Yep, Abra's a rock star in my book:) I'd absolute love kicking back for beers at a tavern with him and 2good - these two are 'my people'. Insightful, experienced, intelligent, and above all realistic and Humanistic.
Who'll help us make the Fantastic Four(th)? --mind you it doesn't have to be a dude, as I've got a few in mind...
...with no description other than "...someone that was overweight?", come on. No.
On the flipside "would I date someone that was fit?"
Again, absolutely not.
I have my personal preferences, but I don't base my entire potential relationship with someone on her proportionality with me.
Can she think for herself? Has she learned from her experiences in life so far? What are her known habits, both good and bad? How attractive is she to herself? Is she overly cautious? Does she have a reason for being so? What drives her? And so on and so forth.
I would prefer to date someone thin for reasons I've stated in other posts, but it is by no means an end all.
Interesting question. The days of yesteryear or the days of tomorrow that I will not have experienced??
I think the final answer is Neither. I would like to live in this day, in this age. I truely think we still have an innocence, that we're in the process of learning to bond on a world-wide scale (or at least beginning to).
I appreciate the modern comforts we have today, and can't exactly say I would miss future luxuries since I don't know what they truely are.
I'm not particularly fond of the idea of dueling with blades for the so-called love of a woman in past eras, and I struggle with the idea of getting lasar blasted because I was unknowingly on the wrong side of the Force.
Cute, Ok - "He didn't want to take the time to get to know me because he probably didn't want to be seen with me in public and plus he just wasn't attracted to heavy women..."
Huh?
For someone who seems to be so focused on inside beauty, you sure seem concerned with your own outside beauty.
Take a step forward. I've read some of your other posts - you can be insightful - move onward. People (again) are going to judge you, it's human nature.
You're one in six-billion +. Find a way to use that to your unique advantage.
This isn't a critical statement, it's just a matter of preference for some people - are you going to date a guy who has a squid growing out of both ears, wears a pirate patch on his nose 24/7, is 6'7/135lbs, snores while he's awake, and when he's excited you're not sure whether or not he's laughing or crying?? He may be Mr. Right on the inside, but odds are you're not going to entertain this man for the long haul...an exaggerated, but simple, truth.
We select a mate based on inherent instincts...just a process of natural selection. We may be a bit more complex than most creatures, but in the end we're here to spread our genes in the best possible way for survival of the species.
If you don't care what a guy looks like, smells like, acts like - so long as he treats you well - you've probably removed yourself from the gene pool - i.e. you do not have any intention of breeding with him, and just want to share life with him - which is totally cool...so relax, someone will accept you for Who You Are, just keep in mind that even you have limits to the phyical characteristics of your future "Mr. Right".
This is flabbergasting; not one person here has said, "The Death Penalty is, regardless of a person's guilt, a biblical 'eye for an eye' reason to murder another human being".
I guess one person has now said it. I'll respond more this evening after work...
If I met you in person, cajun, I'd thank you for the messages you sent that I didn't reply to. I'm really not that lame, but the only real time I have to be online is Sundays (like today), and even then it's sporatic. On top of that I'm too lazy to reply to old e-mail/flowers...bad habit that I'm not really working on since I'm at work more than I'm at home these days. We'll see what the post-holidays bring.
I've never had a woman take interest in what kind of underwear I would wear - which is probably a good thing since I don't own any. No briefs, no boxers. I freeball it 24/7; haven't worn any for at least a decade. Except for the ones who leave skid marks, or sweat excessively, I don't understand the point of wearing underwear.
It's wayyyy too constraining, and it's hardly breathable. I found a pair of old briefs a few years ago and put them on - for about 2.3 minutes; thought I was going to suffocate in 'em...they ended up in the trash around the 2.4 minute mark. I simply can't do it.
If I ever wear another pair it'll be Depends and beyond my will.
