ChinaS Forum Posts (129)

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I have not had it happen actually. I had something similar happen, but he came crawling back around a bit over a week later saying he freaked out, was having flashbacks of his ex and the crap she did to him and got cold feet. He redeemed himself because I can understand that, especially in his case. But you hear it all the time from women and it is obviously so common that we have this guy getting filthy rich for helping women avoid it happening. As a writer myself, that gets my curiousity up about it, curious minds want to know and you guys have the answers, that is how this guy got all the big secrets so he says, interviewing men about it plus being a man himself.

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Point being that I won't give a crap then, will be rejoicing the jerk is gone!

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I will agree he is a snake for taking advantage of desperate women, all in the guise of helping desperate women not be desperate. I personally, as i said, want nothing to do with a man that would act like that anyway, forget paying this dude, I will hold the freaking door for a man that does that. You would probably always have to read his mind and who needs it. I think you have a good point with that last sentence.

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For the point of my question it is important to know, because this is about what answers this guy is selling that women would pay that kind of money to find out. There are answers to this obviously. Traits in some women that cause a guy to do this? You are guys, so what traits in a woman would cause you to bolt, honestly? Getting close to fast, being needy, etc? What would make you bolt?

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Only that I have not dated you I guess.

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True, I can agree with that one, issues

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Your too cute to be so rude by the way, what is up with that? Just like to be the obnoxious rebel? No offense intended..I am not rude, just asking.

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Lake Ozark area

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I will? So back on track now, what are the traits that some women display that cause a man to bolt without explanation?

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Oh yea, that is true. Carter says that also in his little commentaries to sell his stuff, but to me that is just common knowledge for women, that is usually ingrained in us since birth. Do not put out or the man will not respect you, you are not take home to mom material.

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Then if he would just open up, he could probably really give us the real scoop on the subject, he probably knows.

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If i did, he must have been really lame because i did not feel anything Good thing i did not pay him huh?

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Accepted, you are a cutie by the way, just thought you should know that!

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Okay, now you are on to something here, because this carter guy says that men do this with women who show certain traits and he teaches them what those things are and not to do them. So what are those things that women do that cause men to do this?

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I see why you do it, but this is not the common reason at all. I am talking about when things are going good by all perspectives and suddenly the man does a 180 and just bolts without anything, goodbye, kiss my ---, etc

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I neve would run, I want openness, good..bad or indifferent. Kudos, as I know all men are not that way, just hoping you men, good men, can explain some of this to us.

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He vanished, cant! Not generalizing if you read, it does not say anywhere that all men do this, it says it must be a very common thing with men. Reread!

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Based on another thread that is going and quoting below the point that I want to ask about,

"Usually guys have no courage to tell you the truth so they choose easier way - they simply vanish. Pathetic."

So guys, help us out here, why do men handle exiting from someone they have been dating this way, especially when you have been giving the perception to the woman that all is really good and that you are into her.

I mentioned in another thread something that just gets under my skin and it is the carter guy that is making a fortune by selling programs to women for $400 a pop to teach them why exactly guys do this, why they just stop calling and vanish into thin air when dating and everything seems good. Which Carter is right, it totally baffles the woman, and she is clueless as to what happened! And he supposely teaches women how to prevent that from happening with a man. As he states, the things that men do not want women to know. How when they say this, it really means that.

What a racket for him, but this must be a very common behavorial trait in men, and I can even say that I experienced it once, but it was nothing devastating to me as I was not invested, I don't invest easy and good thing I guess. But no way am I paying some guy even four bucks to figure out a man, if a man acts like that he can hit the door anyway, who needs that in my opinion. But save some woman hard earned dollars here, tell us for free what carter is selling...why do guys do that, just vanish rather then just being real and upfront and saying hey, its not working out.

What triggers a man to bolt like that, without explanation? And what are some things that a man says but yet means something else totally different. Like what does a man mean when he says he is really into you?

