andyjay4 Forum Posts (122)

RE: Why do women lie about themselves

I'm a woman and have never lied about myself. However I know that many many women lie, esp in their online profiles. I think they do this because they know that men are looking for ideal types-young, thin, shapely types and the woman who does not meet these criteria will be passed by. So they post old photos of themselves in their youth, and lie about their ages. I know of a recent incident in which someone lied about their age, and when pressed for the reason said that everyone online was lying so why not...

Well.. I ask, what does it profit the liar (male or female) when they will get nowhere as they will probably not want to meet the person they are writing to as the truth will come out. For those brave enough to meet the person, I wonder how they think they will be received.

Can any of you who have lied tell me how you have been received? Did the person continue to see you, if you met them.

For those who continue to lie, what do you get out of it?
My two cents

RE: Why do they look so old?!

Most people when I tell them my age, so I'm one with some 'youthful' looks.

I suggest you work on your attitude too. This remark about women of your age is most unkind.

RE: I'm giving up on dating

You know Sadeyes, a friend told me the same thing the other day. Seems there are some guys who are so messed up inside that when you show them ypou like them, they think something must be wrong with YOU for liking them. Here's the thing... these are not the kind of men you want in your life. They call them commitment phobes (afraid of commitment).

I know one man who always chooses women who are completely unattainable for his crushes....and disses the real nice women around him (his last comment to me was that they had excess mileage and low maintenance) I don't fall into that category, but man, did I want to take a swing at him through the computer screen. We're not talking obese women here, and not everyone can afford plastic surgery when the jawline sags.

Sadeyes, my dear friends would say... consider this a "Thank You Jesus" moment. The man showed you his true colors (commitment phobic) early on before you got too emotionally involved.

Still,.. if this has been a tend in your life, you may also want to figure out if you come across as too eager to please sometimes, or otherwise do stuff that turns men off. Hope things go better for you in 2007

RE: I'm giving up on dating

You know Sadeyes, a friend told me the same thing the other day. Seems there are some guys who are so messed up inside that when you show them ypou like them, they think something must be wrong with YOU for liking them. Here's the thing... these are not the kind of men you want in your life. They call them commitment phobes (afraid of commitment).

I know one man who always chooses women who are completely unattainable for his crushes....and disses the real nice women around him (his last comment to me was that they had excess mileage and low maintenance) I don't fall into that category, but man, did I want to take a swing at him through the computer screen. We're not talking obese women here, and not everyone can afford plastic surgery when the jawline sags.

Sadeyes, my dear friends would say... consider this a "Thank You Jesus" moment. The man showed you his true colors (commitment phobic) early on before you got too emotionally involved.

RE: I'm giving up on dating

You know Sadeyes, a friend told me the same thing the other day. Seems there are some guys who are so messed up inside that when you show them ypou like them, they think something must be wrong with YOU for liking them. Here's the thing... these are not the kind of men you want in your life. They call them commitment phobes (afraid of commitment).

I know one man who always chooses women who are completely unattainable for his crushes....and disses the real nice women around him (his last comment to me was that they had excess mileage and low mainbtenance) I don't fall into that category, but man, did I want to take a swing at him through the computer screen. We're not talking obese women here, and not everyone can afford plastic surgery when the jawline sags.

Sadeyes, my dear friends would say... consider this a "Thank You Jesus" moment. The man showed you his true colors (commitment phobic) early on before you got too emotionally involved.

RE: pics on profiles

With all due respect Wildness, may I suggest another opinion...I removed my photo as it was attracting men who seem not to read profiles, and sent me notes hoping to interest me, when they were not the type I wanted to meet. In removing my photo I now get no responses, but I'm not bothered by that, for it confirms that they were not reading my profile anyway.

My profile is entirely true, and I doubt that anyone reading it would think otherwise. You see, something tells me that many guys are looking for some kind of fantasy world in which people have no imperfections (never mind their own!) There's many who do not even want to speak on the phone or meet in real life. Emails and IMing is enough for them.

Online dating should be the means for you to make initial contact, and move things (if people are honest) into real life as soon as possible. Imagine my horror when I discovered that a man whose online photo said he was a little overweight, failed to mention that the pic was several years out of date, and turned out to be 400 lbs Good thing he admitted the truth and sent me the new one before we met. I'm about fed up with online dating and think I should have better luck when I am able to get back into a real social life.

Where friendships are concerned I can be freinds wih anyone who shares my interests, I don't even need a photo of them.

RE: pics on profiles

With all due respect Wildness, may I suggest another opinion...I removed my photo as it was attracting men who seem not to read profiles, and sent me notes hoping to interest me, when they were not the type I wanted to meet. In removing my photo I now get no responses, but I'm not bothered by that, for it confirms that they were not reading my profile anyway.

My profile is entirely true, and I doubt that anyone reading it would think otherwise. You see, something tells me that many guys are looking for some kind of fantasy world in which people have no imperfections (never mind their own!) There's many who do not even want to speak on the phone or meet in real life. Emails and IMing is enough for them.

