The way that worked for me: rather than avoiding thinking about it I let myself to think about it as much as I want. After a week I got sick of thinking about it and my mind was free of all noisy thoughts.
I've noticed a large group of guys think that something is wrong with the girld who initiates. I strikes me that some guys cannot understand that females have the same right to look for and choose their partner. But the answer, of course you gatta be proactive and express your interest.
I agree with Ninive. Many people do not post their picture because of privacy issue. Paula, I think your statement is so strong and to some extent wrong (sorry, just being honest): The absence of a photo is a sign of secretcy and the tendency of dishonesty..Not a way to start a relationship, friendship.... Two yeras ago I started online dating for the first time and I was too shy to post a picture. I met a gentle man who didn't have a picture in his profile and was doing online dating for the first time. odd enough, we were too shy and novice to ask for picture even when we were emailing each other. Finally, we met for coffee. Interestingly, we were both very hot, among the most honest people in the world and had a wonderful relationship for two years. So, ...
Still, I prefer not to have a piture in my profile but not because I am shy. Because I want a guy to choos me because of the beauty of my soul not only the beauty of my face. As solitare mentioned once you post your picture, you start to recieve so many odd messages from wiered classes. The moral of the story: there are so many reasons that people do not post their pictures. Dishonesty as paula believes is only one of them. But there are a lot of other fair reasons for it. My advice: do not disregard profiles without picture. There are wondeful people out there without a picture on their profile.
Hi single mothers! I am so sorry for what you've experienced. It is a shame! I want to talk about another kind of stereotype. Non-white people are suffering from lots of stereotypes. They are being judged based on their accent, nationality and look. I've thought about it a lot and finally came to the conclusion that it is in human nature. We try to classify every thing and usually the strong does it about the weak or who has an advantage does it about who doesn't have that advantage. What the strong ignores is that whatever we have in this world is a gift and very often we don't have much control over it (such as beauty).
Well, I truely agree with you that many don't know what they want. But I always have a problem with the words fun loving. Many use it without being clear what it means. When somebody says s/he is honest you know s/he means but how about fun??!!Some people have lots of fun but with their university text books or their job!
Well, I liked ll187's answer so far. Men are unable to answer honestly! I see that the conversations sometimes goes off the main topic in the forum but I can understand it. It is the nature of conversation. right? What I like to hear from you guys is that if the amount that people are affceted by their last relationships is a good indication of how serious they are about relationship. In fact, how much they care about the person that they are in a relationship with!
Well, it always strikes me that many people come into relationship and go away so easily. It always makes me wonder if it is a game that many people play. To me a relationship is about absolute respect, compassion and treating the other person as a human being not the temporary subject of my desires. So, if something happens to your relationship, you are going to be affected for a long time. The number of relationship and how people are affected by it (less relationship, more affcetion)is one of the criteria that I consider to choose the man that I want to go out with. I am wondering what other people's opinion is on this.
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RE: Freedom from breakups!
The way that worked for me: rather than avoiding thinking about it I let myself to think about it as much as I want. After a week I got sick of thinking about it and my mind was free of all noisy thoughts.