Ok i have specific thoughts on this matter...just curious to see what the concensus is. When you first enter into a relationship...should there be trust from day one, or should someone have to gain your trust?
My opinion is it should be there from the start. To have to gain someones trust I feel you would have had to do something first to lose it. To have to gain it I think would totally make that person feel they were walking on egg shells and not be thereself, and if that's the case, how do you ever really get to know that person? Anyhow...what's your thoughts?
I absoluely have my own opinion on this topic but....
How long does it take to fall in love? Do we go by society's measuring stick and can't possibly fall in love any sooner than permitted by some rule that society shoves on us? Or do we consider the two people involved to go at a pace that is comfortable to them regardless of what others say or think? Love at first sight? Just curious about thoughts on this. I can speak from experience, very recent experience that It can move very fast.
very good point and well taken, and I have done exactly as you suggest... I just thought it odd. I guess I would have thought if they sent an email it would be saying good luck or something along those lines...I was just taken back by the I want to get to know you better emails.
It's ironic... I didn't want to hide my profile, although I would still be able to post in the forums, I couldn't send or receive email with the friends I've made here, which is important to me. I changed my profile to read that I had entered in to an exclusive relationship, and thank you for repecting that fact. Yet, I still have emails wanting to get to know me better! I don't want to hide my profile, but it may be my only option...any input guys?
well, I'm going to plead the 5th as so not to incriminate myself...lol, no not really. The thing is I think there might have been many things wrong in past relationships (gernerally speaking), and maybe there were things that you just couldn't work out with that person you were involved with at the time, but that doesn't mean there was a problem to change, may just simply mean the situation wasn't the right one. what works in one, can be totally wrong in another. I think once we truly know ourselves it makes it so much easier to find that lasting relationship that works without having to look back and try to decipher what we did "wrong" in past relationships in order to make the current one work.
Well I just said a mouthful, and not even sure it made sense, but gonna post it anyhow..lol
I think there are some shallow people that would look for looks only, but in the end, what do you have? No, not me, I want the beauty to be on the inside. Looks will change even fade after time, but the inner person will still be beautiful.
Steve
although those who know my significant other will probably disagree that i didn't go for looks...but i didn't guys...really i didn't...lol
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Trust: Earned or Gained...
Good evening Lake...I agree with all that's said so far...it's just interesting to me because i hear so many people who think the other way.Steve