But, I must chat with you a bit first, get to know you a bit and try to make sure I will be bringing no dangerous painters to my home or my daughter.
Although the person who started this thread may be a very nice guy, a commitment like marriage shouldn't be taken that lightly. I could no more promise to marry someone I had never met, than jump off a cliff. This just seems like a dangerous situation to me. But, best of luck to anyone who is willing to give it a go.
That is right! Because we all know what the person looks like is SO much more important than what their heart is like, if they are axe murderers, who cares, as long as they look good doing it lololol.
Hey Hey, GOOD FOR YOU!! I have never had a drinking problem, but was married to a man who did. I just wanted to say, great for stopping and best luck in staying strong and not going back to it!
Welcome Dannyrivers. I have only been here a couple of months myself, but have made some really good friends and immensely enjoyed the forums. Have fun and welcome :)
Offering a kindness of paying for the sitter would in no way give you the responsibility of disciplining the child. If you pay for the sitter, and they child disobeys, you wouldn't see it anyway. This would be a matter between the sitter and the Mom. If a babysitter, a teacher or God forbid a man ever raised a hand to my child......... ok I bet Star answers this one for me.
If you offer to pay for the sitter, that is just a "kindness" you are extending to the Mom. If you take me to dinner, and I gain 10 pounds, is that your responsibility also? lol.
Hopefully, if you date a woman with children, you will date someone who has done their best to teach their children to behave. And, discipline would never be the issue. My child knows she better behave in front of others. She better be a pleasure to be around, or me and her will work that out at home.
I also have gone into Walmart and have seen all the little undisciplined children. Mine knows better. She stands right next to me the entire time and holds on to the cart. We then take a trip down the toy isle together so she can look at the toys. I would never walk in and give her run of the store. She is well spoiled, but has to remain behaving properly to continue to get spoiled.
OMG aren't you a sweetheart? I think you paying for the sitter was a really kind gesture. I have been divorced for about 6 years, I didn't want my daughter having 14 different "uncles" I have been very careful that she didn't get confused. So, that has led to no dating. She is now old enough to reason with. I think if I decide to date now, she is old enough to understand it better. I actually waited until she was old enough to question why I have no male friends. I still won't have men in and out of the house, it wouldn't be good for her and it just isn't "me" But, if I meet someone nice, I am open to the idea of new friends :) Thank you for the kind words, although I may fib upon occasion, that wasn't one of em lolol.
Thank you for your reply. It was honest. I was beginning to sound argumentative, and that wasn't what I intended. We all have our beliefs and way we like to do things. You may want to consider though, single moms taking care of her own children are, by circumstance, very independent. I work quite a bit of hours to take care of my daughter and myself with no help. I think it would only be fair, when I start dating someone to share the expenses. Nothing disrespectful about it if I offer to pay some too. If a mother is really struggling, you taking her out and paying may be great, but on the same note, if you take her out and pay for dinner, if she is struggling and you know that, what is a couple extra bucks for the sitter? Your not adopting her kids, or buying her affection, your just paying for the sitter if she can't afford that herself. I know a lot of single mothers are really having a hard time. I am one of the very lucky ones. Although I get no help, I have a very good job.
Disclaimer: My seven year old has never had a babysitter, but then again Mom has never had a date since she had the kid. See, I was just being argumentative lol
Even if I didn't change your mind, maybe it gave you a new way to look at it!! Thanks for listening :)
Why if you just started dating her, is it ok for her to let you buy dinner, but not ok for you to let her buy dinner? I think if I went out, I would alternate turns paying, heck I work too :) I am certainly not trying to argue with you, I am just wondering you opinion :)
I sure hope that you don't let one bad experience ruin the chance of making new friends here. Many of us who have been reading the forums recently, can guess a little about that. Just block that person. Turn the page in your book of life, and stay and have fun with us. I have met some REALLY nice people on here. Some that I communicate with daily and would never let one person sour my experiences here. I have met both men and women here that I really enjoy sharing my day with. Please reconsider deleting your profile. We would miss your posts and you have been here long enough to see, the weird ones come in........ stir the chit for awhile and disappear. This recent one will too :)
And, if she barely knows you, yet offers to pay for dinner. When you take her home, returning the kindness and offering to pay the sitter is just a damn crazy idea?
I think they are saying it is time for you to move on, as you are not as important to them as ex. But, if you wait around, and I want to, may still have some "fun"
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RE: To, toy or not to toy?
Yes!! Just this week I used an easy bake oven, a color explosion set, played jacks and and............ oh crud, wrong kind of toys?