No Dina...you were great. Thank for taking the time and effort to post here.
I am sorry someone did that to you. Forsomeone to just shrug you off without an explaination isn't right.
We all have our own tastes. We all try to put our best foot forward. But we are all human too...that's what makes things so interesting. Some people may hate me for whatever reason. Then some may love me for the exact same reasons. The fun part is trying to find out "why"?. We can't be all things to all people. Our limitations are our own.
I hope someone who reads all of this might realize there is nothing wrong with being human, different and selective. We all have our opinions!
Here is a thread posted by Fellfrosch...it was a joke thread.
What I Want In A Man, Original List
1. Handsome 2. Charming 3. Financially Successful 4. A Caring Listener 5. Witty 6. In Good Shape 7. Dresses with Style 8. Appreciates the Finer Things 9. Full of Thoughtful Surprises 10. An Imaginative, Romantic Lover
What I Want In A Man, Revised List
1. Not too ugly 2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public 3. Works steady 4. Doesn't nod off while I'm emoting 5. Usually remembers the punch lines of jokes 6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture 7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear 8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids 9. Remembers to put the toilet seat lid down 10. Shaves on weekends
I know this is a joke, and I know she posted it as a joke. But the revised list is pretty "normal" for the average guy. If it wasn't somewhat true, it wouldn't be funny. Do women see the top list and only accept men who are like this? Is the bottom list what you seek? Is it a mixture?
Now we are getting somewhere--great post Dina...why do you think people are looking for something better, when they already have someone they hit it off with?
I hope you will meet someone Dina...please don't give up.
This is why I am asking the question. Online, we only show what we want others to see. In real life, you are open for inspection for all to see.
I am trying to cut through the BS and see how people react and think about someone they may or may not consider suitable for their tatses when they are considering a mate.
Every individual is unique, and that is why I asked the question. To get a sense of what others think about their own unique tastes and feelings.
You have parameters like everyone else. There is nothing wrong with that. I am just rtying to find out what the personal choices are that you might use as a guide. You are not into older men....like I said, this is a non-judgemental thread and your personal choice....thanks for your contribution Erika!!
What if that person you describe is in a wheel chair Dina..I am not picking on you and if you choosenot to answer, that is ok. What if you started talking to someone on here, and everything was wonderful, and then you met in person and he is parapalegic. Would that matter?
I am 45 years old...I would not feel comfortable dating someone under 30 or over 60.
I know alot of this seems pathetic, but I am trying to see how people think. We all have certain parameters we are looking for and i just wanted to see other opinions about it.
Or is everyone looking for the Prince Charming or Miss America? I have realized that is a goal not attainable here, but I realize trying to find something close is desirable.
And I understand people are not this shallow and look at people as a whole. They don't want to judge people, but we ALL do. I just wanted to see other people's reactions...this is a taboo question and a tough one, but maybe if we can all see what people will accept and not accept might be a good learning tool.
I don't think I could date someone who is obese. I have been obese and now I am just a little overweight. It takes alot of work to be relatively fit. I sound like a hypocrite, but that is the truth. I am open to dating people wth other physical and mental limitations.
I couldn't date someone who is way older or way younger than me.
Prince Charming...Miss America. Let's be real...they wouldn't be on a dating site. I can understand men and women trying to find someone who will come close to their definition of perfection. There are a TON of people out here, especially in cyber-world, who are not Prince Charming or Miss America.
Question...what are your parameters considering a mate? Are our expectations too high? Are they just right? I know this question has a generalization mode to it, but not enough space to be more specific. I will leave the details to you to convey.
How high will you try and how low will you go? I saw a post about someone dating an ex-con. Would that be ok with you? How about someone with a physical or mental affliction?
No answer here can be wrong...it is your preference and opinion. So please no argueing and a whole lot of honesty would be appreciated! I understand people do not want to offend anyone, but ths is an open and pro-honest thread, so leave your hurt feelings at the door please!! Thanks!
Been slapped in the face too hard and too often to realize we are living in reality and not a dream. I can't imagine the horrors of the world are created by our imaginations for "the fun of it". By that process, wouldn't our imaginations override the horrors with solutions?
There are not enough egos to control the madness enough to create all the havoc. Good always conquers evil in the long run and collectively we would be living in Eden if the reality of imagination were true. JMO.
Thanks for the question Dusty..haven't seen you for a while!!
I have never been married or have children. I have dated 2 women who had kids. We got along great and I completely understand the concept of putting the kids 1st. The kids were rather young, so I understood sacrifices had to be made sometimes.
I guess it depends on the person who doesn't have kids. I don't have kids but I always loved children and would have loved to have my own children. Some people are just not interested in kids, so it really does depend on the person.
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), isn't that "good enough" for them or you?
Serious Question About Dating
Thanks Shipoker for your contribution!!