AnneDee Forum Posts (29)

RE: Are you afraid of being alone?

No, not afraid to be alone, in fact it's my best moment ever. I don't like being lonely though, it hurts.

Is the need for being pampered a bad thing in a relationship?

Thanx. I wouldn't want that either. a gift for every date? that's too much and suspicious.

Is the need for being pampered a bad thing in a relationship?

Actra and Eagle, thanx for the explanation. At least I'm still safe, I'm not materialistic coz I don't put objects before human. I give with an honest heart and feel sooooo gud for it.

I once dated a guy who on the very first date talked about his things, house, cars, business and highlighted that they are not under his name. He sounded so defensive to me like I said I wanted his stuff. I met him here in CS, maybe he assumed girls fro online sites are not real. I felt bad. I mean, I can't ask and have never in my life asked for even a pin from a guy. That turned me off. I sent him an email on the following day quitting.

Is the need for being pampered a bad thing in a relationship?

for you.

Is the need for being pampered a bad thing in a relationship?

In reality a relationship is not just about the feelings (love, care, trust, pampering (as I now understand), etc, etc). There are material things involved, no matter how small, but the material subject is avoided and seen as a sin or something terrible. Is giving someone a gift being materialistic too? I'm not first language English speaking.......what does ' being materialistic' mean?

Is the need for being pampered a bad thing in a relationship?

I've never been lucky to date a guy who spoils me. Apart from two teddy bears, chocolates and other snacks while I was still a student, and being taken to a movie is all I know.

I cherish gifts from family or friends and I'm not shy to give. It warms my heart. I'd love to share that in a relationship for birthdays and other special occasions or just a love geture.

I'm not a begging type. I don't know where I would start. When I wish for something (eg in the mall and broke) I never tell the guy, I keep it to myself and die inside alone. Are guys offended and run when a girl asks for something, mistaking her for a gold digger?

Clarity: I'm not here in CS for that. I afford pampering myself. Whenever I get the opportunity I do something nice for me. E.g yesterday I ordered myself a new phone for my birthday next week.

RE: 10 Things to learn from the Japanese

Inspiring indeed. Wishing these 10 lessons could reach South Africa. I'll do my bit.

My baby's first word was...

Thank you for peace and info. I do know Tellytubbies. I enjoy them myself. They play them on local TV.

My baby's first word was...

Apologies, I'm not saying it in a bad way. I saying I had no idea babies could say more than mama and dada. Maybe my vocabulary is to narrow. I'm not critisizing but find it interesting that a small baby can just say a huge word first time. Apologies if you feel offended. Peace?

My baby's first word was...

Mell & Deb, seems like I'm way behind. It seems like evolution has taken place since mama and dada. 'Bad boy', 'Elmo'? I'm sure these days we will hear babies saying 'facebook'.

RE: Would you date someone 20 years older or younger than you?

Maybe yes. But if he has the energy, personality matching mine. If older then he has to have a tight body. If younger he has to be independant, I'm not going to play mama.

RE: What is the weirdest thing some one you have dated has done?

I once dated a guy who besides having his ears pierced, also had an S-curl styled hair. At night he used to cover his head with a plastic bag to avoid messing the pillows with all the oil. The plastic bag made hell of a noise all night. He also had his pants pulled up and belt so high.

Lastly he demanded I say I love him everytime he called. I knew I had to say it but he forced it out of me. I had to dump him.

Is it still a mistake when he confuses one opening with the other? again and again and again?

same here

Is it still a mistake when he confuses one opening with the other? again and again and again?

When a guy misses the right opening and ALMOST enters the other one, more than once or twice, says nothing but sorry when I pull away, do I need to worry?

RE: Do women really nead a man?

I'll do it, especially now that I've talked about it. Thanx C.

RE: Do women really nead a man?

I'm just asking, coz I'm sure they come different. Size does matters to me in real life. I'm a woman.

I sense of humour a big deal in a relationship?

Oohh! I get it now. At least laugh if you can't make others laugh. I like your post.

Share your good and bad travel experiences

Good for you. You are lucky you have those cheap flights. Here I get opportunity to travel becoz I never got training in my job, self-taught, I can only be trained overseas, it's scarce skill localy. I'm always looking for such opportunities.

RE: Do women really nead a man?

I'd love to try one but I'm shy to go inside the store and buy. If you don't mind me asking....is it always up and ready? does size count?

RE: Do women really nead a man?

Devices are only temporal, for times like these, y'know, while still searching for a real thing, like now in CS. But when a man exists and has the right tools, the device takes leave.

Share your good and bad travel experiences

Wow Darren and Joell and others, so many places you've seen. I'm wondering what kind of a job lets you travel so much, business or fun? I might consider changing careers....or lifestyle. But I'm really inspired by all of you and thanx for sharing.

RE: Are Independent,'out spoken,funny and smart woman scarey to men?

From where I come from, an independent smart woman is seen as an intimidation by 'most' men. If a woman has a successful career, her own property, business and stuff, the man immediately assumes she wuld boss him around. Most men assume from a distance without getting to know the woman better first.

There's also this beleif that most successful single women are manless not because they are too busy working but it's because they are bossy in relationships and get dumped. That's not true. Men just feel intimidated! Men who do not have a problem with these women are a rare species and i hope they pass on those good genes to their boy children.

Share your good and bad travel experiences

At the AIRPORT!

Share your good and bad travel experiences

Say that again. The cashiers especially take people for a ride. It happened to me here at home! She thought I was a tourist and dd not have time to calculate. She charged me double the price. I corrected her and she called the supervisor who just cancelled and gave me the right change, no apology or any sign to show this was a mistake! Beware people, calculate!

Share your good and bad travel experiences

IMO there is good and bad everywhere we go.
Not all 'good's and 'bad's are the same. Do you mind sharing just one for interest's and fun's sake.

Share your good and bad travel experiences

Please do come back J. CS is not a country, it is the world!

Share your good and bad travel experiences

Mention the counrties you have ever travelled to and next to each write one good and one bad experience about it.

I sense of humour a big deal in a relationship?

Let't say your partener has everything else you are looking for but not 'sense of humour'. Is it a problem not to have it? Most people like to mention it in the top 5 characters of ideal match.

RE: shall I keep this baby?

I suggest you keep this baby, go for caunselling for yourself and with your family, and give the baby up for adoption. At least you'll know your child is alive. The father can go to hell and hang himself with a toilet paper.