Can't say I'm a fan. I find him to be too much the state the obvious type and treat it like it's a big revalation. I guess some people just need the truth stated to them to admit it, but I find it quite irritating.
Not sure about the U.S. laws, but here in Canada that is not the case if you are white. Our own government advertises jobs that ask you only apply if you are a member of a visable minority group, etc. Up here it is call employment equity, in the U.S. I believe you call it affermative action.
We have a lot of the same issues up here, though people are more afraid to speak up publicly about it. You only need to look at the unwarrented "facist" comment from a few posts ago to see what I mean. I do get a little tired of the "they do jobs Americans/Canadians won't do". The other part of the argument few mention is "for the money it currently pays"(though credit to the fact it was mentioned in Windygirls post). Plus, even taking out the illegal under minimum wage jobs, we in Canada have many farm jobs that the governmnt ships in "sesonal workers" for from Mexico, using the "Canadians won't do them" argument. A couple years ago I was living in the farm belt and asked at my neighbors farm if they had work available during the harvest. They told me they could not hire me or any other Canadian citizen or else they would lose their government subsidy they were recieving for using these "seasonal workers".
Trust me mach, if you aren't willing to let them see you, they will picture the worst. I haven't been here for a couple months, but last time I was here these people were not judgemental, and quite a few of the names are the same.
Must be the scent of spring in the air, I've been hearing this quite a bit this year. Personally, I holding out until some lady buys me a nice dinner first ;)
First small concert was Gowan, but first stadium show was AC/DC. I haven't check who's on tour this summer, but I really wat to see Sarah Slean this year. Every time she has had a gig in the area the last couple years, I had a show on the same day.
I must agree, Somewhere in Time is probably my favorite romantic movie. I do like a good "chick flick" now and again. Not a great movie, but Untamed Heart with Marissa Tomei and Christian Slater always gets me as well as Phenomenon. Not sure of the spelling on that last one, but it's the one with Kyra Sedgwick and John Travolta.
There is an initial probably yes or no based on looks when I meet someone but a good personality is the desiding factor. My first long term serious girlfriend in high school was a "no" when I first saw her, but once I got to know her, we ended up dating for over a year. The looks factor disapears quickly once the relationship starts. The one person I lived with for 4 years complained to me one day that she was getting too fat and wanted to join a gym because she was sick of it. I honestly hadn't even noticed she had gained over 30 pounds from the time we moved in together. In my eyes, she was just as beautiful as the day we moved in together. I guess that's good advice for most of the ladies on this site that get all hung up on having a few extra pounds. Once a man truely falls for you, he doesn't even notice them.
I'm just over in Cambridge, an hour east of London, so if you guys are having a barbeque during the two-week long barbeque season next year, I'll bring the dessert tray.
Lily, since I can only find one post that refers to kids, I assume that post was for me. I've been a situation similar to yours and even though it's been years, it still hurts to think of them. I sympathize with you. If you read the post fully, I did say "not a lot of childless woman are accepting men with kids of their own". Please note "not a lot" by no means says "all". I am in no way "Do not make generalizations about things you do not know", I know many single dads that get rejected when the women learn they have kids. Plus, I can read and if you go through the ads here by women, the majority of childless women in here do not have the will accept yours option clicked under the wants kids catagory. Obviously this is a sore issue for you and I meant no offence. I apologize if my post left it open for misinterpretation, but I do stand behind the substance of the comment.
As I posted in an earlier thread on this topic, I wouldn't not date someone because of their weight, but it is a minus in the subconcious math of "am I attracted to this person?". I hurt my back a few years ago and gained a lot of weight. I also gained weight when my doctor put me on steroids a few years before that, so I've been in the heavier catagory a couple times in my life. Did that limit my dating pool? Yes it did. It's not just guys that include looks in their search. I agree with what you say Lionhearted, though your post assumes the person is willing to make changes to loose the weight. Unfortunately a lot of them just sit around and bemoan their fate. As well, I tend to not get into a relationship based on how I might be able to change them. Let's also be clear on this, I am not talking about a few extra pounds here, niether am i looking for a stick-figure girl. I hope no one takes offence at what I am saying. Prime example is Lionhearted. She has "few extra pounds" in her profile, but looks great and from reading her posts seems like a smart, witty woman. In my estimation, she would be someone I would try dating with no hesitation, were she not over 500 miles away. Again, I am just getting tired in this entire forum seeming to be turning into a place to bash men for not dating heavy women.
As for my own thoughts with that, I accept when a woman does not want to date me because I am a smoker. It is part of who I am and what she would be willing to deal with. I am not about to start 15 threads in a month bemoaning the idea that women are cruel and selfish because they won't date a smoker. I understand that it is something some people find unatractive and accept and don't begudge them for feeling that way.