Online dating should be the means for you to make initial contact, and move things (if people are honest) into real life as soon as possible. Imagine my horror when I discovered that I man whose online photo said he was a little overweight, turned out to be 400 lbs Good thing he admitted that the other pic was old and sent me the new one before we met. I'm about fed up with online dating and think I should have better luck when I am able to get back into a real social life.

Where friendships are concerned I can be freinds wih anyone who shares my interests, I don't even need a photo of them.

RE: pics on profiles

With all due respect Wildness, may I suggest another opinion...I removed my photo as it was attracting men who seem not to read profiles, and sent me notes hoping to interest me, when they were not the type I wanted to meet. In removing my photo I now get no responses, but I'm not bothered by that, for it confirms that they were not reading my profile anyway.

My profile is entirely true, and I doubt that anyone reading it would think otherwise. You see, something tells me that many guys are looking for some kind of fantasy world in which people have no imperfections (never mind their own!) There's many who do not even want to speak on the phone or meet in real life. Emails and IMing is enough for them.

Online dating should be the means for you to make initial contact, and move things (if people are honest) into real life as soon as possible. Imagine my horror when I discovered that I man whose onlne photo said he was a little overweight, turned out to be 400 lbs Good thing he admitted that the other pic was old and sent me the new one before we met. I'm about fed up with online dating and think I should have better luck when I am able to get back into a real social life.

Where friendships are concerned I can be freinds wih anyone who shares my interests, I don't even need a photo of them.

RE: pics on profiles

So true, sometimes it's not what is said so much as what is left unsaid.

RE: Your feelings on love...

I always think of that beautiful piece which they played in the movie "Ghost" when the guy sees his wife for the last time. Darn, I can hear the tune in my mind but can't recall the words.

RE: A single man with no children in a parenting site...

Under those conditions, find some way to get the creep off the site. He's definitely not trying to learn how to be come a good parent.


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What makes me sick is that I know this guy. He is my ex boyfriend. And I found out by a few of his friends that he had this website where he lured young underage girls. When he found out that I knew about it and others he quickly erased the site. My friends have filed reports against him and we did make that aware to staff of the site but they told us that they can't do anything about it. Ummmmm thats dumb because they have banned a few parents for petty stuff yet allow a "possible" p*dophile into a parenting site??

Absolutly disgusting if you ask me!

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RE: Has anybody felt this way....

Yes I feel that way sometimes, but I try to remember that the man of my dreams may sign up tomorrow. Gotta keep a positive mindset. Besides the forum is a great place to make new friends.

Hi... newbie here from Miami, loking for a nice man and some female friends

Hi Chrissy,
I've been travelling but better late than never to reply to your welcome.

Hi... newbie here from Miami, loking for a nice man and some female friends

I got to China this Summer, and will be in Italy in November, so the Netherlands is not out of the question. Hope to meet you one day Alex.

RE: has anyone meet anyone from here?

Yep, I've met someone from here, and spoke to another on the phone.

RE: The definition of an English Gentleman (for those who need to know)

So Belushi... got any English gentleman friends you could send my way? I can speak well enough to be with any of them Oxford lads

RE: Physical Attraction??

Such a beautiful story Angel, and one that gives all of us who do not meet the standard of beauty desired by most, that we will find someon who desires us simly because of who we are.

RE: Physical Attraction??

RE: ARE YOU CRAZY OR NORMAL?

I'll beat that one... how about tearing out your hair 'cos you can't find said glasses (sun or reading) only to look in the mirror and find out you're wearing them).

RE: After 45 years of searching I think I found her.

Congratulations to the both of you.

RE: Name the top 5 things in a womans purse..

can't leave home without...
1. wallet (must have credit cards)
2. makeup and mirror (can't have one without the other)
3. "lady things"
4. sunshades
5. hand sanitizer

RE: give alex her due

Agreed. Whatever Alex's views I admire her for the work she is doing. I hear of the risks that people take when they go to help in disaster zones. Alex... I'm sure you're out there helping the less fortunate. Bless you and your work.

RE: Wayne's World!

What's this? Did someone have a birthday? Yeah, Wayne's cool. I don't know Garth so I can't speak for him.

RE: Lurkers

you mean things that go 'bump' in the night?

RE: Coffee/ Tea/ Pop/ Water/ Ale/ What is your daily joy in drink~!???

Cafe con leche with breakfast, Iced green tea (any flavor) during the day and chinese relaxation tea at night

RE: SOMETHING WIKKED THIS WAY COMES....

I disagree iRon, fact is I felt welcome from the outset. I've encountered no unkind people here.

RE: best put down

When they ask for my number, give them this one 305-241-0033

RE: Profile Comments...

Seems OK to me, but I'm kind of 'different'

RE: Relationships

Same here. Get your act in order, THEN contact me.

RE: Ladies, how do you like your meat?

t bone (well done), baked potatoes with cheese and a raw veggie salad