Does our online persona (142)
Sommerauer71: Represent who we are in life?
I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.
I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.
So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?
I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.
I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.
I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.
So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?
I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.
this is truly 70 to 80 % right,
but still, am sure that online people shows more of their personalty than face to face,,, but why did I say 70 to 80%???
it is due to the fact that we make more own interpretation for the words that are written with most of our five seances are missing,,, so it is more about what we make of the other person than what the other person makes out of self.
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Sommerauer71: So, Tina, do you not think that places like this give us a chance to out our inner thoughts that we would perhaps not do face to face?
I bloody would.
For me I think I am the same, the only difference is I am initially a bit shyer, but after a while I will just be me.I bloody would.
And keep me away from red wine
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voyager007: this is truly 70 to 80 % right,
but still, am sure that online people shows more of their personalty than face to face,,, but why did I say 70 to 80%???
it is due to the fact that we make more own interpretation for the words that are written with most of our five seances are missing,,, so it is more about what we make of the other person than what the other person makes out of self.
but still, am sure that online people shows more of their personalty than face to face,,, but why did I say 70 to 80%???
it is due to the fact that we make more own interpretation for the words that are written with most of our five seances are missing,,, so it is more about what we make of the other person than what the other person makes out of self.
did I say it right???
u c what I mean????
anyway, one important thought:
you can totally read what the other person is saying before responding, while in face to face you may cut in and start responding or you get distracted by they way he or she is acting and you lose some points that are said in the discussion!!
however, some do start to reply as soon as the read the 1st word you said in a post
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voyager007: did I say it right??? u c what I mean????
anyway, one important thought:
you can totally read what the other person is saying before responding, while in face to face you may cut in and start responding or you get distracted by they way he or she is acting and you lose some points that are said in the discussion!!
however, some do start to reply as soon as the read the 1st word you said in a post
anyway, one important thought:
you can totally read what the other person is saying before responding, while in face to face you may cut in and start responding or you get distracted by they way he or she is acting and you lose some points that are said in the discussion!!
however, some do start to reply as soon as the read the 1st word you said in a post
I think you have made it very clear!
And your final paragraph I concur with.
For instance, yesterday we were having a discussion about DNA, what all lovers talk about,
and PPV interuppted me. So then I let him finish and then the swine interrupted me again. But yes, you ahve raised a classic example of how online and face to face can be so very different.
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voyager007: yeb I do think that this is part of the issue. Also, while we are talking we have less time to think of what we truly need to say as in how to say it more than what to say,,,
while by writing,, you do have time to express you self in writing,, but still, 50% is at the other said of what to make of your words, that is why we have those funny emoticons to add some body language
do you agree???
while by writing,, you do have time to express you self in writing,, but still, 50% is at the other said of what to make of your words, that is why we have those funny emoticons to add some body language
do you agree???
Erm I do agree to a certain extent voyager and I believe that emoticons are useful to a certain degree, but they cannot be replaced by body language. I cannot hold a conversation with them, but I can use them every now and again. I mean if we all become so used to them, how would we cope interacting in life without them?
I have met many people offline that I have met online and they are somewhat different, and I have been told that I am not as blunt as I write, words are inmportant, I love them and I can pick apart words well, as many can, many people are better vocally than they are written and I have not yet worked out which one I am, although my man tells me I am able to hold a discussion down well, I think most of us can when it is something we know alot about.
Do you think that people are fearful? When they meet a person for the first time? If they have previousy interacted online?
I am not fearful, I do not think I wonder waht they will think of me, same as here, I am not here to be liked, I am here to have some discussions and some fun, whether I am liked or not is no matter to me.
But there are some that I adore and love interacting with and would love to meet in my lifetime, a handful.
The rest will only be people that I will only ever interact with here.
So, do you think you are the same here as face to face? We all have an online image, she does this all the time, he does that.
Because we have nothing else to go off, only what we see here.
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I believe I am a little different online only in the areas of discussing personal things. I don't believe I would talk about some and many of the things we do online in my personal life. Also, my life is fishing, golfing, playing chess, going to church, Boy Scouts and volunteering at a soup kitchen. No one here knows me this way and these are not the things Forums Threads are designed to find out. So yes I am different on online.
