Pierides Forum Posts (11)

RE: Do you feel it is ok for your mate to have lunch with an old bf / gf?

I think it totally depends on the circumstances. My aunt is still in contact with her ex because of kids and they are friends...but they would never do lunch together. I speak with one of my ex's online and might consider lunch but would certainly discuss it with my current boyfriend first. I know I would never do anything but my boyfriends comfort with the idea is also important. Would I be comfortable with my boyfriend visiting an old love? Depends on how much I trust him and where they were going. Lunch in a public place could be fine, but dinner alone at her house? Forget it.

RE: Really turns me off......

Children are great. I'm just not in the space to want them at the moment myself. People who put it on thier profiles usually mean never instead of not right now though. Ah, well, like someone else said, to each thier own.

Official MAN appreciation thread

Amazing how guys can take something and really run with it...in completely the wrong direction!

Your eyes,
your skin,
your touch,
your laugh,
your love,
your kiss,
your arms,
your scent,
your trust,
your desire,
your need,
your heart,
your cuddles,
your caress,
your comfort,
your smile,

You are judged by your photos

You go to be for seven hours and suddenly there's six pages!

Okay, for those of you who agreed with me, thanks. I didn't think I would even have somebody on my side.

For those of you who didn't, or were offended, let me get a little deeper here.

Theoretically a dating site is supposed to hasten the "innitial meeting" part of the whole dating process. Instead of accidently bumping into that cut guy or gal in the coffee line and trying to break the ice you simply look at a profile and decide, based on one or two paragraphs and a few photos if you want to talk to them. How, I ask, is making that split second decision in the coffee line or at the water cooler any different than making that split second decision here?

Unfortunately yes, looks matter. I wish it wasn't so in a lot of ways because trust me, it never did me any favors. Good looking people and not as good looking people all suffer from judgements by others.

Women are just as guilty as men.

This whole world is based on marketing. Dress how you feel, by all means, but don't expect a flashy business suit to blend in at a peace concert with flowing hair and broom skirts and don't expect to get that CEO job with birkenstocks and flower petals in your hair.

We groom ourselves baised on our prefrences and what makes us comfortable (or what we're trying to achieve) and the rest of society then classifies us.

I am not saying that the guy with the two girls in his arms isn't good looking. Or the guy at the bar isn't good looking. It blows my mind how some people instantly jumped to the conclusing that because I was talking about photos and the signals they send off I was talking about "ugly" people.

I try not to be close minded about looks. I do, however, care about moral values, similar interests or activities, good hygene, personal prefrences...all of which can be openly displayed in your photos sometimes.

You can't help what genes you got. You shouldn't dress in something that makes you uncomfortable. Just be aware, you are, by the very nature of human beings, being judged in some part by the visual aids you put on your profile. It's going to happen conciously or subconciously whether you like it or not.

Official MAN appreciation thread

Maybe there already is one and I missed it but as a woman I certainly caught the woman appreciation thread and it's ten million pages of appreciative women so I thought why not post a thread about appreciating guys?

Men, you rock! You never give up when lady love is snubbing you. You perservere through the cold shoulder and the jaded heart. You crave us women, our minds, our hearts, our bodies and we love you for it. We might be shy, or wounded, or bitter and those things might fall upon your heads but still you seek your lover, your partner, your friend. You wrap your arms around us, kiss our tears away, laugh when we laugh.
To someone you might be bad news, but not to all of us. To someone you might not measure up, but not to all of us. You are amazing just as you are, with your possibly thinning hair or little kids you are responsible for. You single parents are amazing, you hopeless romantics are lovable, you "nice guys" are worth it!

RE: Too much of a game in the US

Dude, that's just AZ. Scottsdale is the worst! lol. I just moved back from AZ and I was in Chandler and Tempe and everyone knew that AZ girls are very focused on looks and status. That's what I heard anyway. Not to bash any wonderful women from AZ who are NOT focused on such things. ;)

You are judged by your photos

You're judged by your photos
Or lack therof.

Okay, I guess I'd better get something off my chest. Guys, gals, you're judged by your photos.

