i understand what you are saying is that choice is power, and that is correct, many choices do require responsibility for making a moral decision. but to take someone's choices from them is immoral, and often an abusive power tactic or control, effectively making another person a prisoner.
i would disagree that responsibility is power, and say that you don't need power to be honest and humane, to respect other people's rights, choices, and feelings, while being responsible for your own. People can confuse having money with power, and forget what feelings, morals, and responsibility are. So here i will define morality...
Morality (from Latin: moralitas, lit. 'manner, character, proper behavior') is the differentiation of intentions, decisions and actions between those that are distinguished as proper and those that are improper. Morality can be a body of standards or principles derived from a code of conduct from a particular philosophy, religion or culture, or it can derive from a standard that a person believes should be universal. Morality may also be specifically synonymous with "goodness" or "rightness".
1 : the quality or state of being responsible: such as. a : moral, legal, or mental accountability. b : reliability, trustworthiness. 2 : something for which one is responsible : burden has neglected his responsibilities.
I heard this from a college professor...Freedom comes with responsibility.
Can you poor and be free or does it take money to be free. Would you rather be poor and free or rich and immoral but have financial freedom?
If you met a woman and fell in love with her, even though she had a traumatic past but had finished college, done a lot of healing, with therapy and self help groups and books, but was receiving SSI, and was doing a good job caring for her grandchildren whose mother was too irresponsible and impulsive to care for them, and was always in bad relationships with men, would you still marry her, or would her financial problems deter you?
“I hear your soul cry. I know your shame. I understand your fears, tears, and trauma. Your story matters. Even if you tell it to one safe person, I encourage you to not keep it locked inside your heart. There is something empowering about having the courage to tell our story. To acknowledge, yes, it did happen. Yes, it really was that bad.” ? Dana Arcuri, Soul Cry: Releasing & Healing the Wounds of Trauma
We live in a culture that is blind to betrayal and intolerant of emotional pain. In New Age crowds here on the West Coast, where your attitude is considered the sole determinant of the impact an event has on you, it gets even worse.In these New Thought circles, no matter what happens to you, it is assumed that you have created your own reality. Not only have you chosen the event, no matter how horrible, for your personal growth. You also chose how you interpret what happened—as if there are no interpersonal facts, only interpretations.
The upshot of this perspective is that your suffering would vanish if only you adopted a more evolved perspective and stopped feeling aggrieved. I was often kindly reminded (and believed it myself), “there are no victims.” How can you be a victim when you are responsible for your circumstances?
When you most need validation and support to get through the worst pain of your life, to be confronted with the well-meaning, but quasi-religious fervor of these insidious half-truths can be deeply demoralizing. This kind of advice feeds guilt and shame, inhibits grieving, encourages grandiosity and can drive you to be alone to shield your vulnerability.” ? Sandra Lee Dennis
Don't feel to bad, i didn't lose my zest it was stolen by a man who claimed to love. at a point where i thought he had taken everything he could from me, he took EVERYTHING...he even took what attracted him to me, my innocence and trust in him.
i would say that your definition of a hot mess being a female is a little gender bias, also if you can't accept a person for who they are, even if they have had experiences that differ from your own, you should just leave that person a lone. One man's hot mess may be another man's perfect woman. People change and everyone needs some help sometimes, by help i do not mean fixer, for the fixer, fix thyself. Fixer's are most often control freaks who can't see their own messes.
Are you filled with fear and give in, or does it make you angry that someone has the gall to think they can get their way by threatening you.? What if they have the power to harm you?
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