I'm with you on that OP, since leaving an ltr 5 years ago I've met a few guys like that. One guy couldn't cope with me ever being busy (having to do things like eat etc) and not having time to text/talk/mail all the time..needless to say teh relationship didn't last long!
No, but then I just take each day as it comes. I see being in a relationship as fun. I don't think relationships last like they used to and sometimes the 'working on' a relationship can just make you unhappy. Comparing being unhappy in a relationship to knowing that I've always been a happy singleton..well..who wants to be unhappy. I wouldn't set too much stock in a relationship until it's totally committed and I witness signs of that from myself and from him. Without any of that being VERY apparent (or with signals that he and or I are not totally committed) then it's just fun while it lasts an while each of us wants to be there. I don't NEED a relationship, I want one yes but he's gotta be a very good man and good to me for anything to come from it.
Yes it can be very very tiny rupture which can leak over a period of hours/days. My dad suffered an aortic anurism. If it bursts..it is fatal whether it be in the brain or the aorta.
Doc, I haven't read your original thread but I know just how badly the body can suffer from an anurism. It's not just the brain at all and other organs are also affected prior to any road to recovery.
My dad was 69 when he had his aortic anurism, you are just 37..I can't imagine how shocking this must have been for you and your family.
When my dad had his op on the day he was rushed in they told us that it was the most major operation they dealt with in that hospital. His care was second to none. It amazed me what they did for him..s I am sure you are also quite amazed. You have a while to go with your recovery and some things may not be the way they always were..but your body is there for you and is fighting the best it can.
All the best to you... Keep your spirits up, believe in your body and you'll get there.
By being there if he needs me. Checking he is alright. Listening to him. Leaving him be when he needs space. Being encouraging and supportive. Showing him affection. Being straight with him so that he is not left wondering what I mean. Being thoughtful over the little things like making sure that there's milk in the house for his coffee and not texting or calling when I know he is busy or is relaxing after busy day. Making sure he knows I appreciate things that he does for me. Taking the time to think and communicate if ever there is a disagreement. Making sure he knows he's wanted..(at least I hope I manage that). Taking him to bed...
Telling him I love him and miss him when he's not around.
I wasn't with the man with the disability for very long. It was only about three weeks and he told me that he was married...I had absolutely no idea. Luckily I hadn't got involved in any way and once I knew he was married I was gone..no way could I do that.
I don't manage or control it. It's more about just believing in yourself. Compliments are nice and lovely to receive but compliments usually tend to be from those who are biased towards you.. If you actually do the best you can do and like yourself then you don't have a 'need' to rely on others compliments to make you feel alright.
The reverse of that..if someone is nasty to you or about you then treat that just the same..they could be having a bad day and taking it out on you. If they don't liek you as a person..well..they are entitled to. No one can expect to get everyone's approval..and none of us should strive for it or need it.
As long as you are happy with who you are the thoughts which others have about you shouldn't really affect you either way very much.
He is sarcastic and funny. He is intelligent. He cares about me and his friends and family. He is kind and sweet to me and also respects that I have opinions which may not match his. He is great is bed. He is fun to be with. He makes me feel like he wants me around and wants to be around me. He is happy for me to have my life as I am happy for him to have his life.
In all fairness..cos sometimes things happen and we can all lose some control sometimes...
Are you very stressed by a particular situation? I've been stressed enough by outside situations in the past where I have realised that I probably should not be at work and need to be elsewhere sorting out whatever the problem is.
Very well put! Your last sentence there is the one which is the most important. What's that saying 'If you don't ask you don't get'. ?? But if you don't listen nor share then you can completely miss out on things which can bring happiness to both parties...more often than not it's the very seemingly insignificant things which aren't listened to and aren't shared by both men nd women alike.
I'm sure you can put that into words better than I can. You write some very concise posts!
Admittedly I honestly hoped that my questions above were simple enough but perhaps they were not. Your post has baffled me completely. I am certainly interested in finding out more about this. I don't know what I might gain from mailing you...would you be willing to enlighten me in 'idiot guide' terms in an email? If so then I will mail you with the words 'please explain'...or you may mail me..either is fine.
Your meanings about what you practise are getting lost in words and 'spiritualness I feel. Very flamboyant...but..also..very discombobulating to a mere mortal such as myself.
Of course it is. A woman should feel free to marry whatever race or religion she wishes to. I understand that it's 'required that should a non-muslim choose to marry a muslim they change their religion though??? I'm unsure if that is true or not. Please correct me if I am wrong.
I know several happily married Muslims.
If you are talking from a perspective of a request to marry in a first email on here though...well a woman may well have a few doubts about that..
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RE: It's not just women!... Is it? haha
I'm with you on that OP, since leaving an ltr 5 years ago I've met a few guys like that.One guy couldn't cope with me ever being busy (having to do things like eat etc) and not having time to text/talk/mail all the time..needless to say teh relationship didn't last long!