OMG, come on...the chick moves regardless of financial status. I mean what dude in his right mind would move for a woman? If a dude moved for a woman that would be giving her 'hand' - now he'll need her for things, stuff. Any guy that would cave in for a woman like that deserves to have his male status revoked; he should be tarred, feathered, things, and stuff. He should be removed from his family tree, harassed, name called and bad language should be used against him for the sake of the world.
That'll teach him for going out on a limb to where the fruit is.
There's a reason they got there in the first place, Mastic.
If I'd have hooked up with half of the women I've chatted with online - and there's been a few - based solely on our text messages to and fro, I'd have wonderful conversations in bed, but nothing else -and I'm sure it's likewise.
I really really, really, really, (X infinity) wish ppl on this site would use it to their advantage and quit being so wishy-washy. I wish they would say what they wanted, as though they we're confiding in their best friend. I tire of "I don't care what someone looks like so long as their honest". Blah. Give the world a break. We all obviously long for an honest, committed, relationship (well, a lot of us do) with someone COMPATIBLE --- and compatible is RELATIVE as it has different meanings - and it is starting to bug me out that no one here seems to see that LOOKS and BRAINS do mean something. I hear "looking for someone honest, trustworthy, loving, snuggly, willing to commit" and it means nothing to me. I have been those things and in the end it's meaningless if you're not on the same level. Looks and brains count, relatively. I'm not looking for the next Einstein with a 10 body (necessarily, although I think I'd deal), but I am looking for something compatible - and I think a lot of that lacks in the forums here. It seems there's a lot of misleading BS that goes on here, a TON of plagurized poems, etc. (Google, anyone? sheesh...) and that bothers me. Quit making meager attempts at being above human, and be yourselves, you'll find love means a lot more.
BTW, "who you are" is of equal importance. I won't date someone I consider too overweight, just the same as I won't date someone (regardless of beauty) that is ignorant. I think the latter drives me crazier.
The way I see it is...I look to the time when I'm 80 years old (assuming I survive that long) - is the person I'm with someone that will interest me that long in life? Is she a moron that I married exclusively for her looks, or is this someone that I can carry on a conversation with and not feel as though I'm talking to a brick wall? - So it's two-fold - there has to be a strong attraction physically as well as a strong mental connection. If she's unatractive to me - which is totally relative - I'll move on, same with IQ.
Natural selection. Look at any species in general; there's a natural order to things, and the strong survive. Evolution and natural selection will predict that someone of normal or better proportions has a better chance of survival, and therefore is more preferrable to breed with.
It's not that there is anything 'wrong' with someone with a few extra pounds - at one time not long ago it was considered a favorable trait - but it goes in stages. Sometimes the weak win and the species dies. Welcome to Life 101.
On a more personal level I, as well as Raynew, deal with the same thing. We're short (height-wise of course). Being short is not a preferrable trait in this day and age (as a male), therefore we're in the same position as those that are too overweight...although in some cases (and certainly not all since there are medical phenomenon which rule it out) the overweight person can change their condition.
If you're comfortable with being overweight and don't care how proportionate the other potential significant other is, don't worry about it; you'll find someone in time. If it's an issue, remember what I wrote; and if your condition is reversible do something about it.
On a very personal level, I would like the next Mrs. Anarqi to be shorter than I am, thin (even bony as a preference) and greatly smarter and wiser than I am since I think that's hotter than anything else in the universe...but 2 out of three ain't bad.
I got in the car and drove 700 miles to meet the 'like of my life', that I met online, a few months ago.
It was worth every mile.
She's coming here in January to return the favor...but it's still an LDR. I guess if she and I were both millionaires and could afford to take the next step, potentially we would...but it just doesn't make any sense the way things are in the real world.
Aight, everyone off. This is MY ISLAND (I'm taking this place over). I guess I forgot to mention that as Almighty Ruler I reserve the right to boot infestations as I see fit.
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LMFAO!Thnx for the chuckle, Crash;)