladies, that the odds of meeting someone in person here are very small.
And if it starts to make you feel bad, you're not alone!
Comments (3)
dont feel bad... and most of all dont let your self esteem go to pot from this net dating.. i read your profile..and i would asume with your son..you may not be able to get out much...but you need to find a way...
i agree this is not the way to find a date....as i have been on here for awhile..and only have had one person willing to go out on a couple of dates..and she dumped me after our second weekend.. regardless...
i think if you really want to date you need to find someone close..local.. someone you can go to coffee with..out to eat..share a meal ..some time.. this net dating is for the birds.. either people really dont have the time or ability to go out locally ..to meet someone..or they are not really on here to date..or they live to far away..
so dont let what happens on here ..make any impression on you ...
i still get on and look..i just dont expect anything.. anymore..and yes you do run into the few that have good luck....i would have to say the lady i met on here was lovely and i really liked her ..sadly it was a one way thing.. but i am not inclined to wait another 4-5 years after hours of getting and sending e-mails for the next lady..and i dont think you should give up ..you just need to get out..and about in your area... give it a go..you look like a lovely women .. and sound like you would be fun to share time with .. so .........get to it..get off here ..unless you just have some spare time to waste...life is for living not staring at a computer screen.....
peter
I just read your blogs.... wanted to send you a mail... Telling you - that you are not alone. But I would have liked to send you a personal mail, instead of this where evryone can read my thoughts... Have tried that before,, in a thread - but as "usual" the threats turns into something, very different... And ends in jokes!
I can recognize all your feelings, have long given up myself... For what I wish... - But it is not good for a soul to give up dreams... The reall dreams that keeps you alive.. And make you want to get up in the morning - and be happy another day is born..
But why doesn't it happend ? One says in his comment... Go local... Hope it is possible for you..
In this superficial country where I live, it's compleete nonsense even to try that.. Dating is here something, for the admired young ones, under the age of 40.... And when you pass the 50.. No one will listen to you at all.. The pure truuth... The best you can obtain, is a kind of friendship..
Ohh oh .. I know very well, the romatic stories, told by magazins or even sometimes on tv... That this couple meet at the age of 75.. and are now the happiest couple ever..... Well, most of theese stories are just painted pictures, of something that's not true... The truuth is, that the living costs are so high here, that you cannot make you a life worth living, unless - you where able to save up, for a good pension, when you where young..
The normal peoples pension, we once had, has been dimminshed so much in value - because our government some years ago, made it affordable (if you had money enough for it) to save up for yourself... Because they wanted to change the ideology of our country... We earlier had build our values on...
I could go on and on.. But there is not much fun in that story... I wish you the best, hope you'll find a little worth living for.... Bernard