Not swept up in a relationship or anything...just working a lot...needed a break from the Net in general I think. I missed the variety of contacts though...the conversations (well most of mine ended up as debates I think haha)
There's a lot of new people around, I see....excellent
Seriously though, I pretty much decided a long time ago that lowering my "standards" just to have companionship isn't worth it. Most often you just end up more miserable than you were when you were single. I've seen a lot of women (and some men) bounce from person to person--because they feel they "can't" be alone. This isn't me. While in my heart I will always want that connection with someone, I do quite well "alone" in the meantime. Besides, my "standards" really aren't unrealistically high, so if I'm dropping them, we're looking at some pretty unsavory characters.
It would be nice to bump into some decent men though--as unlikely as that seems to be at the moment
You're right. It is weird that someone would mail this to you instead of myself. Nonetheless, I think it is a rather redundant point. I really can't think of anyone who would consider eligible and worthwhile men in the area as any type of factor in where one chooses to reside.
I work here. The neighbourhood is lovely and quiet. Crime rates are much lower than in the city (including per capita data). The people in general are wonderful and friendly. I'm not venting. I'm just a little bewildered as to why this phenomenon (minimal variety/choice in men) occurs here. I've lived in a great number of places, and have never noticed the same to be true. This thread has a point. First, I was wondering if others have lived in places with similar issues and secondly, I was looking for other's insight into where I might be able to seek out the type of people I am looking for...even in this community.
And Gibson, feel free to ask that email's author (and any future ones) to direct their sentiments my way. I'm not really getting what their point was from what you've typed. Of course children are a product of their environments--that's why I don't want to bring my daughter up in an environment of daily shootings and high crime. Personal choice, true...but my choice regardless.
Ahh.....easier said than done, however. Luckily, I work in a field that is pretty cutting edge, and anyone with any type of experience (which I have) in this field can pretty much walk into a job in any place in Canada. That's not the issue. The issue is that I have a nine year-old daughter....I moved AWAY from Toronto when I was pregnant with her because I didn't want to raise a child in that type of place...great place when you're young and single...but just not a safe place to have kids (in my humble opinion)...the influences affecting your child there are so much different (and so much scarier) than those you can expect daily in a smaller community.
Anyhooo...point is....I can't see me ever moving my child into a city as large as Toronto...no matter HOW much I personally love it there...I grew up in the Country in British Columbia...knew every person in town..was completely safe wandering the streets at any hour with my friends at the tender age of seven....the TOWN looked after our safety...though I know I won't find a place like that for my own daughter, I would like to keep it as close to that as can be...
So I guess I'm in a catch-22
Can't have my cake and eat it too, right?
Well fine...but it doens't mean that I have to LIKE it...
I'd rather find a man...fall in love, etc....the two of us realizing that it's for real (and for good hopefully)...I would be willing to move ANYWHERE for that......still would prefer a country-setting for my daughter (and possible future children's) sake though..
Nice. I love a man with an optimistic outlook. Incidentally you seem to possess the one quality that seems to be grossly lacking in many men (no offense)...insight...refreshing.
Perhaps there's still hope...then again...maybe I'll just spend thousands of dollars...uproot...find a new job....start over...that sounds SO much easier than finding anything worthwhile around here...haha
I was just wondering if any of you either personally know anyone famous or have met them in any significant way?
Myself...
Matt Dusk (and his family) are close family friends...I have met Jeff Healey...Greg Godovich...and I spent a few days off and on with Doug Gilmour (hockey player).
Additionally, a guy that I dated in high school went on to be a drummer for a VERY famous pop star (which he still does, so I'm not going to mention exactly who)
Good call, Gibson except I really wouldn't place "profession" all that high in my list of qualifications in a mate. I do want a guy who HAS a profession, and having one which affords him a salary equal to or higher than my own would also be nice--but I'm not all that picky as to what he does to get it--as long as he doesn't hate his job...which makes him generally miserable.
I have noticed one common denominator myself...I AM attracted to a more traditional-type guy...or at least one with traditional-like morals (including family values, treating a woman with respect, work ethics, etc), and I find a lot of men who fall into that category are from other countries originally. Most Europeans, South Americans, and Middle-Easterners are just this way. The Durham Region is nearly void of the multi-cultural atmosphere that Toronto (and other large cities) have. It just seems a shame that so many "non-ethnic" men have chosen to abandon older values in favor of a more "it's all about me" attitude.
