I am fond of Cherie and Jackie, so I have reassured Dani that they were only joking, not attacking, and I am going to believe this myself, somehow. But still, I wish they had not said what they did. Jokes that look a lot like personal attacks are a bad idea -- even if one doesn't overlook the assertion at the end that it was all a joke, it is hard to take that at face value. Also, I am going to believe what Jackie said about been motivated by concern for a friend, but this is also easy to overlook and hard to accept at face value. I will, but it is not easy.
In general, saying hurtful things is not a good idea, even if they only seem to be hurtful and are actually just a joke or just motivated by friendship. It is always most likely that someone will be hurt by them anyway. If you hurt someone and then say it was all a joke or all from a good motive, you still hurt them, regardless, and your comments will remain hurtful, even if you try to explain them away. So I wish the comments had not been made, no matter what the reasons.
nobody should ever use another person's login to post a note here, as John must surely know. This must have been an oversight which he can easily correct, without even logging Robin off. I am on Dani's machine, and first read this nasty thread on her login, but to post this I just brought up another instance of the browser, found CS, logged on as me, and now I post, thus. Come on, John, do it.
Ahem, hi, Cherie, how are ya? Well, how is everybody? And who is everybody? I have been so tangled and entangled that I just haven't been in touch, so to speak. Hi, Jackie, thanks for the heads up. Yes, gang, my long dryspell has ended. I've been dazed by the consequences, which were more entangling than I imagined. But I love it -- and her. Let me apologize to the friends whose lives I've ignored while wrapped up in mine (and hers). That's what happens sometimes, when life really surprises and overwhelms you.
Southern Canada, Joanne. Western Canada and Southern Canada, but not Northern Canada. And we have squirrels all over. They don't look like they be much use. We have a lot of white tailed deer. I like white tail, dear.
Metaphorically, I don't like anything decaf. But if we are talking about actual coffee and actual caffeine, then well, caffeine is real nice to help you think like mad for words to fill the silences over coffee or dinner and make you seem witty, but later on, if there is any hope of romance, stick to defaf.
nope, I don't know these people, never heard of them, and have no idea what they are talking about, but coffee and a novel didn't work for me, not that I thought I would, and I would recommend dinner at the very least. But surely it takes more than one date, doesn't it?
A date is something planned in advance, and specified by date, date and time, usually, so you get to worry nervously over it as the time approaches, then you pick up the person, or are picked up, and ...
Hi, Dani. If I am such a gentleman, why would I be flirting with all these ladies? Well, perhaps just passing the time while waiting for you. No, actually they are very good friends and I am most fond of them. I hope you might get to know them.
How did your day's work go at home? Did you get a lot done? I am free Friday and on the weekend if you need help. Let me know.
Thanks for calling me fun. I'd offer you demonstrations of this, but only of the most innocent kind, being a shy and modest gentleman. I'll send you an e-mail. Good luck with your work tomorrow,
Ladies, I appreciate it, but you are going to scare Dani off, and she is the first woman to get anywhere near me in over a decade. Please don't scare her off. I am quite capable of doing that by myself.
apologize to Naughty, it's her thread -- there was another thread by Cat that we ought to resurrect if it still exists, it was similar. Anyway, it was a mild and amusing hijack. Hey, my books are now on Jennifer L Armstrong's Online Reading Page. And since that is not my page and has nothing to do with me, I can put the URL here, can't I, moderators?
Oh, I agree, but they do get revenue based on how many people they have on site, and fear loss of revenue. Still I think they should be open about it. Nobody is yet facing the real problem, which I believe you mentioned to me in person the other day, Dani, that if you divide the small singles population of a city of Nanaimo amongst 28 different sites, no site has enough people to do good matches. They have to cooperate or people have to sign up to lots of them. I would prefer them to cooperate, but hey don't know how.
sites, just the sites, what else could you possibly be thinking, Steve? there is an "other sites" thread, actually, though it might get the ax. They don't like that sort of thing. the very idea of another site is apparently obscene, abusive, or threatening. but, who knows, times change. I'll try not to mention names. I wonder if teasing them like this is a good idea? Anyway, you have now been introduced to Dani, who is very nice in person, a pretty woman, very bright, and fun to talk to. And did I mention close, yes, a mile or two, I don't know exactly, but close. Another denizen of the fair city of Nanaimo, British Columbia, a fair city indeed.
I guess that I feel so many sites are all bells and whistles, but when you look under the hood, instead of a real engine, all you see is a rubber band. There is nothing remotely resembling a real matching engine in most of these sites. I can think of one site that has little toy one-cylinder quarter-horsepower engine, and that is about it, but that one has such a poor collection of bells and whistles that almost everybody hates it. There is yet to be a site which offers anything worthwhile, and that includes the pay sites. This site is good because of the bright clean interface and the forums, but it is the people then which make it work.
Dani has spent a long time at another site, and found me there. I hope to hear some comparisons. Personally I like the bright clean interface of this one -- and the people.
Yes, Dani, I agree, I think reading to your kids is the single most important thing you can do for them. But not horror novels, I hope! I read almost constantly to my daughter whenever she was with me -- weekends, you know how it goes. I have never developed much of a taste for horror novels myself, though I guess I have read and enjoyed a few. I have read science fiction and mysteries and such, but these days I seem to like plain ordinary unclassifiable mainstream novels, especially those of Mary Wesley.
Not long ago PofF, the site Dani hails from, had some threads about other sites, but I can't find them any more, and recently we were warned here about doing anything that would lead people away to other sites. Were I allowed to think it, I might venture to think it a mistake, but we are not even allowed to think thoughts critical of the powers that be, so let us just refrain from mentioning other sites by name, all of which we will understand to be places we would never dream of visiting. Whether this thread will survive even if we do exercise such self restraint is an open question. But yes, there are other free sites, with forums, more than one.
Your picture should be brighter, it should be taken with the lens of the camera just above eye level, a few inches, so you are looking up into it, and you must smile. What you are wearing is great. Turn on extra lighting to make it brighter, lift that camera up, look up towards it, but not directly into the lens, and smile.
Don't let it build up your ego too much, Jax, that doesn't distinguish you from other women on this forum at all, with about one exception. I think there's one I wouldn't want.
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I am fond of Cherie and Jackie, so I have reassured Danithat they were only joking, not attacking, and I am going
to believe this myself, somehow. But still, I wish they
had not said what they did. Jokes that look a lot like
personal attacks are a bad idea -- even if one doesn't
overlook the assertion at the end that it was all a joke,
it is hard to take that at face value. Also, I am going
to believe what Jackie said about been motivated by concern
for a friend, but this is also easy to overlook and hard
to accept at face value. I will, but it is not easy.
In general, saying hurtful things is not a good idea,
even if they only seem to be hurtful and are actually
just a joke or just motivated by friendship. It is always
most likely that someone will be hurt by them anyway.
If you hurt someone and then say it was all a joke or
all from a good motive, you still hurt them, regardless,
and your comments will remain hurtful, even if you try
to explain them away. So I wish the comments had not
been made, no matter what the reasons.
dpw