Has anybody felt this way.... ( Archived) (58)

As much as I enjoyed being here as much as I can, and having all the fun, I also feel that maybe I should just walk away from it.

The reason I say that is because I know that for me their really is no hope of meeting somebody, due to the fact I am so far away, and everybody that becomes interested in me is hundreds of miles away...and I am unable to leave my state because of my little girls medical treatment.

I also would not expect someone to give up there home state for me.

What makes it more difficult, is that for the first time since I have been here, I have become interested in someone that is unattainable, even if he lives in the US...and of course he does not know, lol.

I guess my point is, I am confused...I don't know if all the friends I made and all the fun I have is enough to stop my illusions, and that is kind of hard, yes I am 41 yrs old, but feel 18 right now...go ahead and laugh at me, but I hope someone can understand this....do I make any sense at all....this is bad...I can give advice in my field...and I can't help myself tonight...

I'd stick around if I were you.
Maybe you won't find that special someome & maybe you will.
He could be right around the corner.
Isn't this site more than just finding your soulmate?
It is for me,I'm meeting lots of new & interesting people.

i agree with chrissy on that one,just hang in there,you are doing fine,you can do it

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i agree with chrissy on that one,just hang in there,you are doing fine,you can do it

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YES BIG TIME. but I reaally did not come here to meet anybody I came here for other reasons so I am ok with this fact.

We are all spread out that is for sure I did not exspect that but as I said no expectations makes it easier.

Yes that is exactly what I have said, it is more that about finding a soulmate...I have a lot of fun, but I can not deny that an attraction is in my mind that I can not pursue...or perhaps any other...their is almost like a lack of balance in my life right now.

I can stay...which is what I want to do....but their is a void that I need to fill too.


Thanks for your words...I appreciate them truly.

Never say never!
Never give up hope!
Never give up the good things that you have found here!


I totally understand where you are coming from!

For me I come here to make friends and have fun and if/when I meet the right person that will be a bonus!

It's very frustrating when we don't find what we are looking for right away....but that also doesn't mean that we never will!

It means that it's not the right time yet, not that it will never be the right time!

I can't tell you what you should do...I can only say that I fully understand how you feel...because sometimes I feel the same way!

Although some of our reasons may be different, I do know how you feel.

I have been here a year and a half and although I communicate with a few people, many are many, many miles away and even those within a 5 hour radius are unattainable, disinterested or take your pic.

What has kept me here is the availability of being able to express myself and the potential for good friends. I therefore do not consider it as a "no succes" in the romance department, but rather a true success in the friends department, so I only gained....

Perhaps you should consider what is attainable, even if it measures up to being friendship...

Why are you being so selfish?

You are keeping you to yourself.

This beau of yours might reciprocate the feelings.

He may like to get to know you via CS and then maybe come to visit you, and then decide that you are too good to miss out on, and he may want to move.

But the overriding thing is ... have you asked him?

What do you have to lose?

You dont have him now, and if he is any sort of human being in touch with any sort of feelings, then he will not be so churlish as to ignore you.

Admittedly this thread would sort of give it away if he read it. after you mailed him ... but
faint heart never won fair maiden/guy (Delete as applicable)