Build a giant mouse-wheel attached to a massive electrical generating set and let them PROVE their contrition and desire to make amends over the rest of their lives by doing something useful ( generating power ) for their community over the rest of their lives. That would be 'good for the environment' too ...
@ Akeldama ... takes two to tango, if she says NO then that's all you need know, Actions speak louder than words and NO REPLY absolutely screams the answer.
@Palmfrond ... I guess it's always been an unwritten rule in sales that when a colleague asks a question to 'conclude' a sale that one answers in the manner that helps them?
Tough situation, maybe everyone's cranky and taking it out on one another ... liquidation / closing down sale ... the customer has no redress anyway ... do they?
this is a freeeking Datong site, I must ponder ...
Having pondered, yes indeed, there's no shortage of freeks and I;m sure Datong (prefecture-level city in northern Shanxi Province, China) has it's share of those too !
Can't speak for other guys, but 'who she is' is way more important than what she wears ...
On behalf of chairs everywhere I must protest your heartlessness at ignoring our important role!
Without chairs a table is all but useless, a mere plank of wood upon which dust and junk appears ... but, place a chair or more at a table and a huge panoply, a brave new world of social possibilities arise
Y'all can tell the Blog Author is from the US of A ... he's following the Standard Operating Protocol ... stand on the necks of his fellow men to look taller !
I am honnered to be setting you right Mr Moe Sir ...
But, a hay maww see ree us note ... the common denominator here ... is?
Use the example of Gordon Ramsay (the UK Chef) who has a troubleshooting TV show. Invariably one of the actions he takes is to 'cut down the number of items on the menu'. Yes, this makes it easier for the chefs who have to prepare the food, but it ALSO makes it easier for the customer ... it's easier to choose from 5 categories ( seafood, fish, redmeat, white meat, vegetarian,) that have 5 or 6 items each than it to choose from 5 categories * 5 ethicities of food * 20 items in each ... yet that's exactly what the net does does ... it leaves the 'customers' totally bemused by the choice (of millions of 'dishes' from hundreds of ethnicities) and mostly where 'inter-cultural' relationships begin neither party knows enough about the other in advance and huge misunderstandings occur, communications break down and it all ends in tears and blame ... women blaming men for being distant and men wondering about the women's capacity to understand?
Back to the restaurant - if a guest orders something exotic but doesn't KNOW what it is that they just ordered then their foolishness costs them a few dollars and they simply don't eat that plate of foul smelling pickled chicken feet that's such a longed for delicacy in it's home country.
But if they threw thousands of $$$ at travelling half the world to meet someone then 'human nature' means they're more likely to try and 'make the best of it' by investing a 'bit more' (money / of themselves) to try and make it work ... and that's me taking the best possible view and 'assuming' that the person they went to meet was genuine and that they were not ( as I understand is common in certain countries ) lured into a criminal scheme of some kind ... drug muling on the way back for example!
The lonely, the desperate, the stupid ... those with huge (and unfounded ) expectations will always pay the price of disappointment, loss, injury (physical or emotional) or even loss of sanity or life itself ... ask anyone who bought a used car without checking it out properly prepurchase!
Happy days Y'all !
And happy daze to the dumb too ... don't let me burst your bubbles !
You began by saying 'there are many advantages' so, if that's true why would it NOT be worth it?
It seems many (esp) western women are getting a bit overly precious about relationships, and as a result of having lost the plot are becoming jealous when men strike up successful, mutually satisfying relationships with Asian ladies.
Every country is entitled to it's own sovereign government, and it's own system to deal with the administration of justice... perhaps the world would be a better place if we each looked to plank in our own eyes before condemning others for the splinters in theirs?
India, for example, saw almost 130,000 people killed on the roads last year ... that's 10% of the total for the entire world.
Interesting to read this here as I was pondering the same question myself.
I think there may be a formula
CAn + CRn = CY (n / 2)
CA = Caution ( n being the amount of caution where 1 is little and 10 is most)
CR = Criticism ( n being as above)
CY = Cynicism ( again n being as above)
Caution is always a good thing, unless we've become 'so cautious that we've stopped ourselves from acting in our own certain best interest' so, I'll (cautiously ;-) ) suggest 'caution' with an n value of 3 or less than 3 is possibly helpful to us
Criticism well, it CAN be a good thing, and we have at times to think critically (as opposed to emotion so again (and open to your criticism for this ;) ) I'll 'cautiously suggest' that criticism with an n value of 3 or less than 3 is OK
Cynicism, can be seen as the cumulative result of the combination of these two factors so,
And again, I'll cautiously suggest that the lower the CY n figure is theat the less cynical a person is
Tammy - ultra cautious as she has had her heart broken many times so she scores CA of 6, She's a perfectionist and has a CR score of 8
Result - CY of (14 / 2) ie 7
So Tammy is fairly , suspicious sorta girl and expects little good from others
Sabrina - happy go lucky sort a gal, adventurous 'throw caution to the winds' sporty outdoor type who always expects good things
CA =1
She accepts people for who and how are they are, likes pretty much everyone and is well liked herself
CR = 1
Her CYn then is CA 1 CR 1 = Cy (2 / 2) = 1
Of course this is horribly oversimplified but I;m sure some techno whizz will rattle off an appa taking into account variables such as age, astrological sign ( virgos tend to be perfectionists Saggis more accepting etc) gender, subject material concerning which the CY score is sought ( people are more cynical about politicians and love than they are about fluffy ducklings etc)
Disclaimer: This post does not constitute psychological advice and readers agree not to sue me if they follwo or misfollw the formula given.
Some suffering is intended to be endured patiently (and quietly)
I say the same to guys who cry publicly.
1) It really doesn't MATTER what any one else says
2) It really WORSENS your chances of attracting someone suitable
3) It also worsens your chances of KEEPING someone in your life ... threads such as this can be seen by others long after the pain has passed - and they can bite yer bum years later.
As for your thinking ... well, Henry Ford said something like
"Whether you think you are, whether you think you aren't ... y'll probably prove yourself right by acting that way."
There's NOTHING to be gained from engaging in a conversation (or a debate) as to 'what went wrong here'. In truth what YOU hope for is the opportunity to convince he's wrong. The experience of millions (billions prob) of people is that 'It takes two to play ball, and if one doesn't wanna play the other has to find a different game'
No doubt y'll get loads of reassurnace from strangers about how lovely they think you are - it's a wasted effort on their part because YOU KNOW that they don't even know you so y'll disregard their kind words.
Take a FAIR look at your last several relationships ...
1) Internet comms are NOT relationships
2) Look at what has happened 'in real life' ... look for common denominators, things that repeat.
3) Look at your part
I'd say 'good luck' for the future, but better still 'Good designs' on your future - luck is what you create!
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RE: This is not the way to get a woman's attention.
Yes, I can understand the empathy ... coleslaw in the sandwiches would be your intellectual equal