what good is it to be reminded of the things that cannot be changed specially if they cannot be fixed and there is no dire need for someone new in your life to be troubled by those things which nothing can be done about???
this is the theory that i live my life by. if you have something that you have to get off your chest.. DO IT! if people cannot deal with them, then they cannot deal with YOU.. so find others who can! :)
in regards to the other person being your "man" then theres lots of fish in the sea, don't settle for someone who cannot deal with what you have to offer, bc you aren't going to change, and he's definately not going to change either.
... all coming from someone with a very simply theory of life
GOOD MOVE!! i agree on the heartache part, it's totally there, it will never go away for as long as you're apart, it's only natural that you long to physically see them and spend time with them because nothing compares to face to face.
from personal experience... YES THEY WORK.. and if you're totally into eachother IT'S QUITE EASY.. bc the security is there, and on top of that you have all the time you want to do those things that make YOU truly happy, aside from being with each other..
i'm not longer in a long distance relationship after 2 + years.. and it was bc we didn't have a plan.. so before you start anything make sure you're going somewhere, have a roadmap!
BINGO!! 'm afraid that in london ontario it's the #1 hangout for people over 65.. wouldn't quit fit in
i don't have a hard time meeting people who want to get physical with me, the thing is that ever since i've gone celibate, it's a whole new playground where i'm no longer the popular kid.. HA HA HA!
plus i'm really looking for someone really special, so why not search the world?
as i've taken up celibacy after my last relationship i've discovered how shallow men can be when it comes to no kissing after hanging out. most think that it's because i didn't like them, which wasn't necessarily the case, but if a guy needs that kind of indication to actually know when a girl likes him, then he's clueless about my real needs. plus from past experiences i know how a first kiss can lead to "heated" situations that perhaps may come to early... i do make it a point to tell them that we're simply hanging out and not on a "date" as i've given up "dating".
it really has shown me a whole new side of body language and how to interpret true affection. needless to say, i'm still waiting for a real gentlemen who appreciates my thoughtfulness and is alright with caring affection as opposed to FIREWORKS.
..and not to mention artisan chocolatiers due to mass production no one knows the different btwn a milky way and a gourmet truffle (sort of speak) i'm only one of two in my city.. very very sad.
thats fantastic!! gold star for you (in my books at least!)
i was in a long distance relationship for 2 years and we were alright for the first year and after that it hit me that i had no idea where it was going and that there was no map/plan in place and for me that was a really scary thing specially when most of my heart belonged to this other person.. at which point, i simply wanted some emotional support to make the move, anyhow, there was none of that, and here i am single again..
worked out great! BUT i did learn that if and when i do meet the person who feels right in my heart, and if they happen to be at a distance, then i'll have to 1. meet them ASAP(bc things are different once you're face to face).. and then 2. (if i even make it there) set a goal of when to be together (just in the same city, not move in or anything)..JUST to have that peace of mind that comes when you stare out into a tunnel and find some sort of light at the end.
isn't that so true, when you stop looking things simply appear from right under your nose! it's a magical placement i think!
thanks for the encouragement! :) i do believe in God and praying for a partner has been a priority as i believe that it is something that he best knows.
ok, so i'm young, and on top of that i have this curse or blessing which is being a hopeless romantic... call me crazy but even after having my heart broken and shedding many tears, i'm still willing to give it all up in persuit of REAL LOVE.. of those butterflies, or that person who makes you want to REALLY LIVE life.
..i've done some pretty crazy things to get whatever it was that love wanted from me.. for example.. i once had this major crush on a really nice guy who i refused to date bc he was so nice, i saw him a couple of years later and i refused to go on a date with him. as soon as i had refused, my heart broke and i knew i had made a huge mistake~ so i called a friend and sat on his front lawn and waited with binaculars in hand until he came home... hmm, didn't turn out to well as it was a friday night and maybe he went home to someone else, but he never showed up at his house (or maybe i freaked him out).. anyhow I GAVE LOVE A CHANCE!...
i get it, my no tactics freaks men away, but "HEY?!".. have you ever considered the saying, "your OTHER HALF".. well this is the way i look at it. when i'm missing something like my LICENCE or something i go crazy looking for it, i put so much passion into finding it, i get so anxious and exhausted ~ it's truly insane. NOW, my other half, the person who will complete me, it only makes sense to me to put as much passion into finding them as i do into finding some stupid piece of plastic.
ok, so i'm young, and on top of that i have this curse or blessing which is being a hopeless romantic... call me crazy but even after having my heart broken and shedding many tears, i'm still willing to give it all up in persuit of REAL LOVE.. of those butterflies, or that person who makes you want to REALLY LIVE life.
..i've done some pretty crazy things to get whatever it was that love wanted from me.. for example.. i once had this major crush on a really nice guy who i refused to date bc he was so nice, i saw him a couple of years later and i refused to go on a date with him. as soon as i had refused, my heart broke and i knew i had made a huge mistake~ so i called a friend and sat on his front lawn and waited with binaculars in hand until he came home... hmm, didn't turn out to well as it was a friday night and maybe he went home to someone else, but he never showed up at his house (or maybe i freaked him out).. anyhow I GAVE LOVE A CHANCE!...
i get it, my no tactics freaks men away, but "HEY?!".. have you ever considered the saying, "your OTHER HALF".. well this is the way i look at it. when i'm missing something like my LICENCE or something i go crazy looking for it, i put so much passion into finding it, i get so anxious and exhausted ~ it's truly insane. NOW, my other half, the person who will complete me, it only makes sense to me to put as much passion into finding them as i do into finding some stupid piece of plastic.
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