I keep telling myself that there are probably a tonne of men who are not like that around here...but I have yet to find one....or at least one who isn't already taken.
When I lived in Toronto it seemed that I had my pick of men. There were always dozens and dozens to choose from--most of which were quite eligible and attractive (in all senses) as well!
It seems that since I've moved to Durham Region (Whitby, Oshawa etc) the men are either married...gay...incredibly immature and not appropriately accomplished for their ages...or just simply completely void of any desireable qualities! I'm not kidding when I say that nearly all of the men I meet around here fit into one of those categories. Most of the single men (in any sort of compatible age group) are raging alcoholics or stoners who work at GM (which is decent enough) but spend their free time parked on their sofas night after night..smoking dope, drinking beer and watching hockey! They DONT want to grow up..they DONT want to be responsible..they DONT want to commit to anyone...they are quite convinced that if they sit around long enough some hot little tart will come along who is just DYING to not only tolerate this lifestyle, but to facilitate it!
I really am not asking or expecting for much. But I do have to draw the line when it comes to ambition and attitude. I am not ever going to be content with a man who is content with no quality of life, but I seriously have a hard time finding that diamond in the rough around here! I think I may be smack-dab in the middle of an undiscovered deadzone for men!
Shall I move? Switch to the "other side"? Become a spinster/crazy cat lady? Lower my standards? What's a girl to do?
Nice! Can you recommend what sort of deck I could start with? I understand that there are generalized starter decks which are moderately priced...I think that is what I am looking for.....right?
Nah....no actual GAME can do that to anyone...if someone takes any sort of game (role playing or otherwise) and uses it as the theme or excuse for doing something bad...they were bad to begin with...probably highly unstable emotionally and mentally....so effected by influence that reality checks out frequently...whether they are "game" players or not...
I don't buy into that...that's like saying that teens end up committing suicide or killing their girlfriends because that's what Eminem said was cool....no stable "healthy" person could possibly make it right by connecting the two...
In any case...I do see that it is more of a young person's game...but it seems there are more than a few adult players around here too...as for the running into buildings paranoid...with some of their cards being worth over $2000 EACH...I'd be a little paranoid walking around with 500 of them or so too! LoL
Yeah...I hear ya...My friend really does discuss the game quite a bit (though I am quite happy to hear about it since I want to learn)..
Listen...I have to jump in the shower and jet off to an app't...but any help you guys can offer would be greatly appreciated..I'm also looking for an inexpensive starter deck...if anyone has one they're wanting to get rid of (for a reasonable CS price!)
Please leave messages here with tips and hints...experiences...etc....and if you have info on a deck send me an email, k? (I don't want to cross any CS rule boundaries or anything)
If you're REALLY patient and would be wiling to have a conversation with me about the game...I would be sincerely thankful...
See! I knew it was a popular thing...I don't think it's a bad thing for kids....as they get older they seem to get very into it...like a club of sorts...they may be looked at as a bit nerdy....but it keeps them off the streets and out of trouble....plus they practice strategizing and using logical problem solving skills....I think it's a good thing...
I have a friend who is pretty into this game, and it does sound very interesting...with tournaments all over the place..etc...
I was just wondering if anyone here plays this game...I was thinking of trying to take it up, but it seems quite complex, and I don't think that one could learn to play by just reading the "theory"....was hoping for a few tips from those who actually know the game..
Well Amun...I'm not a guy and I'm not in Ajax....but I'm a chick in Whitby....LoL....just thought I'd say hi since no one else was doing so....Hi...welcome to forums.. .
While I admire the insight that posters are showing, I must regretfully inform you that Chilipepr does not seem to be searching for faith anymore. He certainly could use a little faith at this point in his life, but as of yet it elludes him. In fact, I have serious doubts that he will ever read these posts. I love him dearly, but at present he is a lost man. And yes....I speak from first-hand personal knowledge....
You've misinterpreted what I was trying to say...I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with the lighter chatter that's going around...like I said, it is quite clear that it is the popular thing of late....and I have no problem with that, nor do I think that there is anything wrong with participating in it....
I was speaking for MYSELF...the reason that *I* have not been posting much lately is that *I* am not so into the smalltalk....or at least not so much of it...
