I'm not sure if this is just in BC but I saw something yesterday that made me sick and I thought I would ask for your opinions.
Our government has decided that giving very large amounts of money to those who were in the residential schools back in the day would help them deal with what happened.
So as I am sitting having coffee with my uncle one of the local "wino's" here in town comes up to talk to him. He was telling us how he had just recieved a cheque for 65,000 and would continue to recieve an extra 10,000 a year for the number of years that he spent in the residential school.. WOW
Now I know what happened to them was not fair but what the hell is giving them all this money going to accomplish? They dont have bank accounts or anything like that so they are going to get jumped for the money which is going to pay for nothing but drugs and booze.. Does it not seem like the money could have gone to something better? Like education for the kids of these people or to pay for medical expenses or something?
I mean hello, bad stuff happens to people all the time, but yet only one group of people get this huge amount of money to pay for the mistakes of some idiots years ago..
Yes religion matters to me. The person I am with does not have to have the same beliefs but better not knock mine.
I have a relationship with God, as do my children. That is something that will never change. I think that it is hard and I know this from experience to be with someone who does not share some of the same beliefs as it seems to put up a wall on certain occasions.. I mean like Christmas and Easter and the major ones that people go to church on, if your partner wont come it splits the family up right at the holidays.
There needs to be give and take I think as far as the whole thing goes
Good thing.. as long as it is neat.. I like knowing that the man I am with is really a man.. little grass in the playground so to speak.. not so much into the jungle though
I can speak out of experience here. My kids dad is a deadbeat. He is around every once in awhile but it is never good. He thinks buying a few gifts and spoiling them every few months makes him a dad...(we live 5 minutes apart)
His reasoning is simple. I left and it is my fault that he is not in their lives. (or so he thinks). He thinks that he will never meet another woman who would be ok with the kids and seeing me happy pisses him off (awwwe princess ).
It is more or less a control thing. He knows that if he picks the kids up I will be free to do what I want and that is something he is not ready to let happen. I think in some sick way he thinks that it is revenge... Well it bothers me none that he is not around cause I think my children are better off without him..(he doesnt have very big shoes to fill) and I play both roles just effin fine
I just make time for that person or go the little extra mile. Things like bringing them a coffee on their lunch break or going out of my way to make sure they see me that day.
I think most of the time there is a 2 way attraction anyways so it is usually pretty easy to figure out.
I do not think it is right. At nine children do not have the mentallity to know what is right and they probably dont have the ability to act in case of emergency.
Here in BC they have that babysitting course which you have to be 10 in order to take and 12 in order to be left legally in charge of younger children.
IMO you should talk to da momma and voice your concers. It cant hurt and who knows maybe there was other supervision or something you didnt know about.
A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~Tenneva Jordan
When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty
I'm with Pucks on this one. Friends are great and you never know, that great friend of yours just might turn into the best "lover" you ever had... you gotta get past the friends part first.
Hey Pucks.. how come all the other members that live close together plan little coffee dates and all that and none of us do. I live about 2 hrs from you and I'm sure there are more.. I think we should work on that
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what do you all think?
RE: Need some advice, feeling ...................hurt??
Now you are gonna get a smack for the highjack attempt!!!"to smack or not to smack"