It can be a a good place to take your mind of some problems that bother you. You come here and unwind. After reading this and that, writing this and that - you forget all about your problems.
I've met some men online who spend a lot of time online - chatting with women, talking with women, making plans, but they don't seem to be very interested in meeting in real life and even if they do in some ideal scenario - they don't want to bother too much, make too much of an effort.
Some of them said to me something like: "My life is so good at the moment - nice job, hobbies I enjoy, weekends with friends, that a woman should really be something very special in order for me to give up my freedom".
I think that there are a lot of men (probably women too - I don't know) like that - especially online. They can have all the fun they want, even some emotional engagement, but no responsibility, no need to adapt to anyone, make compromises... They don't even seem very interested in one-night-stands. Nothing. Just surfing the net, chatting on various sites, exchanging photos, flirting online... Nothing substantial.
I myself am starting to get used to being single and its good sides and - personally I don't like it.
That's all very nice, but I have friends who waited for true love, missed a lot of nice men they could have a decent relationship with and are now 30+, no love experience, no idea what a relationship is, still living in the dreamland... Some others were very picky until they reached 30 or even 35 and then they realized that they actually wanted to have children all their lives and that they missed a lot of "the second best" men they could have family with, so - panicking - they now settle for the men they wouldn't even look at when they were 20 or 25.
People should be realistic, no matter how old they are...
That's why I left most social media or use them very very rarely. They made me behave in the ways that - in the long run - made me stop liking myself. If you are on a place where people constantly fight and quarrel, insult others and laugh at others or put down others or indulge in some silly narcissistic behaviors - sooner or later it will affect you this way or another. People only delude themselves thinking that it will not. But it will. And in time - you become just the same and it affects your real life, too.
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RE: Look at Me.
Tinder is all about looks.