Here's a question for you, Jay. You say you are willing to move anywhere for the right woman. Are you really willing to move away from the surf? Surfing is such a passion of yours.
Hi, sweetie. I was chatting with Leo this morning and he brought up one of his old threads. I got to looking through all of them and bumped this one back up. I think it's an interesting topic.
Of course, Leo can't move. He's in the military, so the young woman would have to be willing to move to him, which is something he and I have discussed.
Yes, Jay, you are quite the romantic. I hope you are well today.
Yeah, you do have to have spent time together. I wouldn't do it either if it wasn't a place I would want to live without him.
But then, I don't have a problem moving around. It's not a big deal to me. I've done a lot of it since I was 16. To me, moving to a new place is an adventure. I love it.
Yes, I'd be willing. Me moving would be the logical thing to do. Nothing is tying me to TN, not crazy about it. I don't work and I homeschool my daughter.
I've actually talked to my daughter about moving somewhere else anyway for the past few months. She doesn't want to leave her friends, of course, but what the hell does she know. She's 12. j/k
I would have liked to last year after my mom died (she was the reason we moved here) but my daughter didn't want to leave her friends and I thought she'd been through enough at that point. I didn't want to put her through anymore.
My daughter didn't want to move to TN, but it turned out to be a very positive experience for her.
But for the right man, yes, I would be willing to pick up and go. Because the right person doesn't come along every day. Why not go for it? Children adjust. I wouldn't do it if I didn't think it would be a good thing for all involved though.
I always just move the Rule box and see who it is, then if its someone I don't know, I don't agree and they go away.
They often try again, because they are stupid and don't get why they went away the first time. Or they just come back to say something ugly, Then I just block them right there beside their picture.
Clair, I have been keeping up with your posts on this friend and I am so sorry. What bothers me most is her fear of death. Somehow she has to make her peace with it. There is no way to tell someone how to do that. It's very individual, ones beliefs. Maybe you can talk with her about it and get her to clarify her her beliefs in a way that will bring her some peace about death.
A month before I lost my mom last year, I lost a friend that I've had my entire life to cancer. The last time I saw her, we thought she had 2-3 weeks left. She told me that she was at peace with her death and her beliefs. She said she was tired and was ready to go. I told her that she should then.
She had taken care of everything she needed to do. She had helped her parents deal with it as much as she could (She was 42). She had seen the people that she loved and said her goodbyes.
Though I planned to go back the next week, we said our goodbyes. The last thing I said to her was "I love you." She died 2 days later.
The thing is Clair, she was ready and at peace. Her passing was so much easier for her and for her friends and family. I've known of people struggling for their last breath because they were afraid to die. I know I probably shouldn't say that to you, but it just points to me that the fear of death makes the act itself so much harder.
I do hope the treatments work. But if not, hospice is so wonderful. They literally are there to help people die with as much peace and dignity as possible.
Maybe you could try talking to her. Find out why it is that she is afraid of death. If she knows that, then maybe she can clarify her beliefs about it and come to find some peace about dying. It is something we all must do at some point. It's just that it is so much easier to do when one has peace.
Sweetie, I wish you luck and love with your friend. I'm so sorry that you are all going through this. If there is anything at all that I, or the rest of us here in this CS family can do for you, you know we are here for you.
Please continue to keep us posted.
Many, many hugs and prayers for you, my friend, as you are there and help your friend through this difficult and trying time.
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