The Ex Won,the Kids Lost,Where Do You Go From Here? ( Archived) (123)

Because of this type of thing exactly I have made a vow never to use the services of a solisitor again.

Women are treated in this very fashion also.....and it's much harder for women believe me. Women do bring the children into the world 40 weeks living inside you feeding from you.

Just for the record, you don't have to do anything wrong to lose favor in the eyes of a judge. All it takes is a judge that has some kind of prejudice or chip on his shoulder, or is just having a bad day in general to royally screw up everyone else's lives. Been there. Done that. And lost custody of my boys because the judge favored "preachers" over any other being. But that's a different story for a different time.

Jonahstrials, no matter what the hand of man has done to separate you and your children, it will never change the love. But you are not the sole victim here. It has more detrimental effects on the children than you, as a parent will ever know. Just hang in there for the sake of your kids. You've been knocked down. Get back up and dust yourself off and continue on, not only for yourself but your kids...........

Merky

Hi My Daughter had the same problem with bad lawyer and we had to move interstate to get justice and it nearly broke us financially and mentally.So it goes on all over the world and you are powerless to stop it its all very well for uncaring people to say be a man, but go through that is living hell on earth!! its like they have let a huge dog from hell slowly tear you to bits and my daughter did not do one thing wrong he left her at 7 months pregnant.
It caused my ex to have a stroke and he also left, get another lawyer you say to late in the end you go around like zombies not really knowing what is going on.
We were lucky my daughter won but it still left deep scar's at just the unfairness of it all and all in the name of justace.

Hey, it happens to women too. The county I was in seems to have gone anti-mom. I wonder what's going on when a mom who's on drugs gets to keep her kids when I end up losing mine. Back in December of 2002 my ex ended up getting custody of my younger son (I'd had him since 1997). The older son chose to go to his dad's a year or so before to find out what it was like living with his dad. Both boys used to complain about the woman who ended up becoming their step mom. When my youngest was moved to his dad's, he didn't want to go but his own attorney wouldn't listen to him. My ex even went so far as to get me placed on supervised visitation. I had never ever done anything to warrant this (other than divorce their dad). He tried to say that I was mentally ill, I went and got evaluated by an impartial psychiatrist & psychologist and went back to court with their reports that I was mentally sound. Did it make any difference? Heck no. Since my boys have been with their dad, he's succeeded in brainwashing them into cutting me out of their lives. For them to live with/near their dad it's survival for them to do what he wants. I go on with the hope that one of these days they'll be able to step out and contact me without worrying about what their dad will say or do.

You ask how do you go on....you just do. You make the decision that now you have to take care of yourself, you have to live for that "some day" when the kids will make contact again & be part of your life. You pick up & decide it's time for you to get on with your life....you move (or at least I did...lol) and you start over. You search for that person that will become your partner and you rediscover the person you are. You're not the only one who's had to do this so hang in there & you'll get through it.

Anybody here heard of Lady Catherine Meyer?

I haven't, who is she?

Hi hrt41

You and I have discussed your case before.

Catherine Meyer is a lady who had her children taken from her, 11 years ago.

By her ex husband.

My own children were taken by mine, to another country, it took me a long time to have them returned.

Anyway, her boys, she has not seen for 11 years.

She is married to the ex British Ambassador to the US.

She has been through many courts to have her boys returned, to no avail.

They are so severly alienated, they are now adults.

Parental Alienation Syndrome is something that is not recognised, but exists...

I could get no court in the UK to recognise this, I had to wait, for a long time to get my children back. And all over money, it took me four long, long years to recover their minds, with love, patience and support...

I cannot and will not support any person who uses their children as pawns, as a personal ATM machine, contact and child support are two very different areas.

Coming from two parents who fought over me, bitterly and being dragged from country to country as a little one, and then to have it happen to my own children is something that pains me.

To bring me to a point, about judges, people are right, they in Family Law, want an easy solution, the more difficult cases are allowed to slip through the net.

And what are natural, loving relationships, are allowed to be eroded...

And that is where it sticks in my heart, we cannot stop what the other parent says, but Family Law, in the UK and the US could be changed, to benefit the children.

A subject that runs very deep with me, very deep as I know it does you.