Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with someone after they broke up with them? Is it possible for a relationship to work a second or third time around?
My rule is to never get married again. at least on paper. commit to each other, create your own vows, do whatever it takes, but never do it in front of a judge, church official, or anyone else who will make it legal. A marriage certificate is a piece of paper that ruins lives.
Been there before. If she wouldn't have left on her own, I'd have made sure that she was gone. But I did forgive her later. Only to move on with my life.
hey hrt4lse, I think that we get set in our ways and don't want to admit the reality of a relationship once it's reached a certain point. Sometimes it's easier to just keep going even though we aren't happy. We put on a smile and keep doing what we normally do. Then one day, things get to the point that neither partner wants to deal with it anymore. I think that my ex and I hit that point long before she walked out. Neither of us wanted to say it but we were both there. Her way of dealing with it was to run. The worst part is, that she is running from everything in her life from that point forward. and she will continue to run until she finds peace with herself. I found peace with myself, but said that I could never forgive her for what she did. I was completely wrong about being able to forgive her, I have forgiven her, and told her that I don't love her, but I don't want to hate her either, and want to be friends. We now live about 1500 miles apart, so it would be easy. We finally talked a couple of weeks ago about everything, and it really seemed to help me to understand what happened between us. We could never have a second chance with each other, but we will each get a second chance with someone else., and so will you. this time, take your time and really see what that person is like before you jump in with everything. I did the same thing by getting engaged after 6 months. I won't do that again. I actually feel that marriage is the last thing that I want to do again. I feel that I can commit to someone for the rest of my life, but without the piece of paper that says we're married. there's something about that piece of paper that ruins a relationship.
I was married for 16 years and had a really great marriage for the first 7. then things got rocky. We went to counseling, and it got better, but never was the same. At the fifteen year mark, we barely spoke to each other and only saw each other for about 30 minutes a day because our jobs were totally opposite each other. She finally cheated on me with her boss. I never gave up until the minute she said that she didn't want to try anymore and left. I don't think that most marriages last that long anymore. I've had friends that have given up in less than a year. Some longer, some shorter. I think that most people jump into marriage for the wrong reasons and way too soon. It takes time to really get to know someone, it doesn't happen in a couple of months. Try a couple of years, then see if you're ready for marriage.
I think that it's almost impossible for men and women to be friends after a relationship fails. I've tried it a couple of times, and have gotten nowhere. no matter how hard I want to be just friends, the women want a lot more or nothing. It doesn't make sense.
First you pick them up for a date with a rose, not a dozen, just one. Add in a small box of hand made chocolates. Then take them to a small bistro type restaurant where there's outdoor seating. after that, take a walk. If you're near water, it makes everything better. from there who knows....... but the best part is.......you have to do something better everyday that tops that!!! it might be simpler, but it has to top it. EVERY DAY
I've been talking to this woman online for a few months and we hit it off pretty good. we met, went out for a couple of weeks, and then out of the blue she tells me that her ex boyfriend is moving back from Indiana and that she's still in love with him. We had talked about him when we first met and I found out that before she kicked him out, he beat up her kid, and his sister that lived with them. He was really jealous and accused her of cheating on him the whole two years they were going out. Then he moved to Indiana, called her from Indiana, told her he still loved her, then remarried his ex-wife. That was August. Oh yeah, he left Florida because he was supposed to be in court the next week.Now he's leaving his ex-wife, moving back in with her and....... Does anyone see the freight train coming down the tracks besides me? I jumped off the tracks the minute I heard. I feel sorry for the kids, but not for her, but I wish her luck What is happening in this world?
I just did that. I left Wisconsin, backed everything I could fit into a backpack, hopped on a sailboat and sailed down to Florida. I've been here a couple of months and love it here. It sure beats the cold weather up there.
Tattoos aren't a fad, they have been around for thousands of years and will continue for many thousands of years. If a woman has a tattoo in a place where you can see part of it but not the whole thing, it's a total turn on to me. I was at a mall yesterday, and saw people from all walks of life that had tattoos. Some were really good, some weren't so good, but they all looked good on the person that had them.
Thanks Eupho and Gilly, It has been a rough ride, but it's getting better. I got a call today from a kennel asking when I was going to pick my dog up. I asked "what are you talking about?" He said my dog had been there for 46 days. I said that my ex was taking care of the dog and that It was papered under her name. Needless to say, the bill was $700 and I couldn't leave the dog, so I have her and trying to find a home for her. This is the stuff I had to deal with when I was married to her. Glad it's done
Hey, I guess it's time to sit down and get into this thread. I'll keep it short or we'll be here for weeks I was born in Kenosha, WI and was adopted by two wonderful parents that also adopted my older sister. They were wonderful giving people that gave everything in their lives, and I thank them from the bottom of my heart for everything that they did for me before they passed on. I grew up in a solid household and had many good friends, but only a couple best friends. I still have them today. My teen years were exciting, but not to the point of getting in trouble with the law. (Close) I did the college thing but never finished. Lived in Chicago for a few years, and met what I thought was the woman I would spend the rest of my life with. Married her, Moved back to Wisconsin. Opened a Catering business and ran it for 13 years. Hooked up with an a#*hole that claimed to be a good businessman and wanted to be partners. My wife cheated on me with her boss. packed up and left. I lost the business the house, and everything i owned except my boat, and what I fit into a backpack. I got on a sailboat and sailed to Florida. I found a place to live, A great girl to spend time with.(she loves me, she just won't admit it yet), and some new friends that will be friends for life. I live by the saying "Don't dream your life.... Live your dream" (I even got a tattoo that says that) I just started living the dream a couple of months ago when I packed up and got on the boat, and life is getting better everyday.
Personally, I think that a woman with a strategicly placed tatoo is hot. Somewhere where you can see part of it but not the whole thing. Sleeves and full body art, is pushing it though. I just got my first one a month ago, and am all ready thinking about my next one.
I look at it this way, If i ask you out, I'm paying what's $25-$30 for a meal. I've spent more than that on stupid things. If you ask me out, that's up to you. there's nothing worse than a cheap date. I went out with a woman once, she said before we even met, that she would pay for her own. when she got there, she had no money on her and I ended up paying. I didn't mind, but it really takes some nerve to do that.
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Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with someone after they broke up with them? Is it possible for a relationship to work a second or third time around?