Yes, my friend at work, the one I mentioned earlier; her Mom gets angry with her Dad. Not intentionally but she's elderly herself. He forgets who she is sometimes. . The husband is 86 and she is going to be 80 and not in the greatest health. I know there is medication that can help.... I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
I just gotta tell you. This thread is about getting stuff off your chest. So here goes.....
I've been thinking this for a long time now, and I think it's about time I get it out in the open. I think you, Hugz, are just the sweetest person. You always have a kind word for everyone. You wanna know what really makes me smile in your posts? I love when you call people Doll. You're real, not phony. You my dear are a Doll.
Hi rodolpho.... does the condition make your Mom angry? Nasty? I know it affects people differently. A girl I work with, her Dad has it, he's not mean or nasty; just very forgetful and wanders. He sleeps a lot too. On December 25th, he got out of the house at 4 am and walked over a mile. It was in the single digits that day and he had no coat on. He fell and broke his shoulder. A limo driver saw him and called 9-1-1. The police called the house but the wife had taken sleeping pills and didn't answer the phone. She said she heard it, but thought it was a crank call at that hour. He ended up being okay thank God.
Moonlight, I know exactly how you feel. It's draining taking care of an elderly parent who is not the person you once knew them as. It's so hard to put into words. We don't love them any less, we love them so much; that is why it hurts so much when we cannot make things all better for them.
My Dad always looked at me with smiling eyes before. I rarely see that now anymore; now I see anger; like he doesn't want me there.
I suppose it is all part of life.... it's just a difficult part. The end of ones life should be peaceful; not hostile. I'm so glad your Grammy left peacefully with her Teddy.
Thanks ECQ.... Sounds like your Mom can still get around and take care of herself. My Dad got so weak he couldn't get up out of a chair. He wasn't eating and lost 40 lbs. We demanded that the doctor admit him to the hospital and run tests and find out what was wrong. They found nothing other than he had pneumonia. He's a picky eater and wasn't eating well in the hospital either. Same thing in rehab. He's eating better in this facility as they've taken the time to make what he likes which is mostly sandwiches... he loves hardboiled egg and tomato sandwiches, stuff like that.
I would recommend that you start looking for places before you Mom needs them. Just ask about waiting lists, if they take Medicare or Medicaid. Do as much leg work now as you can because I was running like a chicken without a head looking for facilities. Had to apply for Medicaid. Was taking time off of work left and right. And they were fantistic about it for which I thank them very much.
I don't know if my Dad will improve enough to be able to go back to his apt. in a sr. building or if he will have to stay where he is in their LTC. If he gets to go home, I think it will be even worse. He'll be all alone with no one there. They have a program where someone can come and make him food and help with the bathroom stuff; but he's not one to follow orders very well.
I'm trying just to take things one day at a time.
I'll keep you in my thoughts. If you ever need to talk, just give me a holler.
Anybody out there dealt with caring for an aging parent? I'm having a real hard time with it because his personality has changed so much. Been taking care of him since 2005 after his carotid artery surgery. He's gone from being a sweet, kind, caring, funny and giving man to argumentative, mean, nasty. He's someone I don't know anymore at times. It's sporatic, but very upsetting. When he's back to his old self, the joy is overwhelming and I pray that he stays like that.
The rehab facility where he's at feels it's Dementia, the start of it anyway. I can't seem to deal with it very well.... it seems to be the only thought I have and can't turn it off.
I always try to be nice to everyone. The last thing I would ever want to do is hurt someone's feelings. We all know how that feels and it's not very good.
The most bothersome of the three is bees; because they zone in on me when ever we're outside together. My mother always told me it was because I had sweet blood.
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RE: Get it off your chest,...... just get out in the open......
Hey KittyYes, my friend at work, the one I mentioned earlier; her Mom gets angry with her Dad. Not intentionally but she's elderly herself. He forgets who she is sometimes. . The husband is 86 and she is going to be 80 and not in the greatest health. I know there is medication that can help.... I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Take care