Well I for one think that she's onto something....couldn't we arrange that? A CS Singles Cruise?? Other people/sites have done it...I still get emails all the time from this "single in the city" group telling me about singles cruises/dances that they're having....
Let's do it, people...let's plan a singles cruise (or all-inclusive vacation at a resort--which is usually MUCH cheaper) for all of us here on the site who can make it...that would be an absolute BLAST...
Bah...don't worry...it's true what they say--love will come to YOU when you least expect it...really...stop looking...fill your time with things that you love to do...take an art or creative writing or piano class or something...join a gym....whatever....if you do what you love...you're bound to run into interesting (and potentially available) men who share some of your interests...
I know I get into a funk every once in awhile about being so incredibly "single"...I forget my own advice...then...when I remember...THAT is usually when I run into something worthwhile...
You are just too special of a person to "settle" for less than you are hoping for...remember that. Your perfect man will LOVE how much you wager when you love someone..that will be what sets you apart from the crowd...hold onto that...it's a gift..not a flaw..
Hey--I just read the post above me...OPENHONEST...giving with all of your heart is a GOOD thing..not a flaw! Anyone who tells you different is just jealous of that kind of ability (not everyone CAN love with their entire heart)...yes, it sets us up for even BIGGER heartaches...but...the day that it pays off...we will have that kind of love that others only dream of...and sister...that day WILL come....(or at least it BETTER!!)
Look at myself in the mirror and identify my faults?? Holy crap...where to start...where to start....(I thought they told us NOT to do that!)...well..physically I could point out a million things that *I* think could be vastly improved on--I don't think that's the point of this thread, so let's just move beyond that...
In a relationship....personally...I think one of my faults is that I tend to expect "too much" from my partner (or so I've been told)...I am 100% honest...and it is in my nature to always try to think of things/ways to make my partner happy...I'm very thoughtful I suppose you could say...then...when I don't see the same efforts being put forth towards me, I tend to get a little dismayed...so I "expect" too much. Also, I can't STAND to stay mad....it will EAT ME UP...a short "cooling off" period apart from each other is okay, but I NEED to talk things out until it is better..or at least agree to disagree and move on...that drives a lot of men NUTS.
Jeesh...I never really wrote all this stuff down before...I could easily keep going...but won't (it's self-incriminating, dontcha know!)
I guess the balancing factor is that I can honestly say that I give myself more completely to my partner than anyone else I can think of...and I love with every cell in my body...110% dedication when I'm in that type of relationship...
Not just the men, hun...the women here (aherrmm) are pretty damned "yummy" too (no...I'm not interested in women).... I think it's all the crazy weather...
BUT...if he was unavailable (and un-interested...pshyeah...right..hehe)..it would have to be Antonio Banderas or Alan Alda 20 years ago....and he would be in T.R.O.U.B.L.E.......
Yeah, I'd have to say that the beaches are an aquired taste...but those who love it...love it.
I spent most of my years in the Dufferin/Bloor and Keele/Eglinton areas...both of which are getting pretty rough lately...(ok...Keele/Eglinton always WAS)...
I did love living in TO though...just didn't want to raise kids in "The Big Smoke"
You know what? The last time I was looking for work was by far when I got the best response. I ended up with a FANTASTIC job in forensics...a VERY specialized and HIGHLY competitive field....Know what I did? I acted like I was a poor student (which for once at that time I was not)...there is usually a not-for-profit agency in town that will have job postings galore, plus they help you to tweak your resume (though I didn't require their services for that)..let you make copies/faxes for free...etc etc...
You should look around...I think the one I went to last time was called "John Howard's Society"? Something like that, anyhow...
FYI...I edited resumes professionally for a few years back in my college days...let me know if you want me to run my magic fingers over yours! (Pro Bono of course!)
Probably best to avoid the majority of the GTA really...not asian enough for Richmond Hill...Not Greek enough for the Danforth...No kevlar (as you've said) for the Jane area....and for god's stake stay the HELL out of Durham Region...
Weird! I haven't had anyone ask me for any form of money or funding yet...of course, my no-nonsense personality is quite apparent in very early conversations...I don't think I come across as the type who would be dying to loan anyone money...hehe
Why? Because I am not for stomping into a country and killing everything in my path just because they have different ideals? I agree with protecting our country and our freedom...I agree with protecting those that need protecting...I just think a little restraint can go a long way...Let's remember who the enemy is, shall we? The middle east (as far as I can tell) poses no immediate threat to our lifestyles, freedoms or wellbeings.
There really is no good reason for war. If you must defend yourself against an imminent threat...then so you must...
"So if it takes several million embola (or any other nasty organism) to overwelm our systems, to fatally infect a healthy adult" (and so on)..