I'll throw out an apology to Chaos as I really should let him answer these questions, however... In his profile he put "socially" under smoking. Combine that with "I like to eat and relax but not to that kind of extent" from his post and I think you can easily infer that moderation is the name of the game here. His point if very clear in his post that the level of obesity he is speaking of does not come from a moderate lifestyle choice. However, again it is clear in his post that the health issues were not the "true point" of his post, just another contributing factor along with the mental and activity parts.
I should let Chaos answer for himself, but i have to point out that the first points he raised were the mental side of things(i.e. depression) and lifestyle, as in what they can and will do on a physical basis. The points he made as far as health issues were the last reason he listed. The "as well" infers that they are an afterthought, not the main point of his post. By ignoring the first two points he raised and to assume what his intents are ("just fess up and say you find overweight people unattractive") does a real disservice to a well written and honest post.
Sorry, short addition to the rant. We all do tend to accept things others wouldn't if we have the same issue ourselves. In the first post in this thread, Cutemom47 you say would date a man who is overweight, but I have to wonder how true this would be if you were a thin person yourself. It is not just the weight thing, but I've seen quite a few complaints on this board about men not accepting a woman with kids "when I accept theirs", but again, not a lot of childless woman are accepting men with kids of their own. Sorry if this post is not worded very clearly, I am having trouble putting this point clearly. Hopefully you will understand what I mean by it.
Well put adj4u. I also agree with one point winds made about not caring if they gained it after. I had a girlfriend one time that complained she was gaining wieght and feeling fat. It wasn't until she said something that I realized she had gained 30 pounds since we had started dating. I honestly had not even noticed till it was brought to my attention. That being said, there is something in the initial attraction and weight can get in the way of it for sure. And as Waverider said, it goes both ways. I've know many great guys who because they were overweight or less attractive physically get overlooked for a handsome guy that was a jerk, so like waverider says, give it a bit of a rest for a while. It seems every second day on this board there is yet another men suck because they want someone thin thread getting started. Most of you ladies would be complaining if every second day all the men on this board started a women suck, they only want a rich, tall, good looking man thread.
I was in Mesa at the beginning of this year and really liked it, though it might be a different story if you actually lived there for a long time. I would say almost anywhere in Canada, but if the Liberals get elected again in January, I might have to seriously consider giving up on this country.
The books are great. Now I see why they had to wait until Douglas Adams died before getting that movie made, though I would hardly rank it as the worst of all time. Though not good, it was better than half the stuff that does get made. Cocktail was probably the worst movie I actually spent money on(though not my pick that night). I could likely fill up pages of bad movies I've been dragged to, though a more interesting topic might be movies you hated that everyone else loves. There has been many films I thought were awful but people seemed to like. Gladiator, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, any Jim Carrey movie, etc.
A Fish Called Wanda Amazing to watch Kevin Klein actually upstage two of the Pythons. Boondock Saints One of the few movies that let Willam Dafoe show what he can do. Pee-Wee's Big Adventure First movie for Paul Ruebens(staring), Phil Hartman(writting), Danny Elfman(soundtrack), and Tim Burton(directing). Four of my favorites in each of their fields finding their ground together. I can only imagine the creativity happening during the making of the movie. Shaun of the Dead My guilty pleasures are Zombie movies and I love British humour, so this film was great to see get made.
My parents neighbour is hopeful she will make it to Christmas (brain tumor) and she is taking the weeks she has left to create wonderful memories for her family before she goes. In many ways it is harder, but be thankful you have the few days left together to tie up loose ends and leave nothing unsaid. My heartfelt condolences for what you are going through.
My parents neighbour is hopeful she will make it to Christmas (brain tumor) and she is taking the weeks she has left to create wonderful memories for her family before she goes. In many ways it is harder, but be thankful you have the few days left together to tie up loose ends and leave nothing unsaid.
I have to agree with jw on a lot of his points. A lot of the women I know only respond to a man if they need to do a bit of chasing. I have seen them reject guys I know they would have been interested in because the guy was too easy to get with an open attitude.
I don't think anyone here claimed it was sports, though it helps to be athletic. I watch it to get pointers on how to work a crowd. Some of the biggest stars in wrestling are there not because they can "beat people up" but because they can control a live audience better than a lot of the biggest actors in Hollywood, Guerrero was one of them. I remember seeing him do a promo in the ring where he had 1 prop and nobody else. Without a word spoken, he controlled that crowd and told a story for 5 full minutes. It was truely amazing to watch.
No, though I must say my parents didn't push thier religion on me at all. I always had the choice to go or not. I am agnostic, leaning toward athiest. No offence to anyone who believes, but most organized religions started when the people thought the earth was flat. Do you trust people who didn't even know the shape of the earth to tell you how it was created? My logical mind cannot accept that.
He had cleaned up his life apparently in the last year or so, he was a drinker and a pill popper on and off for years, but the damage appears to have been done as they think it was his heart. An excellent entertainer and far too young to be gone.
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RE: My Hero....DR. PHIL!!
Can't say I'm a fan. I find him to be too much the state the obvious type and treat it like it's a big revalation. I guess some people just need the truth stated to them to admit it, but I find it quite irritating.