HavinFuninTx Forum Posts (226)

RE: Looks

First of all, there is always someone that will consider anyone attractive. Whether you consider yourself attractive or not. SOMEONE will. Now, you may not consider her attractive.

Second of all... what are you calling 'cool'? Again, everyone has their own idea of cool. IF your idea of a cool lady happens to hold an attraction to your physical presentation, then, possibilities are good.

Physical attraction can catch our eyes but conversations make or break attractions all the time. I have found that someone not necessarily physically attractive to me gets more and more attractive when I find we have the same ideals and dreams. I have met people I considered physically attractive that the more I got to know them, the more they turned me off.

RE: Ewwwwwww, some people just make me wanna spit!

It goes sort of like this. You have fun... you communicate. Feeling good at the time. Make agreements. Then the mind starts to work. Reality sets in. Little things that were said or not said crop up in the mind. Doubt creeps in. Life happens. Then feelings get hurt. How about this idea? If you went on a long time with someone and then they dumped you, would that not hurt worse?

Thank goodness that you have so little invested before either of them cut you loose. Think about it. So much less grief and you learned something about them. Better to bail now than after you change much of your life to fit theirs. Feel grateful for such a low cost lesson.

RE: need help i am new in online dating

Read the complete profile before emailing. If you are not a match, don't email. If it looks like you are a possible match, comment on what you you think you have in common. If they are wordy and you are not and you can't get thru the full profile...move on to the next one as we would drive you bonkers in real life.

Don't try to fake an interest in something. We do figure it out eventually and some of us will crucify liars. Don't listen to most men's advice. Many consider you competition.

RE: Was I wrong???

If it made you uncomortable due to the not responding part when previously it irritated you before when people don't respond, maybe it is a lesson in tolerance and understanding for other people's decisions...why so many have gotten to where they no longer respond. Just my opinion. And I am a real opinionated person, lol!

RE: bad timing

>>>have you ever had someone you really liked but the timing was horrible.<<<

Yes. OH, yes. I met a nice guy recently...lives about 2 hours away. Very much like me, understands my weirdness and is so much weird like me...with the metaphysical stuff. But he just started school, works 6-7 days a week and has side work as well. No time for a relationship.

So, just friends. So, I just quit looking. I figure I just need to take a break from wishing and hoping. Entertain myself until... well, til I feel I am interested in looking again.

RE: How do you feel about someone NOT of your gender preference checking you out

Well, I could care less. Being a leo and all, out there in your face an all that, to me it is ok with me. What the heck. I am not skeered. Might be an old friend trying to figure out if that is you or not. Or someone that read your posts and wants to see if you have interesting things to say elsewhere.

I like reading interesting people's writings. I love to laugh and be entertained.

RE: do you believe that gemstones possess certain properties?

Yes, I do.

RE: Why she is hugging a tree in her picture? is she very passionate?

I really REALLY like that motie... >>

RE: Why she is hugging a tree in her picture? is she very passionate?

Hey, Texans are all different. And just because he IS here does not mean he was always here. You a native Mnowsa?

Got to remember, some of us are so spread out we often don't have lots of neighbors to learn how to be neighborly with. Anyway, we all see things differently. I really like to get to know how people see things. I have noticed men and women tend to see differently. Of course, different history tends to have us all seeing stuff differently, too.

But that can be a very GOOD thing.

RE: Men and their mothers

I sure relate to that. I had a lot of growing up to do myself. It is hard learning as an adult. Forums and chat sites do tend to teach us a lot.

kitty01: If you watch how a man treats his mother it will show how he will treat you.



Both are so true.

Same with all children and all parents. If there is lack of respect, then the adult children either learn it later on their own or they go from marriage to marriage.

RE: Trouble sleeping

Lol! Ah, sounds like me.

RE: Which of these would you choose to survive stress if you had these choices?

My spiritual beliefs keep me balanced. Sometimes if I stress over something, I clear my energies then I am better.

RE: "Why are all the ghosts and aliens only in Amercia?"

Lots of stuff in South America they claim has to be from aliens that dropped in. Peru.

RE: Would u convert to another religion for sake of marriage?

No

RE: Why she is hugging a tree in her picture? is she very passionate?

Or maybe, since I am new here, I just don't get your sense of humor yet.

RE: Why she is hugging a tree in her picture? is she very passionate?

I checked the lady in question's profile and I did see the tree picture. Unfortunately to me...it did NOT look like she was hugging a tree. It looked to me like she was showing to the viewer the immense size of the tree that she had the opportunity to see in person and her arms around it SHOWED the viewer how big the tree is as compared to the person. Maybe I am wrong about that.