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Big_John: I believe I am a little different online only in the areas of discussing personal things. I don't believe I would talk about some and many of the things we do online in my personal life. Also, my life is fishing, golfing, playing chess, going to church, Boy Scouts and volunteering at a soup kitchen. No one here knows me this way and these are not the things Forums Threads are designed to find out. So yes I am different on online.
Hi John
I believe we are.
I was thinking about this, we do not discuss face to face what we discuss here.
All of the areas of my life that only those closest to me know about would never be discussed here. Simply because as you so rightly point out the forums are not designed for that.
My life is teaching, reading, golfing, cooking, raising my children...
Not many subjects on golf here is there?
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read no evil 
hear no evil
speak no evil
I dont type when I am quiet in real life. 
I fondle myself as much in RL and this gets me manyfriends voyeuers
hear no evil
speak no evil
I dont type when I am quiet in real life. I fondle myself as much in RL and this gets me many
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JacobGrimm: read no evil
hear no evil
speak no evil I dont type when I am quiet in real life. I fondle myself as much in RL and this gets me many friends voyeuers
hear no evil
speak no evil I dont type when I am quiet in real life. I fondle myself as much in RL and this gets me many friends voyeuers
Well, you are unique Jacob.
So you can step out of this discussion...
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I think I'm pretty much the same - Guess you'd have to ask Jackson to know for sure.
Seems like I think a little more before making replies online than when having a regular conversation, but I suppose that's due to the nature of the medium. Of course, I don't worry about spelling and punctuation as much when I'm talking as I do when I'm typing, but I guess that's also a given.
And I guess I'm probably a little funnier in real life - Kinda' tough to tell stories/jokes using different voices/impersonations when you're typing text into a computer screen;
Mostly though, I'm JustMe. I use what tools I have available in whatever medium I'm communicating in and my personality remains the same, even if certain aspects come through a little more (or less) strongly.
Seems like I think a little more before making replies online than when having a regular conversation, but I suppose that's due to the nature of the medium. Of course, I don't worry about spelling and punctuation as much when I'm talking as I do when I'm typing, but I guess that's also a given.
And I guess I'm probably a little funnier in real life - Kinda' tough to tell stories/jokes using different voices/impersonations when you're typing text into a computer screen;
Kermit the frog's voice: And I heard him tell the Warden, just before he reached my pad... "Let my guitar playin' frog do my request."
Just doesn't read as funny as it sounds...Mostly though, I'm JustMe. I use what tools I have available in whatever medium I'm communicating in and my personality remains the same, even if certain aspects come through a little more (or less) strongly.
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I think I'm pretty much the same in RL as I am here.
After being on here for almost four years, it would be pretty hard to be anything else than what I am.
I'm still living in the woods, taking care of my son and raising my show quality chickens.
Of course, in four years, I haven't had a date from this site, I'm not especially a popular forum member and have only a few friends who are still on the site.
Guess that shows just how weird I am.
And I don't intend to change.
After being on here for almost four years, it would be pretty hard to be anything else than what I am.
I'm still living in the woods, taking care of my son and raising my show quality chickens.
Of course, in four years, I haven't had a date from this site, I'm not especially a popular forum member and have only a few friends who are still on the site.
Guess that shows just how weird I am.
And I don't intend to change.
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Sommerauer71: Hi John
I believe we are.
I was thinking about this, we do not discuss face to face what we discuss here.
All of the areas of my life that only those closest to me know about would never be discussed here. Simply because as you so rightly point out the forums are not designed for that.
My life is teaching, reading, golfing, cooking, raising my children...
Not many subjects on golf here is there?
I believe we are.
I was thinking about this, we do not discuss face to face what we discuss here.
All of the areas of my life that only those closest to me know about would never be discussed here. Simply because as you so rightly point out the forums are not designed for that.
My life is teaching, reading, golfing, cooking, raising my children...
Not many subjects on golf here is there?
So if we agree many of us are different or at least appear to be different on-line how do we work to ensure the "right" one finds us? I know I have found several really nice ladies, but each of them wasn't the "one". Maybe I don't know how ot attract the right kind of woman based on my limited abilities to identify those qualities online. Many of my friends tell me I should stop looking online and stick to the "real" world. The real world in small town Mississippi doesn't haven't many ladies.
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I think I'm pretty close to what I've portrayed myself to be here. How can one be much different than his or her real self? It would take a lot of remembering what you said a lot of the time, I would think. Just my opinion though.