For the Ladies, what are some other lines that we can ask the men what the real meaning is?

Help us figure you out and we will in turn help you figure us out.

RE: HOW CAN I MEET A NICE GUY WHO WANTS TO BECOME MY BOYFRIEND????

Feel too old for a date now?!! Sweetie, you are young stuff and hot stuff to boot, so just get out of the house. Turn off the computer, get out there in society and you will have no problems finding some handsome young stud, probably many actually, so you can have your pick of them.

RE: The Pub! Pull up your keyboard and have some fun!!

Sweet Ooby, pull up a seat, have a beer and finish. I have seen that same sight you describe myself. I love crossing the state line into Colorado, the beauty, it always reminds me of the Wizard of Oz, when she opens the door and it goes from black and white to color. Oh and tranquil beauty of Rollins Pass down by Central City, untarnished by man and climb at your own risk, three lakes, the abandoned trendle bridge at the top, just breath taking.

RE: Why on a first date do people have to

Okay, I will stop feeling up my dates until the second one now that it is duly noted to be rude on the first!

RE: What do you do when,,,

So just out of curiousity, are you as open with how you feel with a woman when she has not lied but you just decide you are not interested. Do you tell her you are not and why, or do you just disappear without a word?

RE: What do you do when,,,

I am straight up so I simply ask and get it over with and move on, be it with them or without them.

RE: why does it seem , women from other countries will respond more and are friendlier than women here

Wow, looks like this thread went south, all this hostility and stigmatizing. I think we all suffer the brunt of both bad women and bad men, it is a two way street. Good men and good women tend to be calloused and ruined to each other because of bad men and bad women that came before. Quite honestly, it stinks and no one should be held liable for what someone else did in a previous relationship. You can carry the baggage from it all you want and let it weigh you down and continue to victimize you, for what good it does you...because it is just harming you, or you can get up, dust yourself off and take some wisdom (rather then baggage) with you when you go. I say that every negative that happens to you, you can usually trace right back to a foolish decision you made. Typically bad women and bad men put off signs of such if we really open our eyes and ears to it, rather then being blinded and deafened by lust and love. As a good woman who has not motivation to harm anyone, but to just truly love 100% for life and want the same, I personally have no qualms signing a pre-nup. I could care less about what the man has, that is not why I am there so why would I. I would just also retain in some way what I have so if he pulls a bad one, I can go back to my life and not have totally lost myself either. But more importantly, I tread cautiously and really feel things out and try to have the wisdom to not be blinded, to take my time, and be sure of all things before I jump into the fire, respectfully so without blaming the new man for the old man, which is ludicrous.

RE: why does it seem , women from other countries will respond more and are friendlier than women here

Well, I can agree with you on your point I guess, but my point was different actually. I hear men state that they deal with foreign romance cons. They get bombarded with foreign women ids wanting to love them up and form quick bonds, and then they hit them up for money, family member sick, need help getting to the states to be with the man. The man gives them the money and never hears from them again. That was my meaning, is it possible that many of those responses have a motive behind them. Granted, there are a lot of foreign women here that are genuine good women, and most likely the foreign ones that are romance cons are not even who they present in photo, could even be a man.

RE: Say something real nice to the person above.....

And Arealguy is not so bad himself. Thanks!

RE: ladies traveling to meet a guy for the first date

I wouldn't travel over an hour, if he is further away then that, he can do the traveling. Besides, how safe is it for a woman to be the one to go a long distance to someplace she does not know, and no one knows her? That is kind of crazy in my mind, but I work with the families of missing persons every day all day long...makes one more keen to the realness of going missing easily. Scary

RE: Blind dates yes or no?

Depends on much you trust the judgment of the one who is setting you up on the blind date. Friend or enemy?

RE: 'MAN OR MONEY' ??????? WHAT MATTERS ????

I actually would not choose either, have had both already, over rated!