Try not to look to hard. Good things come to those who wait. I wouldn't know what to think if someone who seemed so good fell in my lap. Part of finding someone is accepting the good bits and the not so good bits.The bits which 'don't fit' into your 'ideal'.
Keeping an open mind is always a good thing in all you do.
A frog in my view is someone who isn't quite what they seem to be and doesn't quite get the meaning of respecting others. They only seem to look after number one. While it's important to look after number one there are also other people whose feelings don't need to be trodden on in daily life.
A prince is one who realises his own worth and has no need to boast or brag about anything. True to himself and others and takes responsibility of rhis own actions without sulking!
Of course, it can take a while to get to know people and also people can change. The change might be down to personal growth or getting in a rut and also a partner who is positive can bring a person up, a negative partner can bring a person down. People and life situations change.
I took a month's break from a relationship that was 13 years long.
I moved out and wanted the time to reassess me, the relationship, whether I still wanted to be there..he did the same as well though admittedly he wasn't expecting me to move out but he did use the time to think nevertheless.
I moved back in but six months later I ended the relationship for good.
It was the beginning of the end of it for me I suppose.
I don't have too much of an issue with when someone gets back to me. I figure they are busy or doing their own thing as I do too.
If I am feeling raw from a disagreement then I am more likely to wonder where they are or why no contact..so I'll ask.
For me just now..I'm content and happy and I don't need him to live in my pocket but it doesn't mean I'm not involved. I have my insecure moments and I voice them when I have them. If I'm not having them then there is nothing to voice.
One thing..I'm looking forward to seeing him tomorrow....
Do you just fall straight in and choose to ignore things which may actually make or break the relationship eventually?
Or do you clear your head and take a step back to 'observe; (I guess is the word) what the person is like eg with friends, other people in general, their views and bahaviour patterns etc?
I agree with that. Most I know who have had tough upbringings for a multitude of reasons look back on their experiences as a learning curve and part of their personal growth but in a positive way.
I have a situation now with someone who can only 'be' the way she was brought up (if that makes any sense at all..but I doubt it does).
I once offered the hand of friendship to try and help her a bit and it all falls on deaf ears as she only sees her way to be the right one and will ask for advice and then speak over anyone who gives it.
I still have a certain amount of empathy for the situation which she is currently in but at the same time I know that she won't have sought the help she needs to bring herself to a place where she can be happy.
I think there are far different levels to what each of us can tolerate in terms of empathy for others.
Maybe not right now but someday someone will...it's for you to decide who. All I know is that your ex is a very strong woman..in a good way. You being a friend on here already I hope you find what you need because you deserve it Col.
Back to the OP..me thinking back? I lost my Mum 3 weeks before my 18th birthday and had cared for her since I was 11 (she was ill since I was 4). My Dad became very ill 7 years after Mum died and needed mine and my brother's care for 12 years until he died. My Dad became my bet friend after Mum died so losing him was hard.
I was in an LTR which..well..I stayed because Dad needed care and I needed a a home...pretty much. I was cheated on a lot and the main problem was he didn't like me looking after my Dad.
I left him after Dad died. Been mostly single since and barely dated.
If people always await their 'destiny' then they just end up sitting and waiting. If you don't grab an opportunity or tell someone you like them when you have the feeling you can get nowhere.
I know of so many people who think things will 'just happen' and fall in their lap. It rarely works that way. Step one of it is to be happy in who you are as a person. If you're not then what do you project to others? Are they likely to want you?
Be happy in yourself then grab opportunities...is the new black!
I'm kinda unsure if some of there re your preferences or what you feel to be chemistry.
Another poster mentioned pheromones...oh boy..yeah..they help a lot!
Chemistry for me is a look in the eye, a smile, looks and body language which neither of you are in control of and surprie you both...that...is...lovely!!! Wooohoo!
I'm really nor worried about a car door or having a chair pulled out for me. I prefer that those things aren't done to be honest.
Holding doors open is something I do for people and it's nice when a man does that for you..nicer if he guides you into somewhere with a hand gently touching your lower back (not too low boys! )
One guy I went out with always used to let a door go once he had walked through it and when walking in front of me so yeah..I do appreciate the door thing!
I know..that was one of my mistakes in my longest relationship to be honest which is why I don't do it anymore and make it a point not to...it can be nerve wracking sometimes but much better than dwelling on a worry as usually it's over and done with once it's spoken about and things are explained.
The thing is that everyone has flaws and it's whether or not those flaws outweigh how you feel about that person. One past relationship I had it became so that I couldn't say anything that was a problem as the communication just died so any small thing became a relationship breaker..which was just ridiculous. Communication and accepting that you might have assumed something or might be in the wrong over something is what counts and most things can be sorted out and never even thought of again. Most arguements are over silly things which don't matter or are because someone has assumed something - doesn't mean it's right though.
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RE: Im still waiting for my princess
Try not to look to hard.Good things come to those who wait.
I wouldn't know what to think if someone who seemed so good fell in my lap.
Part of finding someone is accepting the good bits and the not so good bits.The bits which 'don't fit' into your 'ideal'.
Keeping an open mind is always a good thing in all you do.