Hi, I think that summer school could really be a good thing. For one thing I suppose he would be in a smaller group and get the attention he needs. And if he achieves well, that may encourage him to keep doing better. You know, more praises from the people helping him and from you when he tries hard. A small bribery wouldn't come amiss. Like what he can get for a good day work. Maybe your son needs to have very short term targets. Something which seems easily achievable for him. Repeating a year is no garanty that he will do better. He might just need a chance to see that learning can be fun and really interesting and that you can even get goodies for it! Until they are old enough to understand that education is important, and that it's their own responsibility, you just have to keep pushing and praising. Punishment and threats won't do the trick. My personal and practical experience is, after the first year at uni, you kind of start realizing it. So, keep tryingxx
I am surprised to hear that. I find it difficult to think about going out with a man younger than me, but I try to keep an open mind. But the age range I am looking at would be between 27ish and 37. So a few years younger and a few years older. Before I was 30 I think age didn't really matter. I wouldn't mind going out with someone Ten years older. But now for some reason I don't feel that tempted. So I prefer to keep it closer to my own age range.
I loved my husband dearly, only the way he was treating wasn't right, and when I finally admitted it to myself, I decided to get divorced. Then I got to know myself again and re-learn how things work between men and women. Everything used to look so simple for me! Not anymore. I am feeling really good now about myself, and have found back love for myself, self esteem, self respect.. Only I only want someone I am both attracted to, I love and the same in return. So far I haven't found that. It's always one way. the other or myself. So I am still single. Sometimes I think that I have too many physical requirements, since I am first attracted to looks. Because, I believe there are many good guys out there. So maybe I have to work on that.
what's a DUI? Anyway it depends on the MINOR criminal offence it is. I suppose nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes; so it would depend on wether they do see it as well as a mistake, not something to be boasting about!!! Also it's something you don't want to find out, you need to be told right from the start! I have children, and whenever I fancy someone, I always wonder what type of role model they would be for my children. If it's a no, then it's a no way!!
I guess there's looking and Looking like an idiot!!! Everybody looks. It's only natural. But if it's too obvious, like he or she's gaping!!!Yuck!! It's a complete lack of respect.
I am rather for meeting someone very soon if I like what I see: profile, picture and the chat; because I always worry that in reality when we meet it could be a flop; either because there would be no chemistry for some reason, or because the picture doens't live up to its promise. You sound like you really fancy that person and that you really want to do it. I would go for it, making sure that a member of my family, or a friend has the phone number of this guy, and his address, even if I wasn't staying at his place. Also, I would ask them to phone me from time to time. I don't think it's crazy to want to go to meet someone who lives abroad. Just be very careful.x
It's not too long ago since I realized that men feel the same way as we women do. Only it's not cool to speak about feelings, showing them and so on... So I suppose some must, and after that they may find it easier to behave the way we expect them to; Or they might find it easier to let us carry on being the leader in the relationship. So maybe it's not a question of men but people. Since on both sides we tend to expect the other to react in a particular way.
I think my dad, who despite his age, the generation gap, and the distance, is trying to understand me; my mum who I know loves me dearly despite there being so many of us; My eldest sister I got to really know when I was in my late teens and feels like she's my second mother and last but no way least my children. We say "I love you to each other at least 10 times a day!
Tonight, pizza for me! I tried to cook something nice at lunch time, but then I completely forgot about it. I was reading, and it was the fire alarm which reminded me. So tonight no experience. My children are coming back tomorrow, so I'll put the books away.
Gosh! I felt my face going hot and it's still burning when you said:"The last thing someone of confidence wants is someone who seems desperate". But I know you're right, and I certainly don't want that either! God forbid!!! I sure like this picture of the oak tree. Only, in truth, at times I see the time passing, and I think I'd like to have more children. What if I don't meet someone I like before it's too late? So far it's like I always feel attracted to the wrong type. Those who like me, I don't feel attracted to and those I like don't seem to like me. I am laughing, but I am going to cry.x
Hi and welcome. I don't know really. I am wondering the same thing. But ever since I saw the picture of a guy I have great respect for trying to find love on line, I have become convinced that there are good and genuine people to meet online. So, like the others said, be very careful and patient, which I know I am not very good at. Best of luck.xxx
I understand that, but what if it's not who you are? You know, what if you're the serious type? I mean, it's something I have tried in the past which ended up in a complete catastrophe. I am a very serious person, very heavy I guess, I don't know how to be light, and pretend that it's cool, when it's not. And I feel like Doc J and Mr hide when all of a sudden I start being serious. Maybe I ought to work on that!