Now, reading some of the posts you made, mnowsa ... ...makes me wonder what the inside of your head looks like. Seriously.

RE: what makes you WISE in a relationship? past experience or innate wisdom?

Thank you. Greetings to you, lovely and concerned Lady!

My personal beliefs are...if someone is that easy to run off, they are not worth keeping. I have a new saying I am using now that I read today...


"If you can’t handle someone at their worst,
You don’t deserve them at their best."

If you lost this person due to communication challenges, please, do not feel badly that they cannot accept your mistakes. Know that the people that are most loving and supportive will wonder first if they misunderstood and they will ask for clarification. Often they will dismiss many apparently negative things because they just have all that much personal growth of their own that they can look at others and say to themselves, I used to be like that.


Try to not beat yourself up. There are already plenty of people out there willing to do that FOR you. Instead, maybe being more forgiving and understanding of yourself would attract more forgiving people to you. Then just work on getting better at communicating. Make it a goal. Reward yourself when you do well and forgive yourself and learn from the mistakes you make.

Texas RenFaires

November 21st and 22nd is Barbarian weekend. I already have a tunic (fake fur and I can put on some tan jeans then wrap some fake fur I already have around my calves over some leather toed shoes. Easy peasy. No work. I try to make non sewing costumes. I am a master at making stuff easy. Lazy I am!

RE: What's your favorite place/thing in Texas

Actually, my MOST fav places in Tx got destroyed years ago. One was a wooden fishing pier just on the other side of the ferry in Bolivar. Tropical Storm something or other. The other, Tx Dot destroyed. It was a protected artificial 'reef' at the entrance to the ferries' landing on the Bolivar side. They removed it and put in something you cannot walk on.

RE: SoldierByte and HealthyLiving????

Wow, this is very encouraging to read. I thought since I am so strange and different, that I would never find a match. I guess I need to change my thoughts, eh? Congrats! May you both get what you need and desire from this relationship.

RE: WORDS YOU DON'T LIKE TO HEAR ?

How about NEXT week.

RE: Are you meteoropathic ?

I feel pain when the weather changes. And I have very low blood pressure.

RE: Are you meteoropathic ?

They say get outside. Make yourself do things outside. Thanks for posting this. I had no clue. I have that crap. Now I know how to fix it! Yayyyyyyyy

Texas RenFaires

Barbarians seem to wear lots of leather, black and fur. I saw some fabulous 'boots' someone made. I may go buy some more fake fur and go as a REAL 'fur' back-in-time barbarian. Pun intended.

RE: what makes you WISE in a relationship? past experience or innate wisdom?

...what makes you WISE in a relationship? past experience or innate wisdom?...

But isn't innate wisdom a product of experience? Maybe I should look up the word innate. Personally experience is what I feel is needed in everything we do in life. The more life experience we have, hopefully, the better we get at communicating and getting along with others.

RE: Did the dumb guys messed it up for the real guys looking for love?

Well, like an earlier poster said, maybe they have abandoned their profile. You can check to see if someone has opened your emails. Go to the outbox and check. I also read that some people have hundreds of emails so they don't open them all.

Also, I would not exactly call the people that screwed it up as dumb. More like vicious. We open an email, read the profile and if it is nothing like what we are interested in...and it is obvious they have not bothered to read our profiles, then if we email them back thanking them and explaining politely that we are not interested and get a vicious response, we stop emailing people back.

After all, you stick your finger in the fire three or four times, are you going to continue putting your finger in the fire? If it is obvious someone has NOT read the profile or if they have any info either in their profile or in their email for contact outside of the site, I either delete it or call them liars if they claim to have read the profile.

Read the profile. Respect the info they have in there. Read your own profile. Many people do not remember what they wrote in their profiles. If your profile is way off from matching someone you have emailed, understand they are expecting that profile to be an honest rendition of you and do not respond accordingly. Many feel disrespected when people they are definitely not looking for email them.

I hope you have better luck.

RE: Can you name a funny thing your pet did

Hope your kitty is ok, Markizamkd25.

Years and years ago, I had a male siamese cat that was possessive. I had a neighbor's brother over at my apartment one day and the cat backed up to him and sprayed on his arm. He was a bit of a jerk (the brother) so I had a hard time not laughing.

RE: Unconditional Love

I can love unconditionally as long as I don't have to live with them or be around them. I still love my exes. Now that they are gone, it is way easier. Hence why I choose to stay single.

RE: so

No clue. I am not looking for a soulmate as I have a very different definition of what a soulmate is. It is nothing like the tradition definition.

I am looking for my best friend.

RE: ...do U live on ur own ?!!...

I can't remember being asked that question.