venere08 Forum Posts (9,996)

RE: What's Goin On

yes, climate here is great.

My cuz is there now to sign his citizenship papers, which I did in September.

You're right though, I did post somewhere that I expect to return again maybe May this year, and a few other places once I'm there.

I came across all these photos I took in Dublic last Sept.

Gee, it brought back so many nice memories, not that they are too far away.

RE: Honest woman?

Nope.

Stop right here.

You're chasing a dream.

RE: What's Goin On

Great thanks, vinny. It's a lovely sunny Sunday morning here.

Just having late brekkie. Then lunch at my parents with my cousin's wife and daughter (cuz is in Italy for few weeks).

Lotsa great summer music on radio

RE: What's Goin On

'lure'!

RE: What's Goin On

* Thinks he can lures women like a bee to a honey pot.
...well, he can

Hey vinny. How are you tonight?

RE: Mods...A New Catagory Must Be Created.....

Well, most people even here would not have heard of the book, as it was given to me as a gift by its author, an SA pediatrician turned writer. I happened to have some business transactions with him and his lovely wife.

A lot of questions about my profile?

Nope. Those who have read and who alluded to it, seemed to have been able to glean the kind of person I am at least in basic terms, from the brief quotes.

I particularly like how Prince Robbee told Samantha Honeybee
" ...to put her feet up and relax for a while."

RE: brokenhearted

No-one can fix another person's broken heart, bennett.

But it sounds like you might be really hurting right now.

Most of us have been there. Some deal with it better than others.

It's good that you have reached out here.

Also reach out to your friends with whom you can go out.

Unless of-course the broken heart is from online, in which case, the online community is a good place to seek support.

We can understand the place you are in right now.

RE: Mods...A New Catagory Must Be Created.....

Hi Ken,

A good idea to share your idea.

Personally, my current profile consists of quotes from a children's book. Partly because I never entered this site for dating purposes, secondly, 'Samantha Honeybee' does have many qualities I am drawn to.



Fil

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Agreed Sassy.


Don't sweat the small stuff, is what I say.

I figure if the person is a total slob, you would never end up with them anyway. There are many ways to find that out very early on in the piece.

Besides, if that person insists on continually littering , well, litter generally ends up in the bin, right?

RE: Does our online persona

I agree completely. I do love the written word, but it can be easy to misinterpret. Mainly because if we were to write all our thoughts down at the time, we would need to write chapter length emails. Guaranteed that the recipient prolly would not read it all.

That said, as long as communication remains open, all can be sorted out even with the written word, without too much damage. Though I have recently experienced some exchanges with one man recently, that I can only be describe as bordering close to traumatic, and all over the written word.

I personally don't support the idea of jumping on the telephone after a couple of emails. In fact, I do not like to IM without first exchanging many emails. My CS 'IM' is switched off for that purpose. I am not interested, and say that on my profile (well, that is a misnomer as I only have quotes from a children's book on there). Most IM I use is with GF's here on CS. And that is pure delight.

RE: Does our online persona

sorry, 'fashionable'!.

RE: Does our online persona

I have met people online way back when it wasn't fashiinable.

And not on dating sites.
First one was on a Community Building site, ala M.Scott Peck, where the day before I left to go o/s for 3 mths, I posted a message requesting if anyone had any accommodation at their home in New York for April that year, as I would be there for few weeks. To cut a long story short, I received a reply from a guy in Texas offering my a place to stay if ever I went there. Well I replied out of courtesy saying, 'you never know' and left a forwarding address in Pisa, Italy at my aunt's place. Blow me down there was a letter waiting for me when I visited her. From the guy in Texas. I actually ended up flying to Dallas Fort Worth From New York in April and stayed at his home for 10 days. We still email each other. It's been 12 yrs. And no hanky panky and was treated like a princess.

Second time I was researching a professional site. I emailed the director of the clinic. His P.A. replied on his behalf and he received the message on his return from an African safari. Yeah, I know Well, next thing you know, I find myself months later, travelling to Maryland, he paid for the return airfare for me and I stayed with him and his wife for 2 weeks at their home, they had cooks, cleaners, garndeners. Even deer for me to look at on my morning walks through their acreage.

So, John, you can tell your friends, online people, well mowst of them, are real people, who are part of RL.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Love it!

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

I've just been replying to some emails

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Yes, so I am finding out.

You have already mentioned your prowess in using a branding iron to perfection

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Yes, timing can be an important issue in other parts of the relationship, too.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Nah, no fighting on this thread.

If Sommer wants two men, she can have them.

See how obliging I am?

RE: Does our online persona

I am pretty much the same, silly sense of humour and all.

Only thing is that I don't get a chance to do the 'flirting' in RL, that I do here on CS. But the other night, I found that the need to flirt spilled over into RL on New Years Day. I was having a dinner at a harbourside restaurant, you know, one with a bit of decorum

Well, my cousin's wife was sitting across from me, and she started receiving lude text messages from my cousin, her husband, who is overseas for a few weeks. She didn't know how to respond to the SMS which referred to his big, fat, something. I reached over and asked if I may write the reply. She agreed. So I replied in CS fashion, on her behalf. This went on for a few text messages, after which time I handed it back to Lyn. I'd had a great time, but suddenly she received a message asking who had written the messages. He knew it wasn't his wife!

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Gin, cognac?

Not with your cereal, I hope!

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Hey Ken,

Nice to see you.

So, a good househusband as well as ranch hand? You are definitely multi-skilled

Fil

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Leave Big John alone. You have PPV

I think if anything, vinny and Summer are well suited, one likes to pull his woman by the hair, the other likes to be dragged around the cave floor by the hair.

Scary, ain't it?

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sorry, X_REBEL, I was away when you posted.

But I really seriously would like to know what you think:

In what way do you find, in your experience, or from what other men have told you, are women so confusing, enough to make 'most men lose "track" '?

Thanks. I do look forward to your reply if you do return to this thread.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Sorry, vinny, I missed your post when I had to leave for a while...catching up now, though

Whenever I have lived on my own, working full time and keeping the home tidy was easy as pie, but living with my son for 21 years, who just drops things wherever, well, it's not been so easy! And it's not as if I didn't model more appropriate behaviour and direct training as well.

And what you say, vinny, "so long as both people are happy in their roles..." I also agree with. It's the 'balance' that we spoke of earlier. As long as it works for both people, all is good. And thank you for reinforcing the 'RESPECT' component. Cuz if each person treats the other as they would like to be treated themselves, most of the hard work is done, as it paves the way for smoother sailing.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Saw it Harry.

From tht list, one thing I would never NOT say is that the diamond is too big. I can't stand large 'rocks'. Way too ostentatious. Less is more in this case. As per the K.I.S.S principle

You sound like you're in good spirits, H. good for you.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

No, I will go look before I head off to dreamland. I'm falling off the perch again! 'Cept this time it's a bit earlier than usual.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

The spirit of Christmas should continue the whole year through.

Summer knows it to be so.

Don't ya hunny bun?

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

No biting!

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Well, in my time, I have painted the roof of a small holiday house I had.

I have varnished wooden floor boards of an entire 3 bedroom home, 3 coats, with hand sanding in between each coats, filled cracks, painted walls, mowed lawns, changed spark plugs in my first car, assembled pieces of furniture.

I cannot stand accused of being helpless to do such things. However, these days, I generally prefer to outsource these jobs.

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Harry, wash your mouth out.

Don't you have some cereal to eat?

Male and Female Roles in Couples Relationships

Oh, no.

A brush could never be a substitute for a reliable, made to last, loyal hoover.