I think the last time I got mad about something was when I caught my daughter sneaking out of the house to go to her boyfriend's place. I got angry enough to put an alarm system on her door and windows. I was angry enough to walk her to school and home every single day for 2 months - and she was in high school, lol, 15 at the time. Two years have past. Earlier this year she thanked me for cracking down on her like I did (sneaking out is what broke the camel's back), said it prevented her from worse things. She's turned into a pretty good kid.
As far as slow drivers and other silly things to get 'mad' about, I gave all that up. It doesn't matter for two reasons: one, there's always going to be another slow driver in front of this one; and two, I can't remember a single incident where it pissed me off a few minutes later - one minute I'm ticked off, I finally get around the person, then - whoa the corn's higher this year than it was this time last year...
As far as work stress, I get paid by the hour -if you want me to rush, make me salaried.
Mum, if it was your take that I/we were "dumping on fat" people, my apologies to you since that's not what we were trying to imply. You can copy and paste whatever I wrote that you feel was offensive and I'll try to revise it to make more sense...tomorrow of course. Right now I'm wiped and in serious need of some snooze time. Have a great night and I'll try to respond tomorrow if you reply back.
Dar...singlemum, neither of us was "banging" on large ppl, nor were we knocking physically large,. active persons - and yes, both 2good and I understand there are circumstances surrounding weight that are totally beyond the control of diets/exercise, etc. I know and I understand - and I'm sure 2good does as well, that there are medical conditions that prevent some who are overweight from losing that weight, but you're not actually reading what we've posted. You appear to be reading into it what you THINK we're posting, and then raving. Please, on a 'serious' topic such as this one, read what we're actually posting, think about it - seriously think about it, THEN post. Neither 2good nor I at any point in the thread "put all big people in the lazy arsed pile" - quite the contrary, IMO. Stating that "I've read of people who went to the gym, done martial arts etc die of heartattacks and other weird and wonderful things." has no meaning to what we're talking about and is a non sequitur. I know about 'slumps', and I'm just as guilty as the next person for falling into them. Keep your head up, Singlemum, I think you're going in the right direction...just understand that this thread/post wasn't a 'bash against large people'. It is a thread/post as to theories behind not always hooking up with others that fall outside of certain 'criteria'. Would you date a guy like me? I'll let you be the JUDGE of that.
Understood, Nene. We all judge - otherwise we'd keep making the same mistakes over and over again and would have destroyed our species long ago - but I agree, stereotyping sucks.
I'm glad others have opened up and spoken their minds as I was being reserved to the topic - there's simply absolutely NO WAY I could fall in "love" with someone online - not in days, not in years. If someone else does I fear it's either due to immaturity, simply "not getting it", the pure excitement of it, or desperation and want. I have fallen in "like" once, but a real - and honest - relationship takes YEARS to develop...love comes slowly and softly, not like a thief in the night - and I'm talking run of the mill local relationships, not one's developed on the internet. It would be wonderful to hear that April's newfound relationship developed into the nurturing, long term relationship she believes it will be, but even if it does it's one-in-a-million, and I'd personally never invest in odds like that, not when my heart and future are the stakes.
Ready for martydom, 2good????????? I'll die at your side on this one; you made some EXCELLENT, rarely made points of view from a male (and I'd have to assume active women would see the same thing). It's not a looks thing, and not a general stereotyping, but like 2good I absolutely love the outdoors, biking and hiking, and at 11,000' it takes a toll even on me...but that's what drives me. I think the point, as 2good made so well, is it's a compatibility issue; I CAN'T change for someone, I am who I am, and enjoy the activities I do. I want to enjoy them with someone like-minded who's as physically active as I am, and there's a price for that. The question at hand "why do men always want a size 6?" (hell, I'd probably fall out of even a woman's size 6) is akin to me asking "what's wrong with a guy who's 5'4"? why the stereotyping??". Most women are NOT going to date a guy my height and I'm perfectly content with that. I'll bet if I looked at all the womens profiles on this site I'll mostly see 5'10"-1,000' plus - point being, we all have preferences, needs. I've got wonderful friends that come in all shapes, colors, and beliefs - but my mate shares my interests and activities, and me hers. That's how the world works, that's Natural Selection. Rock on, 2good.
The "idea" of courtship is wonderful to me, going thru the motions, etc. Makes me wish I'd been born hundreds of years ago when it was more commmon, and not so 'weird' - asking the parents permission to court their daughter, and whatnot. I feel today if I asked a woman's parents that they'd think I was a dork - they'd be 1/2 right, but maybe not the best way to start in today's society. Dunno, actually contemplated doing exactly that in the not too distant past...
For me it's not the "distance" perse, it's the whole process of relocation vs potential LTR. It's fine and dandy to fall head over heels in like with someone online, but reality sets in when you have to consider finding a new job, new home, moving all your crap, finding new friends, learning a new city and it's ppl, the likelihood of leaving all your family behind for someone that might indeed NOT be who you thought he/she was. Just food for thought.