I'm on here half for fun and finding new friends or contacts and half in an actual attempt to find something. Maybe three quarters and one quarter. Anyway...

I'm looking for something that may not be horribly specific (trying to keep an open mind) but I know what I'm NOT looking for. Sometimes, what I'm NOT looking for shows up in your photos. You drunk in a bar with your buddies doesn't scream "social" to me, it screams "drunk". You sitting in your broken down lounge chair with a sleeveless cut-off and greasy hair doesn't scream "well groomed" it screams "germs". (Not saying I'm running across this...making general statements) You holding two women in your arms doesn't scream "looking for something serious" it screams "trying to get laid."

You could be the nicest guy in the world, those girls could be your sister and her best friend, you could drink only once a year...but that's not the story I get from your pictures. There's a reason there are entire articles devoted to what kind of photos you should post on public profiles.

People want to see the best possible side of someone they're looking at for only thirty seconds to a minute. You put on your best face for a job interivew or first date...why suddenly decide on a dating site that you want to let it all hang out? I've been on more than one site, had much more than one bad encounter and I've learned you put your best foot forward or else forget it.

RE: What makes you think that you are special?

Oh boy, I could go to town on this forum thread! First of all, I am a firm believer that women who find themselves in a relationship or marriage where thier partner is cheating had better take a long, hard look at themselves and what they contributed to the situation. Often you find that you get sucked into the daily grind and you let so many things go that you are no longer trying to be a lover but just a tag team member trying to get by.

That being said, I caught my first boyfriend (of two years) red handed. It was impossible, no matter how hard I evaluated my end of things, to find fault in anything I did. I didn't scrimp on the love and affection. I didn't boss him around or become overbearing. There was absolutely nothing that I had done which helped in bringing the relationship crashing down. It was very, very hard for me to accept the fact that sometimes it really is just the other person. You can't "work things out" because they aren't interested in doing that.

Not that the subject has anything to do with cheating...but that was the angle I went with. A lot of times relationships fall apart simply because the two people evolved and changed and were no longer suitable for each other. It just might not end with both parties being civil with each other. That's why I've learned to be very careful and very selective in who I choose to date when I'm in the dating market. There are plenty of men that I get along great with as a friend but I would never date them because I know myself well enough to know that some of thier habits or choices will drive me nuts as a girlfriend.

Maybe that's the problem. We just don't know ourselves well enough when we dive headfirst into a relationship. You've got to know yourself in order to know what kind of relationship will suit you best.

RE: Do you do this?

Actually I've done both. When I've spent the night over at a guys house (assuming it's not a one night stand which I hate) I often forget an item accidenty. I was mortified when a guy I was seeing called to inform me I left a piece of my unmentionables on his bedroom floor. What can I say, it was a tiny scrap of sheer fabric, hard to notice sometimes. He kept them "safe" for me until my return. Then again, if it's somebody I know for a fact I would like to spend the night over with again and again I will often ask about leaving a toothbrush. But I ask about that.

The guy talking about using a woman's razor to see if he developes a rash was interesting. I wonder how many men do things similar to that.

RE: "Love"

what do you mean by "I love you for the part of me that brings out"?? That doesn't really make any sense, are you missing a word? Or do you mean that you love her because you love the part of you that loving her brings out in you...if that makes sense. lol. It made sense in my head. Anyway, I have no idea about your relationship with this girl (for all I know the two of you have expressed your feelings for each other already) but in my experience as the person saying "I love you" first...a month in is early, isn't it? No offense meant, but I thought I would put it out there.

The first line I've heard before elsewere, but it's a good one. I really like the second line because it's original and unique...or at least I've never heard it before. LOL. Good luck! Poetry has always been hard for me. I'm more of a prose kind of girl.

RE: You know you are from Michigan when...

LOL, exactly! I once read a Michigan joke that compared Michigan weather with weather in the rest of the world and at the end it said something like -80 degrees, Michiganders finally turn on the heat, in the rest of the world, hell freezes over. It cracked me up.