FYI....the majority of our populations (Canada and the US) are NOT healthy adults...they are minors and frail elderly...both groups being highly succeptible to even the tiniest contaminant....
So us healthy adults may live just fine...but we wouldn't have much of a future if every one of our children were suddenly gone...
Amidst the tangential details I do see your relative connection to the subject...more than that though...I like the way you've made your point...agree or disagree..
First of all...what you are saying has little or nothing to do with this thread...and I apologize to others here that the rest of this post will unfortunately have to follow suit....you don't like my personality? Hey...entirely your perogative...Egotistical? Nope...Know it all? Not even close...but I AM very confident in the things that I DO know about...just as we all are. For example...the PD reference you made...if you're reading this out of a "college text" as you've said...then you have no practical knowledge of what you're talking about...for example..did you read on a bit to find that EVERY PERSON ALIVE has elements of one or more personality disorders? There are plenty of websites where you can do an online test showing your own personal "PD" qualities...Do you know where I work? I see 25-30 people a DAY with diagnosed personality disorders...so yes...with regard to this subject...I would say that I have a much more enriched knowlege than someone reading from a textbook glossary...
As I told cool dude here...you are going to hear opinions that you disagree with...just as I do...you're just as entitled to your opinion as anyone else...whether or not my personality "irks" you is really none of my concern...I'm sure I "irk" plenty of people...just like you do (and everyone else for that matter--we're just never going to please them all)...there are a lot more people who like what I say (and how I say it) than there are that do not. My conscience is clean, and that's all that matters.
As for the rest of it...I think I'll just stay how I am...it's working nicely for me...I am sorry that you have misjudged me though. It happens. I'm okay with that.
I hardly think that two thread posts and one bit of constructive criticism is considered "harassment".....slander? don't think so...suck it up, big boy...expect to hear opinions differing from yours....a LOT...it's going to happen...like it or lump it..
By the way...I am a little interested to hear how you intend on "ousting" me from here.....more amused, really...but interested as well.
My vote's a YAY.....I personally love this feature...helps me feel more connected to the other members...and I HAVE used it to send a note to people who otherwise may not have had the courage to do so...
Cooldude...If your posts "stimulate" your mind...then you must have one helluv'an easy mind to entertain...and as for your labelling of others here as "pessimists"...isn't that just the pot calling the kettle black? I mean...you started this thread with an assumption that the majority of women around here are signed on with the explicit purpose of wasting good quality men like yourself's time...
There are no pessimists in this thread other than the author...and their responses are not "side effects (two words...no hyphen, btw)..they are simply people who know better asking you what the hell you're talking about, since you don't seem to have your finger on even the slightest pulse of what the "women" around here are about. Perhaps you have come across a few like you speak of...but I'm thinking that has more to do with the fact that the ones not seriously looking would be the only ones willing to waste any time on you. I have a good idea that this would be due to the negative light that you are shedding on yourself. No one likes a know-it-all who doesn't have a clue.
There are people on this site (both women AND men...and speaking statistically, it is very likely more men) who are looking for something other than their spouse...or are not here with a sincere heart...but believe me when I say that this percentage is tiny. You reap what you sow, dude....if you're making rotten (and grossly inacurate) threads and posts...you're only going to attract those with very low standards...ie..that same tiny percentage that you're talking about.
Yup....you said it...(by the way...he's happily married...and I don't think he was implying anything...or at least I hope not!)
I am really looking forward to noticing the changes myself...nothing major so far...except for my jeans being just that little bit more comfortable....I've started a thread to follow my own progress...I'm looking forward to the day where I can look back and read where I started...to see how far I've come!
haha...so I guess I needn't worry about the references then? Well...there's that...and...did you see his picture??? Anyone looking like THAT has just GOT to know what the hell he's talking about...
Regarding the earlier question bulk/tone...
First....I am going to drastically lower my bodyfat percentage...while building back some of the strength in my muscles (which have been far too idle for far too long)...then I am going to start building muscle and definition...I have a decent starting mass (muscle wise)..just need to dig it out of the fat it's hiding under! I used to be quite into the gym/bodybuilding...I love it...if I could...I would be one of those chicks that other chicks think are incredibly ugly..and that other men are afraid to date for fear of getting their keesters kicked...haha
Don't think it'll get there though...just one of my "what I used to want to be when I grew up" fantasies...I'd be happy with being strong and fit.
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RE: Singles Cruises....Anyone been on one?
Well I for one think that she's onto something....couldn't we arrange that? A CS Singles Cruise?? Other people/sites have done it...I still get emails all the time from this "single in the city" group telling me about singles cruises/dances that they're having....Let's do it, people...let's plan a singles cruise (or all-inclusive vacation at a resort--which is usually MUCH cheaper) for all of us here on the site who can make it...that would be an absolute BLAST...
Sam