I'm happy to accept blame in previous relationships and I know what I've done which I could have done better or differently. I do tend to take responsibility and do say and apologise when I am in the wrong.
I don't know that I am, I am just me which means I have the good bits and the bad bits about me. I don't see myself s special...just normal and average is what you get here...which I'm perfectly happy with.
..that when I'm specifically not looking to date anyone for one reason or another that that is the time when I end up meeting someone and it turns into more than just a date or a meet up.
It's always been the way for me. If I am single and interested in looking nothing happens yet if I've decided to take myself off the market then it just happens.
It's a bit like a bull in a a china shop..me being the china shop!
How about you? Have you ever found what you are looking for when you are actively looking?
Mnwosa, not at all. My comment was somewhat tongue in cheek but I have been a member on another site for while and respond to every single mail. I always respond politely too whether I am interested or not but to a polite 'no thank you' type of response I get a few 'thanks for letting me know' responses and then also a lot of insulting and abusive responses.
So I'm wondering how a reply such as 'I'm not interested' would go down and I think it would go down very badly as it's a lot more blunt than the messages I write. It's not the kind of thing I would say to anyone as I was brought up to show people respect.
I haven't replied to emails as yet because I have acquired 7 pages of them and I've not even been here a week yet. I simply haven't had time to reply and have had a pretty busy week.
I've not responded to any mails on here yet. I'm fairly tempted to do just what the OP says and see what the responses are like...could be interesting..
I won't go out with someone just because I don't want to be on my own because I'm perfectly happy on my own and have been for the most part of the three and a half years since I came out of a long term relationship.
If I'm seeing someone it's because I want to be seeing them...not just because I don't want to feel those 'alone' times. Alone times are ok in my book.
I know a site like you mentioned. I went looking innocently for someone on the net..a girl I used to work with and ended up signing into a site which then looks for all the email addys you have. I never found her..not yet anyway but I did find access to a few folk.
I'd really rather not have as the info given at first look was a pile of s-h-i-t-e...which I now know..but I did make an error. I haven't looked back since and most definitely won't pay for it...no way..
The net can be fairly evil for relationships. I know that to my expense to some degree already.
However I'm open enough that it would not bother me if someone saw all I do and which sites I am on. If I'm seeing someone then I'm not chatting up someone else...too confusing for one!
I've read this book as it was recommended by a friend.
The use of the word b-i-t-c-h is actually tongue in cheek and is more to do with having value for yourself as a woman and not being a doormat. Things like.. If he does something which is out of order in your eyes then you step up and tell him. If you're supposed to meet for a first date and he is late but not in touch with you and letting you know then you don't stick around and wait for hours trying to get through to him and find out where he's got to. Not giving up on the life you have and the things you like to 'fit in' with him. If you get together then there should be space free for both of your likes and your friends as well.
I've found that you can get together with someone and they change themselves to fit with you..in the end you lose the person you were originally attracted to because they can become a carbon copy of you.
You can be in a relationship and still be an individual.
I've only ever dated people who were up to about 4 years younger and I'm not interested in someone much younger that that really. For me it goes the other way too in that I'd rather not date anyone more than about 4 years older. I'd rather be with someone who is about the same age as me and someone I can talk with well. Reminiscing about kids tv programmes and bands you once loved just isn't the same when they hae no lue what you are talking about!
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RE: What makes you think that you are special?
I'm happy to accept blame in previous relationships and I know what I've done which I could have done better or differently.I do tend to take responsibility and do say and apologise when I am in the wrong.
I don't know that I am, I am just me which means I have the good bits
I don't see myself s special...just normal and average is what you get here...which I'm perfectly happy with.