Forgive & forget? (99)
JoyfullspiritBenton Harbor, Michigan USA2 Threads 74 PostsOkay - I understand the forgive part, but where does the 'forget' come from? According to what little I've learned about how the human brain works,it is neurologically impossible to simply forget at will, and yet these two terms are linked together as if synonymous. Even if it were possible to forget an offense would it really be wise to do so? Does the fact that I still remember mean I haven't truly forgiven? 
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Joyfullspirit: Okay - I understand the forgive part, but where does the 'forget' come from? According to what little I've learned about how the human brain works,it is neurologically impossible to simply forget at will, and yet these two terms are linked together as if synonymous. Even if it were possible to forget an offense would it really be wise to do so? Does the fact that I still remember mean I haven't truly forgiven?
luckily I'm getting on Saturday team is quite easy
I have to check every morning to make sure I've got my underpants on site think it is humanly possible to forget
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I might forgive, but I'll never forget....
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woohoo128: luckily I'm getting on Saturday team so forgetting is quite easy
I have to check every morning to make sure I've got my underpants on site think it is humanly possible to forget
I have to check every morning to make sure I've got my underpants on site think it is humanly possible to forget
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Olsojente: I might forgive, but I'll never forget....
you never forget lush
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Olsojente: I might forgive, but I'll never forget....
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Joyfullspirit: Okay - I understand the forgive part, but where does the 'forget' come from? According to what little I've learned about how the human brain works,it is neurologically impossible to simply forget at will, and yet these two terms are linked together as if synonymous. Even if it were possible to forget an offense would it really be wise to do so? Does the fact that I still remember mean I haven't truly forgiven?
No, I don't think its possible to forget.....
Errrmmm...
Sorry, what was the question again?!
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What I think happens over time in true forgiveness you began to heal from the pain and hurt of what ever it was that happen to you even tho you may never forget the action
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Doesent work for me...i dont have that heart that forgives and forgets 
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Joyfullspirit: Okay - I understand the forgive part, but where does the 'forget' come from? According to what little I've learned about how the human brain works,it is neurologically impossible to simply forget at will, and yet these two terms are linked together as if synonymous. Even if it were possible to forget an offense would it really be wise to do so? Does the fact that I still remember mean I haven't truly forgiven?
You are right. The phrase is for kindred use only--it really, as you say, cannot be applied. There's actually an old saying that demonstrates this better than anything else:"nobody ever fergits where he buried a hatchet". (Cowboy Philosophy")
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lovely4u7da: What I think happens over time in true forgiveness you began to heal from the pain and hurt of what ever it was that happen to you even tho you may never forget the action
I agree with that - just tired of being accused of holding a grudge because I refuse to set myself up for the same thing to happen again.
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rohaan: You are right. The phrase is for kindred use only--it really, as you say, cannot be applied. There's actually an old saying that demonstrates this better than anything else:
"nobody ever fergits where he buried a hatchet". (Cowboy Philosophy")
"nobody ever fergits where he buried a hatchet". (Cowboy Philosophy")
Thanks - I like that
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Joyfullspirit: Okay - I understand the forgive part, but where does the 'forget' come from? According to what little I've learned about how the human brain works,it is neurologically impossible to simply forget at will, and yet these two terms are linked together as if synonymous. Even if it were possible to forget an offense would it really be wise to do so? Does the fact that I still remember mean I haven't truly forgiven?
Can you imagine all the "emotional baggage" we'd all carry around if we didn't learn to "forgive & forget"?
We've all done something, or said something, or even neglectably not done or said something for something special to us; and we've wanted forgiveness and a chance to restart again; do we not owe that to the persons we Love or persons who we come in contact with each day?
Besides "forgiveness" is as much for the person offering it, as for the person who needs it. It releases the "heavy weight" in our hearts.
Sometimes I need more time to forgive someone the hurt he/she has caused my heart, but I always try to forgive and forget wrongs done to me, and not carry them around like a old pair of tennis shoes which should have been done away with ages ago.
JMO
EA
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*thanks earthangel! I do agree with the benefits of forgiving another, but really - how does one forget? Is it nothing more than a passage of time? Even then, can time erase actions that have caused permanent changes to the person we are/ are becoming? (without going into detail I'm not referring to something trivial like forgetting an anniversary, etc)
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True, you do not forget. While the memory may be tucked away somewhere, it is there, although a tramatic brain injury can, and will, cause loss of memory. That conscience, memory, is there for a reason, and many think that a written law passed to relieve the conscience is going to help them. Of the forgetting you speak of requires repentance, has well as forgiveness. It is then you can move on, having faced with it in truth.
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Abram: True, you do not forget. While the memory may be tucked away somewhere, it is there, although a tramatic brain injury can, and will, cause loss of memory. That conscience, memory, is there for a reason, and many think that a written law passed to relieve the conscience is going to help them. Of the forgetting you speak of requires repentance, has well as forgiveness. It is then you can move on, having faced with it in truth.
Not sure that I fully understand all of what you're saying here.
Written law to relieve the conscience???
Repentance??
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Joyfullspirit: *thanks earthangel! I do agree with the benefits of forgiving another, but really - how does one forget? Is it nothing more than a passage of time? Even then, can time erase actions that have caused permanent changes to the person we are/ are becoming? (without going into detail I'm not referring to something trivial like forgetting an anniversary, etc)
I do think "Time" helps, maybe doesn't heal all wounds, but does help.
I understand what you're saying about anniversaries, birthdays, holidays spent together, vacation trips, special times altogether that shape our memories and our hearts for the one(s) we've Loved. Very very difficult to try to forget and move on, but all of us have to do it at some time in our lives, and for some of us, seems more recent than we like to think about.
Hugs for you if you're going through this right now
EA
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If something BIG has happened in your life, done by someone you cared about.....then you can forgive but dont believe you EVER will forget how it made you feel at the time...if its DEEP hurt the memory normally stay's with us....sadly 
Hugs if your In pain
Hugs if your In pain
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As others have mentioned, people do not really forget, however new things happen in out lives that make those thoughts go to the back our minds, but every so often, something will trigger those bad memories, and hopefully reminds us to be thankful for the person we are with now, if you are lucky enough to find that special person 
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I may forgive but I rarely forget a situation.
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