meeting someone face to face ( Archived) (39)

I'm on a couple of dating sites since January and every time I have difficulties making the step to actually meet someone live...Chating is OK, but every time I have to make the step to meet someone, I get afraid and imagine all kinds of stories of psychopates and serial killers... Do you have the same feeling or am I exagerating?
How do you know if it is OK to go through with it?

Zonnetje (Sunshine)

I say get to know the person first, obviously. If you want to meet after a while and you're nervous about it, stay in public until your fears are laid to rest.

There are psychos everywhere, not exclusive to on-line dating. LOL!

;)

it is natural to have anxiety about meeting someone off the internet and it is natural to be nervous...every time that i have met anyone off the internet i was nervous, but i always met them where there was going to be people around out in a public place...there was only one time that i let someone come to my house on the first visit and that was because my sister graduated high school with his cousin and he was maybe 1 year yonger than she was and they had heard of each other by going to the same school, and i had went to church with some of family members off and on for years...i have even been nervous about talking to people on the phone because of the issue of prank callers, and being able to find out your address by your phone number, but so far, nothing major has happened...it's okay to be scared, but it's ok to take the plunge as long as you try to be careful and know what to expect either way....

That is correct what you are saying, that is what I did as well, meet them in a place where there are lot's of people, only once I didn't... I met someone to talk a walk into the forests... luckily it turned out alright, but I would never do that again. But know I would want to cross the ocean to meet someone, so it wouldn't just be for a cup of coffee...

Always go with your gut instinct. But you could also ask him if it would be okay to bring a friend along. If he was hesitant with that.......then I would say " RUN.....RUN LIKE THE WIND".......lol

I think we all do that. I know the first meeting I meet them in a well populated place. I meet them there. When I leave I go a different way home and watch for someone following me. But thats just me. Had a close call once and am really careful now.

Makes sense...lol

I am rather for meeting someone very soon if I like what I see: profile, picture and the chat; because I always worry that in reality when we meet it could be a flop; either because there would be no chemistry for some reason, or because the picture doens't live up to its promise.
You sound like you really fancy that person and that you really want to do it.
I would go for it, making sure that a member of my family, or a friend has the phone number of this guy, and his address, even if I wasn't staying at his place.
Also, I would ask them to phone me from time to time.
I don't think it's crazy to want to go to meet someone who lives abroad.
Just be very careful.x

Take your father with you, that will deter any psycopats and if they´ll get along you have come a long way.