Well,from what I noticed,they return back to doing the same thing that they did in their 20s...go to bars,concerts,and go back to school,only now they aren't getting the love notes and free drinks.
Back to the topic,I am considering a roommate or moving in with somebody(friend,not date),would love to hear your comments. Now that the support is going to increase,I will need the extra money to survive.
All I can say is FREEDOM FROM THE PHONE,pass it on...Thank God,I don't have one anymore,the ex would be calling me about every little thing. I refuse to be strapped to that device for that very reason. I had one for 5yrs and didn't think I could live without it...Well,here I am.
Your so right friend. I would have done anything rather that fight in court about my kids. I mean the Judge doesn't help either...if it wasn't for the lawyers,he wouldn't have a job. That is something to think about. I knew that it was all about the money,the bucks,the BLOOD money more like it.
Well,maybe you do need a little more experience in the dating world...because dating never has to be rude or an insult. I mean,first,get to know the guy and second meet in a public place. Why do you have to worry about safety if your meeting in a public place? There are more "mature" and tactful ways of ending a date than using your friends for the "bail out"...I guess this is where experience does come into play.
My mom passed unexpectedly...but she had skipped death three times earlier in the last 5years. She was blessed to live til she was 70,but it hurts when it is the only grandmother my kids had. My ex's Mom died when my ex was 9yrs old. My Mom was the only real relative left that I kept in constant contact with. Things will be different when you don't have a friend to call anytime.
I have to say,using a cell for security is one thing,but a "bail out" is inexcusable...really,if you don't like the guy then why did you take the time to meet with him? With all the cams,camera cell phones,skylinks,whatever...there is no excuse for rudeness. I mean,either show up or cancel,and that doesn't require a cell. Any comments?
Thanks so much friend,Christmas was hard this year,but thank God I had my kids to share Christmas with. We opened the presents early since my Mom isnt here this year to share Christmas with us. Hopefully next year will be spent with a special one also.
I am not going to give up...I just know it is possible to find love online. Maybe I live in a fantasy world...or maybe I am just looking to hard inside this old computer for something.
Ask any questions you want. I have nothing to hide. I mean actually I raised them for 6.5years with ex,then got divorced...we had joint for the last 4.5years,son turns 11 on 01/12...so yeah,that adds up to 11 hun...Does it add up now?
I do love animals. I wanted a few years ago to get a job at a Zoo and be like the former Crocodile guy...Even if the pay wasnt good,the job seems great!
Thanks so much new friends,it is my daughter who is hurt by this as well,she is 9,son is 10. So much,so soon...and I thought DIVORCE was hard. It was a piece of cake compared to losing custody of your kids. It is good to know there are others who can share this with me. Nothing worse than suffering alone. Two things come to mind,Moving away...and Having another kid. Both I know won't take the hurt away,but it would actually be nice to ACTUALLY raise my kids. I always wanted kids,but NEVER anticipated this. I know if I was with someone else who had kids,it wouldn't help either...your kids are never anyone else's. Probably getting a job that worked me to death could help. Keeping my mind busy has got to be the answer to all this pain.
DCJ,Hope Floats and others...thanks so much for your empathy. It was the most important court hearing of my life and I wish I had the best lawyer,but I didnt. I mean,I understand lawyers don't want to fight,make waves,etc...but in my case with all the crap I have been through in the last year,I needed one that was willing to fight for me,not to go with the flow. I hate to digress on this thread,but one poster talked about my Mom? and me wanting to look after Myself? My mom lived in a different city and I haven't lived with her since I was 18yrs old? Also,the notation about my saying I have to look after myself now...it so true. I have only done everything for my kids for the last 10yrs. I don't regret one second of it,and I know it will come back to me...but NOW I have to actually learn to care for myself again,like I did before they were born and before I got married. I will always love my kids and care for them,but I DON'T CARE for them now...meaning,I can't take them to school,doctor,etc. like I have been for so many years. It is the same thing I had to do when I got divorced...look after me. It is hard for some people to do that...I am so much into caring for certain people and it is hard to LET GO! We have to or we will be crushed like I am now. Losing my Mom and my kids in 2wks is soooo much to handle at one time. I hope most people are close to their Moms,you only have one...and your kids,you only have them. Picking up the pieces is going to be the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Bill Murray comes to mind..."baby steps",I need to take baby steps,not jump into something. I believe moving is the best thing to do first,not out of the state or country,but out of my current address. Would love your thoughts on that. BTW,I am Wayne,jonahtrials is my username and my son....perfect,huh? jonah...trials
Thanks so much,it was a "no win" hearing from the start. Her lawyer was good,mine was bad. My lawyer never once asked the proper questions or even bothered to meet with me at all in the last two weeks,but I don't blame him. I blame the court system. An insensitive,uncaring,quick "check in and check out" system that thrives on "OUR" money for existence. I mean,by not refusing to continue this due to my Mom's passing last week put me in a bad state of mind right from the start. I sure hope none of the lawyers in there or Judge loses their Mom. It was selfish,uncaring,yet predictable. I guess the main theme of this is,"How DO you start over?" I mean,I have to look after myself for once in my life...that is a hard thing. Everything I have done and every penny I have made was all for the kids. It is just amazing how sorry,uncaring,and non-existent Fathers are treated better than I have been treated in the last year.
Raised my kids for 10yrs,then to suddenly lose custody of them. I don't even know where to start. My life has always been waiting for the 6days every other week I had them. How do you begin again?
Hope for everyone on CS to pray for me,if you can't pray then stab a vood doo doll the you called Judge Skievaski...Hoping for the best,my kids will have both of us,or at least not give her my kids minds,heart,and soul...
Mistake:Never date a bondsman(lady)...I sat and watched that phone on vibrate til I couldnt stand it anymore and then picked it up and told him that he would have to stay in jail another 15minutes,"your bondslady is on a date damnit!"
Son calls..."Mom,where is the mustard?","Mom,I can find it on the top shelf of the fridge...where else should I check?" calls back a third time..."Mom,the bread you bought isn't the right kind for my sandwich,is there anything else I can eat?"....
I have to say one of the most rudest experiences I have had in meeting someone for the first time is hearing or seeing someone's cell phone going off during a first time meeting with that person. I mean,after you know the person I wouldnt mind it at all,but meeting someone for the first time and being repeatedly interrupted by a cell phone is just down right rude. I have heard the many,"got kids,must have cell" excuses,but none worthwhile yet. My son is insulin dependent diabetic and I have never been in a situation where me answering the phone rudely or not calling him in 10-15min. would make a bit of difference in anything. What do you think?
I met this lady a week ago on another fishy dating site,lol...Anyway she talked about how much money she had and that she owned alot of homes and drove up in a 2008 Convertible Toyota Solaria...Well,later she started telling me how she couldn't pay her bills even though she was receiving 3200.00 in child support and her houses she owned were all in forclosure. The only thing she had was a house full of pedigree dachsunds(about 10 to be exact) running all around her house,she was selling them to make ends meet....LOL!!!
Edited for television...positive statement..."Alas,my dear,we shall travel far to other lands and find a fair maiden with long flowing hair and bountiful breasts to satisfy our every desire"...give me a dirty crack head on the streets of NYC,I will be fine
X Rebel,I think you would have more luck in the Phillipines or Russia,they would want to marry you as soon as you get off the plane,then come back home with you and take everything you own!
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RE: what happens to woman after 45?
Well,from what I noticed,they return back to doing the same thing that they did in their 20s...go to bars,concerts,and go back to school,only now they aren't getting the love notes and free drinks.