but again this 'seems' like a cry for sympathy from CS and an attempt to manipulate' her
how many threads will you make about this 'relationship'? its a bit insane as is creating a relationship wham bam
but thats only my opinion which is equal to everyone elses
no one can stop you from utilizing the bandwidth available here but if you continue to say the ef word you may have to reincarnate at a later date which in this case my not be the worst idea ever
heres hoping your happiness returns in a happier situation
you just proved that its all been an effort at manipulation
some of us may not appreciate being invold in that crap
i have friends at CS that i share pain and triumph with
behind the scenes
you posted multiple threads at the same time not hiden your feelings from 'us', anyway...
none of 'us' know the whole story-there are 3 sides to everything yours mine and what actually happened...
some of us dont like ppl talking about others behind their backs but if someone found you possibly insincere, maybe they were right
it all seems to be all about your agenda and all bout your pain and all about what you need RIGHT NOW
take some time for healing you might cultivate something a bit healthier next time than what your recent efforts have yielded... history doesnt have to repeat itself-thats up to us
or are you just projecting my intention and posing it as fact
it shows your victim mentality
if someone doesnt agree they are being contrary?
so your 2 past relationships and those being contrary to what you wanted-gee... you are attacked by trolls everywhere you go...
i have expressed repeatedly; i hope you grow from this, that the impending marriage of your ex is certainly a factor and that maybe you might want to make some different choices next time..?
yeah what a contrarian and controversial individual i am. you wouldnt recognize real caring if it slapped you in the face which it is-long before i arrived on the scene- remove your blinders and save yourself man!
i should be quiet is your opinion and you are welcome to it- see? the deal w/ that is we are all equal at CS which has nothing to do w/ any perceived seniority... which ive been here a bit longer-just not in forums... like it matters
sorry you feel confronted-thats on you as we can all seeee-ive mostly responded to exactly the content of your posts.
i think there is a giant difference in these 2 situations- from the length, the outcome and the lack of publicaly crowing about it virtually immediately upon chatting.
oooh-this is sarcasm... well i dunno-it seems very very different to me, these 2 situations...
and i never said its not alright
i said i hope he learns im sorry he's hurting repeated posts arent the most constructive thing get a job maybe do somethin different to cull a different result
all were responses based directly at what he has shared openly. same as yours and some others.
i dont feel inferior, bad or wrong because i see something differently than you do but you may feel differently about that
i thot i read you are rejoining your current paramour soon? i was wishing you the best of luck-now ill do so publically as after all i cannot have what i do not wish for another
not like anyone wanted to hear it in the first place
yeah youve heard in the past that i enjoy people w/ emotional maturity principles are self sufficient through their own contributions and have some kind of a filter when they are speaking in public?
youve heard that i am a stickler for holding people to their own words that are in black and white
yeah i guess that makes me a jerk oh well....
we all have our own filtering system, and many of us are at CS to employ it in discerning who might be potential friends and 'friends'
repeated threads like this and those tra-la-la-ing in the last few weeks before the crash make it pretty clear to a healthy person of a persons possible candidacy
gee whiz-45 and ive developed a filtering system what an arrogant clod i am
3 or more threads in a night is self pity the fact that you are overlooking the comments made in truth about the length of your 'relationship' with another CS member, the time you spent face to face, etc speaks volumes
im saying a) if i were you id be too embarrassed about the fuss that was displayed after a few hrs of calls between you two-b4 you even met, and maybe less than a whole week after she was here broken hearted about her 'relationship' with another CS member who she'd never met in the flesh
sorry but these are all "facts"posted here publically for all to see, even still and on google-FOREVER- i would just be too embarrassed to be posting 'please come back' its sad in so many ways-i try to think people evolve
and b) i think, in compassion, we can all see that you are of course, hurt by your ex's impending marriage and desperate to couple w/ someone, but this will not replace the void or self esteem that was injured by your ex's hurtful choices.
i undersand that pain, yet i dont think any of these behaviors have been helpful...its hard for us to stand by and watch this is all...
why am i being unkind when i am only responding to what you yourself have been posting? your denial is heartbreaking and will surely lead to more of the same result...
not sure but i think ive only seen one of you two posting much about this, so i am hopeful - perhaps the other member involved is doing some re-evaluation. rebound is a shortlived scenario as ive seen, and anything ive ever started whitehot has always burnt out pretty quickly.
also there may be more pressing matters you could be attending to?
also a response to your own postings why cant people handle the truth? dont post it if you dont want ALL input.
i think there was a thread by a guy the other day who was in a similar situation... asked us if he should get out
i think it was a resounding "RUUUUUN!"
sorry but im sick of people wanting and demanding all this sympathy and attention for a relationship that lasted 5 minutes and they met for 30 seconds (figuratively of course)
ya know who i feel for? the longtimers the ones that built a life together and lost it...
ive never cheered a 'just add water --instant relationship' and i never will-it always ends in heartache for everyone
thank god it didnt work so her kids dont have to see examples of this
people cant slam together and fit together it takes time to put a puzzle together
strangers dont talk on the phone and tell everyone they know or dont they are in love because they talk on the phone 9 hrs at a time.
get a job get a house get a life sell your pc and use the one at the public library stop being online so much, giving advice on one site and being in a 'crying on shoulders competition' on yet another site
get a membership in life be self supporting thru your own contributions
im a little sorry you are hurt right now but im sure this isnt the first time this pattern has taken place in either of your lives get honest with yourself
i really hope for your sake you do learn from this pain and frankly im sick to death hearing about it
two people in severe pain running at each other will always result in bruises at the very least
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make it pretty clear to a healthy person
RE: Im sorry
so if i post here im a troll i sposebut again this 'seems' like a cry for sympathy from CS
and an attempt to manipulate' her
how many threads will you make about this 'relationship'?
its a bit insane
as is creating a relationship wham bam
but thats only my opinion
which is equal to everyone elses
no one can stop you from utilizing the bandwidth available here
but if you continue to say the ef word
you may have to reincarnate at a later date
which in this case my not be the worst idea ever
heres hoping your happiness returns in a happier situation