Thank you very much for your answers. It's just that it's been happening to me a few times really, and I was wondering what I have been doing wrong. It's not like I am in love with any guy I have been chatting to, but yeah, it's like you are chatting to someone you feel that there might be a connexion with, you like the exchange and would like to know more. And all of a sudden, nothing! But yes, I don't like playing games; I don't think I am sophisticated enough. Plus I like being myself. So thank you. I think I'll just keep doing that and possibly I will end up chatting with the right person.x
When you chat to a guy you think you like, and you haven't met yet, how do you let him know without scaring him away? It's building up relationships isn't it? But how do you avoid blowing it up right from the start? What are the "do" and "don't"? Help.
Inner beauty is what we need to leave with ourselves, outer beauty is what we need to leave with everybody else. You don't have that many friends when you are beautiful, but you don't get noticed either if you are just beautiful inside. For sure the Lady will treat you right. I am myself attracted to looks first, but I pay loads of attention to what is being said, manneurism etc.. and have been quite disappointed. However, if what catches your eyes is outer beauty, how can you go pass that? I mean attraction is very important is it not? You want to be friends with that special person obviously, but you want to feel deeply attracted to them as well don't you?
I think it does matter. You don't want to burden someone with every single thing you have done in your past like you're looking for absolution. Rather you want them to know you; your mistakes and take it from there. It's your duty I think when entering a relationship. How could you create a genuine and healthy relationship if it's not based on trust. You were someone then, this is who you are now. As far as I am concerned it's a question of take it or leave it right from the start. I am not saying it's easy to tell someone who might reject you about what you may have done wrong, but at leat, you give them the choice, and it's bound to make you stronger.
I think that I am most of the time like a sweet deer, you know graceful and all that( boasting thread ah ah ah), but then I can be as ferocious when it comes to defend my children, so like a lioness but mainly, I feel like a dog, very faithfull and protective of those I love.
I suppose you can marry for money if you don't care about love. After all this is what they did in the middle ages, or still do in rich spheres or still do in some countries. It's just a question of financial arrangements. So if you can live with that, go ahead. You may be lucky enough to eventually find love and respect from your spouse, or maybe outside your marriage.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't think it's worth it. I think you can still feel totally alone, even surrounded by a crowd. Being at a party where everyone is having fun. Worse would be if you're rich like Cresus and still know that you're alone. Nobody to love you and share your dreams. What marriage is that?!
It's hard to answer, because you wouldn't just ditch someone you love because their physical appearance has changed with time. However, there was a particular reason you got attracted to them in the first place. So obviously, because I would love him and couldn't imagine him being happy just the way he has become, I would do my best to encourage and help him get rid of the excess of weight. Now if it is a genetic problem, or something to do with his health, fare enough. But if it is someone who just let go of himself. I don't know about that. I am certain this would have a negative impact on our lives. but again, I don't know; When you love...
Depends, if it's a guy I have know and like, then yes, I'd love something romantic, and would like it to last forever. Starting with a candlelit dinner, followed by a trip barefoot on the beach, and kissing for ever.. If it's someone I don't know, then I suppose meeting in a cafe should be alright, just in case it doesn't work for any of us. It wouldn't be too heavy.
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RE: Ok...I need some advice.....PLEASE!!!!
Hi,I think that summer school could really be a good thing.
For one thing I suppose he would be in a smaller group and get the attention he needs.
And if he achieves well, that may encourage him to keep doing better. You know, more praises from the people helping him and from you when he tries hard.
A small bribery wouldn't come amiss. Like what he can get for a good day work.
Maybe your son needs to have very short term targets. Something which seems easily achievable for him.
Repeating a year is no garanty that he will do better.
He might just need a chance to see that learning can be fun and really interesting and that you can even get goodies for it!
Until they are old enough to understand that education is important, and that it's their own responsibility, you just have to keep pushing and praising.
Punishment and threats won't do the trick.
My personal and practical experience is, after the first year at uni, you kind of start realizing it.
So, keep tryingxx