Quick update on my Liver cancer buddy.. (and some new stuff) ( Archived) (37)

For the people that are so kind to keep asking after her.. and may have missed this before.. (when I mentioned it on another thread)



I went to see her when I was in the USA last week.. she didn't know I was coming.

I called her the day before (from Mr McMaybes) for a 'chat' .. she told me she had a hospital appointment the next day. So I told her I would call again tomorrow and see how it went.

Early the next morning Mr McMaybe drove me to the airport and I flew to Buffalo NY.. (where it was thick snow).. I had brought her a flower (a big sunflowery thing.. but purple)..

I got the taxi to drop me at her house.. and I ran around the side of the house (as much as you can in thick snow).. and called her to see how it had gone at the hospital.

As she was telling me about it (and still thinking I was in England).. I snuck around to the side door .. where there was a key in it.. (that I can never frickin open!)..


On the phone.. I said.. 'I picked you a flower today'... (then TRIED to open the door)..

she said.. 'You picked me a flower? oh hang on there is someone at the door' ...

She opened the door.. I passed her the flower and said 'Here it is' ...

Anywayyy..

She TRULY looked 10yrs older than she did in October.. very gaunt.. ill.. and yellow.

She emailed me the other night to say she was getting very scared now.. and that she was in so much pain.


Her emails are getting shorter and shorter.. (like the phone calls.. that used to be hours.. are now 5-10mins) She is only writing a few sentences.. with LOADS of typos (she never used to make ANY)..

Over the last few weeks they have give her two courses of chemo.. (they gave her 3mths without treatment).. but she reacted both times.. very badly.


I spoke to her last night.. she had just spent 9hrs at the cancer clinic.. where they have now told her.. They will try once more with the chemo.. (if she wants too) and if she reacts the same again.. that there is nothing more they can do and that it would be a good idea for her to move into a hospice instead.

She is absolutely terrified of dying now.. and I just don't know what to say to her. that would HELP.

I'm terrified FOR her. We are not 'laughing' (kinda!) about it at all any more.

I'm trying to go back to the USA asap now. (it wasn't going to be for another 4-6 wks... but I think that maybe too late)

so sorry to hear this Claire, please keep us updated

Claayer, to be honest, your post left me speechless.

Let's just hope and pray that this time she has a different reaction to the chemo course!!

Sorry but words just cannot be found to bring you comfort

Claire sorry to hear this. My thought and prayers are with you both.

oh Claayer, I'm so sorry. I know you are an atheist, but I am going to pray for both you and your friend. You need to be strong for her Claayer. You know you can draw on the strength of your friends here at CS. WE will ALL be with you in heart & spirit.

Is it breasts?

lmao!...


I was crying then.. and THAT made me splurt out a laugh..

thankyou!