The author asked a question regarding where the "regulars" were going....I can't speak for the others...I was speaking for myself....
Jeepers man....that's another reason many "regulars" have been keyboard-shy....you can't say ANYTHING anymore without half of the people around here taking some sort of offense to it....I've never had to be so freaking politically correct in my life...it's exhausting....I would far prefer to just be myself....with readers knowing that I *never* have malintent....so if it appears that way...there is a misunderstanding somewhere...
I'm what you'd call a "regular" as well as someone who has been here an awfully long time....I still come to this site almost daily...but find that I am not posting nearly as much. I think that a large part of the reason for this is that the threads have just been getting so friggen boring or pointless....no offense to anyone...but there really have been slim pickins lately....
Plus...you're right in that a lot of the other regulars have left...some of the people I used to enjoy talking to the most are no longer around, so I have either lost contact or now talk to them via MSN or whatever....
This place is in serious need of a makeover...we need to think of some good topics to chat about...of course, that's just my opinion....it looks as though there are plenty of people who are more than happy to carry on with the meaningless babble....otherwise it just wouldn't stay there...
Well I booked a fancy hotel room (with fireplace, jacuzzi, fallsview and balcony) for three nights for my daughter and I in Niagara Falls (Ontario side). It's her March Break this week, so I wanted to do something....I chose this particular hotel (despite it's very high price....sigh) because they have a whole gammet of activities going on this week JUST for march break'ers...magic shows...evening movies with free popcorn...build a bear workshops...a three-story waterslide into their pool (which also has a waterfall of it's own!)...all KINDS of stuff...face painting...clowns...etc etc...you get the picture...
I'm very excited to get away myself...I've been there a million times, but still just love staying for a few days in Niagara Falls.....
Venting... ~Why in the HELL is my order wrong EVERY time I get dinner delivered? It's one thing to get it wrong AT the restaurant where things can be quickly and easily remedied...but I waited for an hour and twenty minutes tonight for a soup and sub...and they forgot the freaking soup! I paid for it and everything! ~and I'm with the one above venting about Tim Hortons...their JOB is coffee...their SPECIALTY is coffee...they must pour fifty billion COFFEE A DAY...how in the heck can they get "one cream, two sugar" WRONG so many times? Black no sugar...cream no sugar...cream and half a sugar...3 cream and 1 sugar...pretty everything else BUT what I asked for~! ~I don't get people who SAY they are looking for certain qualities in a mate, or certain things in a relationship..but then they turn around with something like "I'm not really interested in seeing someone with a kid" (their profile says loves kids...has no problem with single moms etc)...or "I'm looking for a woman who can reciprocate the same love and feeling that I am giving them" and then turn around to say "I'm just not very open with my feelings...I'm not ready to love anyone right now"
and last, but not least....God love em...but (very) senior citizens who have lost one or more of their senses (due to old age), not to mention a large portion of their automatic reflexes should NOT be driving...I swear, every time I am driving behind someone who suddenly slams on the brakes with no car or stoplight in front of them...or when I am carefully watching the car in the next lane with their left blinker on as they suddenly kamikaze towards side-swiping me RIGHT...it ends up being some poor little old lady (or man) that is driving...with their nose barely above the dash-board. I'm all for preserving independence, but do we really need to endanger life and limb to do so? Can't we all just take turns driving our grandmothers/fathers and great aunts/uncles to their doctor's app'ts and grocery stores?
I do tend to do a lot of "nice" things every day...but quite a bit of that I consider to be part of being a good nurse.
One thing I go out of my way to do on a daily basis is to compliment the people around me frequently. I personally do not get very many compliments out of the blue (without the compliment-er wanting to sweeten me up for something)...and so when I do get them, they have a significant impact. I feel that people do not compliment each other nearly as much as they should...not exactly sure why...but I know how great it can feel to get one..so I try to pass them around....and quite honestly....most of the time I was thinking it anyhow! example..."hmm...her hair looks really good today...I wonder what conditioner she uses?..." Instead of just thinking it...I make a point of actually saying it. Catches people off-guard sometimes, but it really can brighten a day.
Incidentally, as I scrolled down this thread reading the posts, I thought to myself "holy crap! Nene (TabooN) looks BEAUTIFUL in that picture..."
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RE: you think you know your music?
LEARY...it's Dennis LEARY I think