"We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love.”
I put this quote on my profile under what I am looking for because I don't feel like going into detail right now and I think if they can't understand this then there's not much interest in understanding me. When I love I seek to understand the other then to understand myself and I learn about myself and grow in my ability of show empathy. But only because I believe in something outside myself and that we are all unique and deserving of love. From each experience I have grown to be a better person. So I believe in Love and that it is worth trying for. But Love is to be shared....giving, understanding, accepting, forgiving, and growing together. But it's not love if we try to possess. People have to try and open their heart and minds to know love. Growth doesn't always come without facing some emotional pain. That is the choice.
But for the people who love a Narcissist this is a very painful thing. Are Narcissist capable of help? I have heard they are not because they are not able to see their own flaws.
I like this quote. "Love is the extremely difficult realization that something outside oneself is real."
People have been hurt, people have built walls. I have always loved and learned with passion and this has led me to advance with compassion. But we cannot give what we do not have ourselves. Before we can show compassion for people who hurt and build walls, who are self-absorbed and selfish because of their ego defenses, we need to first look at the person in the mirrow with honesty and compassion.
Uncoditional Love or Love in it's purest form is perfect, humans are not. We love on a continum, hopefully always learning and growing, becoming wiser and better people and learning to love better.
I chose my username because opal is my birthstone and I have read that Libra's appreciate beuaty. I appreciate beauty in all forms and more now since I'm older from the the inside out.
Good for you to still let the wonder of the child come out. I use to do this when I was a young girl and I will never forget the sense of peace, wonder and existing I would feel. As an adult I love the vastness of the ocean or beach or mountains or stars in the sky but it is so simple to just lay in the grass and look up in the sky and let go. Even though I haven't done this in a long time I remember that sense of wonder and I think I will allow that child to experience it again.
I have experienced it this way so I completely agree and understand. I also learned that I first seek to understand the one I love and then to understand myself in this emotional learning process and all that I wanted to give to him was given to me, not by him because he did not seek to understand me as I did him. He seeked to possess and that is not love. But to you...
Throw a party. Probably not. But I would want to give all the love I could to my children. Just to be in their precense and for them to know the depth of my love and full acceptance of who they are.
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Osamabinforgotten but I have a feeling that a force bigger than the Republican party is going to make Obama our next USA President. The force of HOPE and CHANGE. I think Indy even feels it sometimes
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RE: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
"We really have to understand the person we want to love. If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. If we only think of ourselves, if we know only our own needs and ignore the needs of the other person, we cannot love.”I put this quote on my profile under what I am looking for because I don't feel like going into detail right now and I think if they can't understand this then there's not much interest in understanding me.
When I love I seek to understand the other then to understand myself and I learn about myself and grow in my ability of show empathy.
But only because I believe in something outside myself and that we are all unique and deserving of love. From each experience I have grown to be a better person. So I believe in Love and that it is worth trying for. But Love is to be shared....giving, understanding, accepting, forgiving, and growing together. But it's not love if we try to possess. People have to try and open their heart and minds to know love. Growth doesn't always come without facing some emotional pain. That is the choice.