I'll bet they were on Chair Ladder if it was between Sennen and Lands End, probably on Pendulum Chimney or Terrier's Tooth, classic routes on Chair Ladder. Hope he's ok.
That's a classic example of a person who suffered a sense of powerlessness as a child. Two different strategies can imerge from this. One is to learn to have power over others, maybe in the workplace, or just appear to be ambitious. The reverse strategy would be to be pleasing, mollifying or overly responsible for the well being of others. It's an axiety management strategy...if I am responsive to the needs of others, then possibly they might be there for me, this is a form of co-dependence. It is the foundation of many abusive relationships whichever strategy is applied, usually both diametrically opposed strategies are played out by each partner in any one abusive relationship.
Perhaps 'unconciously driving' would be a better term.
The early model of relationship becomes the template for later life, unconciously driving the person to take on the task of healing wounded others, the cycle repeats over and over.
This is unfortunately true. Strange as it may seem, the wounding we suffer as a child can be sought out in later life, subconciously of course, resulting in a person moving from one abusive relationship to another. It is very common.
We have our 'lambs' over here also. Safe, despite our dreams and ideologies, and of course practical, we dont feel the need to guard our children with guns, so we dont need them.
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RE: what you miss most about a relationship
A clean kitchen.