sweetkitten4 Forum Posts (15)

RE: I have just read.....I love you........

Sorry I've just got in from work and misread your name.

RE: I have just read.....I love you........

Josie I totally agree with you. An ex-colleague of mine once told me unless you learn to love yourself how can you expect anyone else to love you. At that time it was the wake up call I needed because I was going through a stage in my life when I completely lacked confidence. Four years after he said that I found the courage to leave an abusive relationship and that was the best thing I did. Good post.

RE: How do I escape aggressive pushy "friends?"

I agree with what the others have said. Walk away and change your phone number. Is there a community project that you're interested in? If so why not give it a go. You might meet new friends. And well done. It takes a lot of courage to do what you did.

RE: Merry Christmas to All (except Trolls)

Merry Christmas Pat and have a great New Year

RE: Fake Military Men

Also watch out for them sending their private e mail address. Sometimes the age in their message will be different to the one in their profile.

RE: Another newbie

Hi lovelylass Welcome to cs.

RE: Do u believe in Angels?

Yes I believe in Angels and I've got a few books on the subject. It's believed that angels don't only communicate by white feathers, they can also communicate by leaving a beautiful floral smell where there is no obvious source for the smell.

Who remembered to put the clocks back?

I'm just glad that I remembered before I went to work otherwise the overnight manager would have had a shock with me turning up an hour early for work instead of the usual 20-30 minutes. A customer told me that she sometimes forgets at this time of year. So I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Who remembered to put the clocks back?

The one on my computer is but the rest aren't. One of my colleagues remembered to set his clocks back but then he was an hour late because he forgot to set his alarm.

Who remembered to put the clocks back?

This morning I got up had my bath and got dressed. Then I remembered I forgot to put my clocks back Good job I remembered before I set off for work this morning.

RE: When Do Attempts At Persuasion Become Controlling and Manipulative?

I have since met a couple of women who have had the same experience as me, one a former colleague, went through worse. She was beaten with a baseball bat in front of her children, her former partner was jailed. She has gone on to have 2 other relationships, one of which she is still in and she's very happy. Another lady was so bitter she doesn't trust men at all now. Me personally I had support from men as well as women after my divorce and I've had a couple of relationships myself since. They may not have worked out but I learned from them. I've also learned that just because a relationship doesn't work out it's not because either partner has failed but because it simply wasn't meant to be. I came out of that marriage knowing that I will not allow myself to be treated that way again. I am stronger than I used to be. Control/manipulation means different things to different people. At the end of the day we all decide what we will and will not accept in a relationship. Have a good day everyone.

RE: When Do Attempts At Persuasion Become Controlling and Manipulative?

With my second husband I needed permission to go to sleep. If I fell asleep before him he would wake me up. When he wanted something whether it was money or anything else and if I refused he would start screaming and shouting and even smashed up furniture. The day I told him I was divorcing him, he started asking what he was going to do for money and then chased me round the house in front of my son and bruised both my arms. After the divorce he took me to court over petty things like the rubbish in the front garden which I would gladly have given him. The judge banned him from taking any further action against me because she was fed up with seeing us in court. I haven't heard from him since. For me controlling/manipulative behaviour means when a person uses violence or emotional blackmail to get the behaviour they want out of their partner. With my ex-husband it started off as threats to leave me unless I did as I was told and threats of suicide. Then when those stopped working it escalated to behaviour described above. In those days I didn't have the confidence I have now. My son and myself got help from the school, friends, family, neighbours, my bosses and a support group after the divorce. Since that time my son has passed his exams and is now going to college and I passed a course my job sent me on and got a diploma in Customer Care. That has been my experience.

RE: Why people choose divorce?

With my first marriage it was simply that I had married too young and for the wrong reasons. The divorce in that instance was mutually agreed and we parted amicably. With my second marriage domestic violence was the reason. That divorce wasn't so amicable as I found out when I told my ex that I wanted a divorce that he had only married me so he could give up his job and have someone support him. I do still believe in marriage as I see so many people with good marriages. My own parents for example were married for over 40 years before my mother died. They had their ups and downs but they loved each other so much that 10 years after my mother's death my father hasn't looked at another woman.

RE: Is feeding a black lab beans a good idea

My late dog Candy used to love lettuce and she had a thing about the toilet. We'd flush it, she'd get excited, look down it, then she'd chase the cat up the corridor and the next minute the cat would chase her down the corridor. They were raised together and often cuddled up together to sleep.

RE: TO ALL WOMEN

Thank you for a lovely post.