Judge Won't Reschedule Custody Hearing... ( Archived) (9)

I have posted threads on here before about various custody issues with my ex,but this one tops them all. First of all,my Mom passed last Monday,exactly a week ago from a aneurysm/hemorrage in her brain. I have yet to bury her ashes(at my moms request,she wanted to be cremated) or even pick up her death certificate which the funeral home just received. Well,I have had a custody hearing scheduled for this Friday,12/19 and my lawyer sent in a motion to continue the hearing. My ex who lost her Mom when she was 7,apparently forgot what it felt like and has fought to NOT continue the hearing this Friday. My sister is also going to be in this hearing. She is still not prepared for it due to my Mom's recent death. I am going to get the kid anyway on 12/19 despite which way the judge rules. According to the visitation guidelines,I have the kids from 12/19-12/29. I DO NOT understand the reason why the courts are so insensitive that they do not honor my Mom's or my kid's Grandmother recent death. The motion was denied that my lawyer sent in last week to get it rescheduled. The court hearing is at 1:30pm and I have to be 45miles away to go to the funeral home and pick up my Moms ashes and death certificate at 2:00pm that same day. I am appalled at them siding with the ex in such a very sensitive issue. I also didnt have daycare in place since my Mom is the one who usually watches my kids and she is dead now. What are my options? Please help!

I am sooooooooooo sorry that you are having to go through all of this at one time!!!! But try to keep your chin up for the sake of your children. No it's not easy by any means, but it's worth the effort.

hugs to you,
Merky

The courts have a schedule to keep, it does no take personal circumstances in relation to this. It is a mchine that needs to function with you or without you...it has no feelings


So,if possible can you make alternate arrangments to collect your dearly departed mum earlier and take her with you to the hearing

God Bless and my sincerest condolences about your mum

I have read you previous threads, has been a long time bro.

As with your other threads, this one don't quite add up.

it is only 12/15 now, so how was anything sent on 12/19?

Usually ashes are not buried, They are scattered, which can be done any time. but you usually have a service of some kind before then.

and I can see the judge not changing it .......... You can pick up the ashes and certificate any time. you do not have to pick them up the same day.
Honestly, it sounds like you have drug this hearing out forever, if I were the judge, I would be tired of it.

But sorry to hear about your Mom!!!

Hope for everyone on CS to pray for me,if you can't pray then stab a vood doo doll the you called Judge Skievaski...Hoping for the best,my kids will have both of us,or at least not give her my kids minds,heart,and soul...

My condolences on your mothers passing during such a difficult time. I cannot begin to imagine what you must be feeling. If the motion to continue the hearing was denied, at least to my knowledge, there isn't much you CAN do but have your children wait in the lobby of teh courtroom during the hearing. A deputy will most definitely be there to keep an eye on them.

I am not surprised by the courts insensitivity; historically, the court almost always submits to the whim of the female, sorry to say. I may be going through a custody battle soon due to the fact that her mother and I haven't been getting along lately, and she is getting vindictive.

I wish you nothing but the best, and sincerely feel for you. I will be thinking of you tonight and concentrating on sending you the blessings of the universe.

And remember, we are never given more than we can handle, we just have to find a was to deal with the adversity and live another day. For ourselves, firstly; and for the ones we hold dearest to our heart.

Good luck, my intrepid friend. Stay powerful and believe; providence will follow.

If you have raised them and loved them, there isn't a court, or person, or power in the universe that can take their love for you away; the bond between a daughter and father spans galaxies, planes of existence, and all time itself.

So true,and what a nice thought to go to bed with...Thanks brother