Well, my son 'forces' me to play Bauldur's Gate and Starwars Battlefront with him, but I prefer the Age Of Empires series games on my PC. BTW, I like it that there's no cooties in this thread, maybe I'll move here.
Lincoln Logs rocked:) I almost bought a set for a 5 yr old the other day (it was his b-day), but didn't think he'd appreciate them as much as I did.
Things I miss: Crab apple wars with the neighbor kids, snagging salmon out of the river by hand, Bomb Pops from the ice cream truck, Saturday morning cartoons and Son Of Svengoolie, McDonalds actually being a treat, not knowing what war really does, running around in our underwear under the bug zapper at night playing Tron, the 200 Star Wars figurines that I could probably retire with if I sold them today... ...mom, can I come home now?
I had a woman I was barely acquainted with ask me out on a date. "Where?" I asked. "To the Knight's Inn", she replied. I humbly accepted (mistake #1). She asked me out again, I accepted again (mistake #2). Found out she was married, that she had a boyfriend (whom I later found out was trying to befriend me so as not to make her mad and dump him), that she was a total pillhead, and that she had a crush on her OWN father. That was 10 yrs ago, and the last time I went the one night stand route. Yikes...still gives me the willies.
I receieved one of those "letter to a soldier" letters during Desert Storm in '91 from a woman. I still chat with her online frequently, we talk on the phone, etc. She's got dozens of pics of me and sees me on cam all the time, but 14 years later and I still have no clue what she looks like, lol. I deal. On the other hand there's a lady I met a few months ago in person after chatting and camming with her for a year - and although she met 95% of my personality/intelligence/"click" criteria for someone I'm looking for, her looks certainly influenced me to get in the car and go meet her. Fantastic woman, my "Mrs. Right", 700 miles from my home...but that's another thread. To sum it up 14 yrs: no pic, no meeting (although I've greatly considered it for a long time); 1 yr and pic: met.
We used to catch lightning bugs and rub their glow spots on our bodies too, like your flowers, but that was like two years ago. I've grown up since then and now only catch them and draw smiley faces on the sidewalk.
"Yeah...but what if you do something before and after the movie...I mean hanging in the park, talking...whatever. That'd be better?"
Well that's entirely different, no? lol. I say just cut out the movie altogether though; I'd learn more about her on a first date if we just sat indian-style on the floor picking each others noses than sitting in a theater.
I agree with lady on this one, an amusement park - somewhere outdoors and at a time when for once in your life you don't mind waiting in line for an hour...gives you time to get to know the person you're with a little better (added benefit is you get to find out if they get line-rage or any other patience issues). I still hate the idea of a movie for a date, especially a first date. 10 minutes of small talk in the car before the movie, 10 minutes of small talk in the car after the movie. Bleh.
Single parents put themselves in the position they're in, they must face the consequences of their actions, accept responsibility for it, and deal. You're the one that chose your mate, you're party to the reason you're not with that person any longer. You chose to keep the kid/kids with you and wouldn't be in the position you're in otherwise. I know, I'm a custodial parent as well.
No, no - please, keep the tunnel as I'm all about having an emergency escape plan. Assuming $ is no issue, I'd have a penthouse in Denver overlooking the mountains with wrap around windows and a gargantuan patio; and to think, I'm only 2 miles from and about $2 million short of achieving that dream home. I'd also want a vacation home on the beaches of Benidorm in Spain - I generally don't spend enough time inside to enjoy it, so for me it's more "location, location, location".
OMG, get real. They were never more raw than they were for Killing Is My Business...". "Peace Sells" rocked too - and I love a lot of their "newer" digs, but those were the building materials, and although I think they've re-fined themselves, I don't think they've re-defined themselves.
Forgive me father for I have sinned I'm a child of air, I'm a witch of the wind And I'm still wide awake... Mary Jane
The Thread Police is aware of your delinquent activities, DamnitsCloudy, and is subsequently shutting this down this thread for the fun of it. Go away - and have a nice day. There's nothing more to see here, folks.
What's your name anyway, DiC (you walked into that one)? I'm Alan, but that's Secret Knowledge.
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RE: What made you mad today?
Wow, that blows chunks, Nene.I think the last time I got mad about something was when I caught my daughter sneaking out of the house to go to her boyfriend's place. I got angry enough to put an alarm system on her door and windows. I was angry enough to walk her to school and home every single day for 2 months - and she was in high school, lol, 15 at the time.
Two years have past. Earlier this year she thanked me for cracking down on her like I did (sneaking out is what broke the camel's back), said it prevented her from worse things. She's turned into a pretty good kid.
As far as slow drivers and other silly things to get 'mad' about, I gave all that up. It doesn't matter for two reasons: one, there's always going to be another slow driver in front of this one; and two, I can't remember a single incident where it pissed me off a few minutes later - one minute I'm ticked off, I finally get around the person, then - whoa the corn's higher this year than it was this time last year...
As far as work stress, I get paid by the hour -if you want me to rush, make me salaried.