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I am the same...a little shy in person, but when I get past the shyness, I am who I am here.
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In response to: Represent who we are in life?
I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.
I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.
So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?
I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.
I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.
I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.
So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?
I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.
Hi Sommer
I've been told by members I have met that I am the same in real life as I am on here. That, however, was in meeting people neutrally at a CS meet.
Meeting people I have dated may have been different, because then it wasn't about who I am/was, it was about living up to their imaginary idea of who they thought I was going to be for them.
That is very different.
When someone is wanting or expecting something from you, or wanting you to be a certain way to fit their ideal, then no matter who you are it wont fit their expectations exactly.
For some you will be better than their expectations and for others you won't match up, but that is outside your control.
You can only be yourself.
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I am a little more emotional in real life and perhaps a little more humourous. Other than that even though this environment is rather sterile in its medium I am exactly who I am online. I am always aware of the reality of a situation and am not shy to explore any sort of depth of any issue. Of course the medium allows for a bit of thought before words have to be sorted but as anyone who has had any sort of outside of the forum contact with me there is little delay in my responses and I feel they come out in much the same way.
I am a relaxed person who has little uproar in my life on purpose. I prefer quiet times in small gatherings rather than large boisterous ones in public. There is merit to the latter but I do tend to avoid their constantcy.
Other than that I would have to respect the worthy additions from those friends who know me better than merely a poster on the forums.
I am a relaxed person who has little uproar in my life on purpose. I prefer quiet times in small gatherings rather than large boisterous ones in public. There is merit to the latter but I do tend to avoid their constantcy.
Other than that I would have to respect the worthy additions from those friends who know me better than merely a poster on the forums.
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Big_John: So if we agree many of us are different or at least appear to be different on-line how do we work to ensure the "right" one finds us? I know I have found several really nice ladies, but each of them wasn't the "one". Maybe I don't know how ot attract the right kind of woman based on my limited abilities to identify those qualities online. Many of my friends tell me I should stop looking online and stick to the "real" world. The real world in small town Mississippi doesn't haven't many ladies.
John
It is hard isn't it? To find the one online... Because it can be so misleading.
Plus the choice is huge too and that does limit us.
Many will say it will happen, but I do think it has to be a certain person who comes along and truly drops into your life.
I think you do, goodness, I would fall for you, easily.
And that is the truth, it is about a person who appeals to you and who finds you appealing.
But is the one, that 'one' a person who you get to know, or who you build over time with?
I fall for PPV each day all over again.
Even when he does tease me and demand I do the laundry.
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gingerb: Hi Sommer
I've been told by members I have met that I am the same in real life as I am on here. That, however, was in meeting people neutrally at a CS meet.
Meeting people I have dated may have been different, because then it wasn't about who I am/was, it was about living up to their imaginary idea of who they thought I was going to be for them.
That is very different.
When someone is wanting or expecting something from you, or wanting you to be a certain way to fit their ideal, then no matter who you are it wont fit their expectations exactly.
For some you will be better than their expectations and for others you won't match up, but that is outside your control.
You can only be yourself.
I've been told by members I have met that I am the same in real life as I am on here. That, however, was in meeting people neutrally at a CS meet.
Meeting people I have dated may have been different, because then it wasn't about who I am/was, it was about living up to their imaginary idea of who they thought I was going to be for them.
That is very different.
When someone is wanting or expecting something from you, or wanting you to be a certain way to fit their ideal, then no matter who you are it wont fit their expectations exactly.
For some you will be better than their expectations and for others you won't match up, but that is outside your control.
You can only be yourself.
Hello my gorgeous Ginger.
You raise good points there.
Because I see it as easier to meet friends than I do a potential partner. Not that I found it difficult this time at all. As you know.
Do you really think that potential mates have expectations? I had some, but those were soon wiped away, because I knew that those were false and I simply could only be me. Because he would have sussed me out right away.
Yes, you can only be yourself, I can only be myself, but I am alot stronger in words than I am vocally.
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I ask this because it has been something that since meeting with PPV, we have discussed.
I look like my pictures, coz they are me, he is the same as he portrays here, obviously he talks less than he writes, I mean honestly, most of you saw what he had written.
So, are you quieter, noisier, more shy, face to face than on here?
I have read so many times when people have met that they are not the same as they are online.