Trust me, men wonder just as much why it's so hard to find a "nice" woman.
I think someone really needs to know who they are and what kinda person they want to be with. Otherwise, where does the connection start between you? What will hold the relationship together after the infatuation wears off?
The few women that get attracted to me consider me one of the "bad boys" because of some of my interests, but I'm also one of the "good guys", in how I treat people and respect others. I think everyone has a bit of both, and your partner should be attracted to the many different parts of your personality, and not just because you're "nice".
So to the creator of this thread, I ask this: What kind of woman are you looking for?
Best thing I can think is *to* think about it, even if its upsets you.
Don't waste your time trying to repress your hurt over what happens; just let it all out - even if that means doing something as "unmanly" as cry, then move on with your life.
Whilst I was raised by solidly catholic parents, I turned away from the belief around my teens years. It used to be flat out atheism, but it slowly turned into a respectful agnosticism as I got older, and that's where it currently stays.
Whilst I feel there are many who use faith too liberally as a crutch and an answer to everything in the world, and forget their own teachings as they condemn non-believers in the process, I also realise there are many pure and decent people who just want to believe, and I don't feel I have to place to question what makes them feel more complete.
I believe that nobody knows the answers. We can beat around the bush all day with scientific fact, but at the end of the day, nobody has died and come back to tell us what's on the other side. In my humility, I feel it only fair until my final day to find out, instead of guessing the answers while I'm still alive.
I'm hard to anger, very hard. I'm liberal about pretty much anything, so other people's ways of doing things ever bothers me, and I never judge them for unless they're undermining someone else for their own beliefs.
But start putting innocent and decent people down, insult people for who they are if they're not hurting anyone, or lie to satisfy your ego, and chances are I'll hate you and be sure you know it.
I'm a pacifist, but those are the one thing that really make me angry. I have no paitence for ignorance or arrogance.
I usually don't send many messages out myself, but if I do, I tend to consider it polite if they say something back, even if just to say you're not interested.
But sometimes, the silent treatment is just something that happens. There's not much you can do about, unfortunately.
The only one of those that could be considered a holiday was France. I've lived in Ireland, England and America, and the pilgrimage to Yugoslavia was for months, back when I was a child, with my family and a large congregation of priest and nuns from this country.
The point I was trying to make is that having seen so much of the world, I'm still trying to find someone that comfortably feels like "home" to me.
If you don't mind me asking shi (just because you're a damn smart man), do you think it's impossible for "young" people to "get" what love is?
I agree with you that it's something that has to grow though; I was once with someone for three years and engaged to them before it all went a bit messy, but looking back I can see what was lacking in it and why it wasn''t "love".
On the other hand, I had a partner in the past to whom I wasn't with nearly as long but still remain very emotionally close to; it didn't work out, but the relationship did a lot of good things for both of us.
I've never had a place that I'd considered "home". I'm not trying to sound emo when I say that either.
Where I've live my entire life holds no weight for me, despite my family living here; it's just where I happen to live. I've had the luxury of travelling a decent bit over the years, and seen many varied places in the world - pilgrimages to Yugoslavia before the wars broke out, France, England, and even residence in America for a while.
So I guess I've always had a sense of wanderlust. I want to settle down, but I know I don't want to settle down here.
I know myself personally, I'd rather the person know what I consider my merits and flaws are before they even get to know me, instead of making myself out to be something I'm not, good or bad. I'd rather limit myself to the "right" person instead of opening my option to people that I just wouldn't feel right with.
I think auburnlocks probably feels the same way.
We all have different people who are "right" for us. The "right" person is going to like you as you are.
Well, you're entitled to your opinion, but it *is* actually possible for a man to be conversational towards a woman and consistently try to be helpful without having any interest in them.
Not to mention the fact that whilst some people have been bugging her about not replying fast enough like desperate little dogs (read her profile), I only sent her a message last night, and even *stated* in it that I was only interested in chatting cause we're similar ages, not of any romantic interest.
The remark I made that you quoted wasn't even meant to be taken seriously, and it wasn't passing judgement on anyone specifically; I was simply commenting (jokingly) on the overwhelming attention that she is (understandably) receiving, and making a joke at my own expense (laughing at oneself is considered a good thing) about how I'm not one of those guys.
So if you want to go ahead and view it as "the exact opposite", feel free. But kindly have the dignity not to perceive my actions without understanding the situation. I find her posts engaging and thought-provoking; probably simply because they're a hundred times more intelligently written than 99% of the drivel most bimbos my age write.
That doesn't mean I want to get in her skirt, and she already knows I don't.
A return trip to Ireland from the US would set you about $600. That's about what it cost me to get a return trip to the US when I was living there.
I would imagine Australia is about the same.
It can be a legal minefield though, even just for a holiday trip, so its something you'll definately want to research if you were ever actually considering overseas travel.
I was born a little too hate to watch the culture blossom first-hand, but I have a soft spot for the classic 80s goth bands; Siouxsie And The Banshees, Sisters of Mercy, The Cure.
That sort of thing.
Find it next to impossible to get into most modern music; it's all focus-group tested tripe. What ever happened to the energy?
No wonder the music industry keeps losing so much money.
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RE: TOY SHOW
More to the point... who *isn't* gonna watch it?I imagine half the country will be sitting in front of the TV tonight!