i still dont necessarily think even a large percentage of these mishaps are 'players'
theres another thread running about backing out from insecurity and fear
and another recently regarding why people lie my answer was insecurity and fear
i just met someone it was a shambles i dont think he is a scammer or a player i think he is a hurting person who ends up hurting others i know his insecurity drove him to invade my privacy
life goes on
what direction do we want to take it?
different choices for different result or same ^$#@ different day?
we can choose, and try. sometimes we'll be caught unawares and need a band aid
so whaaat?
im gonna live my life, not let some ghosts from the past dictate my today, as much as i can help it!
sadly sometimes people arent completely honest about whatEVER who knows what it is? something they feel insecure about at first so they fudge the facts then have to jump out b4 discovered
its been many years but ive done it
be glad it happened now before you gave a dang about the potential of him thats a place ive gotten caught up in when a guy does something thats not okay ooooh the potential
ugh forget that-forgive yourself-move on
even if you think he's nice and has a believeable story- maybe it was a sign?- just keep swimming-lol
and for the men that read this and think im cold-oh well its mature to have a bit of self care, protection and boundary
mindfful Forum Posts (18,996)
is key-even in a no thank you or a goodbye...
RE: At what point do we learn to shut up and go away?
me, dissent?come now
surely youve confused us w/ some other site of spout a minute losers
yes luv, it is a 'thing' this attachment to this site...
most who come into forums catch the fever
i dunno-
gas, feelings, etc
i always say 'better out than in'
so no worries-i think overall its a good thing.
plus the times youve been gone it surely was too different around here.