I once did a visual guided meditation...and in the meditation....I was walking over a bridge.
And as I was walking over the bridge,and looked over the left side of the bridge,...we're all the people that have harmed me in my life,and they said to me...''Please forgive us.''...and I SAID...''I do.''
Then I turned and looked over to the right side of the bridge,...and I SAW all the people I had harmed in my life,and I SAID TO THEM...''Please forgive me.''...They said...''We do.''
After the meditation was over...the one thing the man that led the meditation asked was if they noticed something in particular about the meditation... Most of the people...including me..noticed one thing...the people on both sides of the bridges...we're all the same people... We hurt each other...if that makes sense...kinda hard to explain,but the AWARENESS was liberating.
...but I also don't forgive for the sake of the other person as much as I do FOR myself...I forgive ...so I CAN be free,so in a way..to me ,,,IT'S A BIT OF A SELFISH ACT...
It's also a proven fact that people who are truly able to forgive were able to move on with their lives....and the people who couldn't ...stayed invalid.
AND TO ANSWER the @op's QUESTION....I think....depending on how badly you've been hurt...it might take some time to forgive...and maybe you might forget about what was done for 4 or 5 months,,,and then the anger at what the person did comes back....and you have to try again to practice forgiving...and forgetting....it's an ongoing process...sometimes a lifetime...but like I SAID...you don't do it for the other person...you do it for you.
Forgiveness is hard...but I PRACTRICE...and let 5 people off the hook everyday...
I don't think FORGIVENESS is saying it's o.k for a harm that someone has done...forgiveness is saying it's over...it also doesn't happen over night...it takes time. I'M ALSO aware on my end that sometimes the people who have hurt me,alot of the times,are sorry for what they did and just didn't know any better at the time....and with that understanding...it's easier to forgive....and without bringing too much religion or God into it...if GOD has forgiven me for my wrongs....who am I not to forgive others.
But what is important is forgiveness is not saying it's o.k...it is not o.k,,it's never o.k...forgiveness is saying it's over. I release you and I RELEASE MYSELF FROM WHATEVER HARM WAS CAUSED... and if there is someway we can reconcile and be friends or whatever...fine.
Sometimes...depending on what has been done,,,the best possible relationship is one of distance.I think each case varies...
No...BUT there has been some behind the scenes talk of a THE WALL2 action packed fugurine..whether it will ever happen or not..is still yet to be seen.
NO...I'm proving my point...I don't fight...a good friend of mine...also a powerlifter...did 2 year of jail...lost his cool...and caused permanent brain damage...
When I was bouncer...I chased a guy that slapped a woman...and I HELD HIM AND BROUGHT him to his kness..until ,the cops showed up,but I DIDN'T hit him.
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RE: Forgive & forget?
I once did a visual guided meditation...and in the meditation....I was walking over a bridge.And as I was walking over the bridge,and looked over the left side of the bridge,...we're all the people that have harmed me in my life,and they said to me...''Please forgive us.''...and I SAID...''I do.''
Then I turned and looked over to the right side of the bridge,...and I SAW all the people I had harmed in my life,and I SAID TO THEM...''Please forgive me.''...They said...''We do.''
After the meditation was over...the one thing the man that led the meditation asked was if they noticed something in particular about the meditation...
Most of the people...including me..noticed one thing...the people on both sides of the bridges...we're all the same people...
We hurt each other...if that makes sense...kinda hard to explain,but the AWARENESS was liberating.